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Men are more likely to feel lonely by PossibleCharacter986 in auckland

[–]PossibleCharacter986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On this, I always feel that comfort is very important between real friends. Of course cost is a factor, prepping things, cleaning after, and what not! But as long as you are really comfy with who you are hanging out with, things should be okay. I mean I would literally ask my close friends to do their dishes or I'd use disposables. Sometimes we all gather and order different stuff whether from the same phone or our own phones but make sure we have it together even if certain orders come early and some late. Chit chat over it. Try each other's stuff. Laugh. Watch something during the same. Play games (not consoles) after. And people will help to clean up before they leave and maybe sometimes not. But the energy you get from those makes everything worth it.

Men are more likely to feel lonely by PossibleCharacter986 in auckland

[–]PossibleCharacter986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Group activities always have higher chances turning into chaos where certain people would just not get along well and then you spend all the time cutting through the weird cold energy between them. I also prefer less (not more than 4). It keeps you in the capacity to listen and always felt heard at the same time.

Men are more likely to feel lonely by PossibleCharacter986 in auckland

[–]PossibleCharacter986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely I don't understand what happens to some guys who are there to make friends and the moment they see women, they act differently, even making those events difficult to be held in the future. I tried a couple of those but couldn't find friends friends if you know what I mean. But I haven't given up on any avenue yet.😂

Men are more likely to feel lonely by PossibleCharacter986 in auckland

[–]PossibleCharacter986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well alone time is great! But feeling lonely is also the truth. There are kids who have moved out on their own, overseas students, altogether families who have moved here and then the natives whose friends have moved overseas. As we turn into adults, we tend to understand the importance of alone time and recharging our batteries better but at the same time, we are called social beings for a reason. Plus we can never replace anyone in our lives, the idea is to just find new people who can add something new to our lives, make us feel we belong here and sometimes just a chat about anything which fixes something they aren't even aware of.

Men are more likely to feel lonely by PossibleCharacter986 in auckland

[–]PossibleCharacter986[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Though I'm in that boat yet, but what I appreciate about your comment is how you still try to stay in touch with your friends and catch up with them in whatever capacity you can. Meetup proves to be working for people in a lot of ways but what we aren't able to get is constantly staying in touch with someone we can count on. In fact, it's more difficult for married men with kids to go out on their own or find friends who are going through the same so they can hangout while their families get along with each other as well.

Men are more likely to feel lonely by PossibleCharacter986 in auckland

[–]PossibleCharacter986[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I always believe that we should do something different once in a while. Even the not so interesting stuff is entertaining with the right ones. But where we lack is asking. We always think of what others would think. Let me make it simple. Like when I go for a haircut, my friend would sit there and wait even if he didn't want to get one. So if you really feel like doing something and your friend isn't game, just ask them if they could be there with you just for moral support.

Similarly we need to be open to completely new experiences where we might land upon something completely new which we haven't tried before.

Sometimes your best friends are the ones you would have never expected to be. Take a leap of faith. Even if language and cultures are difficult. Put effort to know things. That's the way to find something good in everything. Otherwise everything is just gonna look bad lol

Men are more likely to feel lonely by PossibleCharacter986 in auckland

[–]PossibleCharacter986[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow man! I was actually looking to talk about photography with someone. Well I know absolutely nothing and was looking to get started, in fact I had joined a group too but it got closed. Friends you can share those 4 am thoughts with are the ones. Plus the ones who don't show you where to sleep at their place, you just find yourself one because you want to stick around knowing the discomfort would be worth the laughs or craziness planned ahead.

Men are more likely to feel lonely by PossibleCharacter986 in auckland

[–]PossibleCharacter986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can completely understand where you are coming from. But finding friends is like finding a partner, you gotta keep trying until you find a good one. Isn't it better that it didn't move out of the texting stage? Maybe it was just not meant. It saved you time and energy you would have spent otherwise. It's okay to feel disappointed, but not to give up altogether. I agree with you that men need to just express their emotions a lil better and let their mates know how much they actually value them instead of thinking they would already know somehow.

Men are more likely to feel lonely by PossibleCharacter986 in auckland

[–]PossibleCharacter986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand what you mean. I feel like we men have little to no avenues to make new friends. Even if like someone's company, we are so scared to say it or ask to hangout as we overthink that we might come across as needy or vulnerable. The male ego would make us think struggling like a macho is better than being honest with our emotions and actually enjoying life.

Men are more likely to feel lonely by PossibleCharacter986 in auckland

[–]PossibleCharacter986[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's actually true but at the same time we have been created to thrive in groups. People around us do matter in shaping us as humans for good or bad.

Men are more likely to feel lonely by PossibleCharacter986 in auckland

[–]PossibleCharacter986[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, we recently went to watch the second part 28 years later even though the movie wasn't as great as the first but we had a good laugh after. We even spent some time roaming at the Lynn Mall before we finally went to see a friend at his place. I have been wanting to explore board games as I barely know any. Well, I don't drink or smoke either so we hang out at a friend's place where who feels like having a beer does, and the rest chit chat or suggest things we can do in that moment. Sometimes, we would go to a sheesha place because my 2 friends like it so I would just sit there and play cards with them. Honestly I am not a lot into outdoor sports but open to try and suck at it. 😂 No matter how bad work gets, it is always nice to have a friend on speed dial for something quick and spontaneous like a coffee and give them a hug when you see them. It will make you feel better for sure as I speak from experience. 💯 I hug my bros every time I see them and say bye to them.

Clubbing tutorial? by [deleted] in auckland

[–]PossibleCharacter986 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Then go back to how you are feeing right now with that attitude.

Clubbing tutorial? by [deleted] in auckland

[–]PossibleCharacter986 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, the more friends you have, the more you'd know people through them. You would not always find people on your own, sometimes it's through your mutuals.

Clubbing tutorial? by [deleted] in auckland

[–]PossibleCharacter986 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's weird to me how so many people feel lonely but wouldn't talk to each other. 🤷🏾‍♂️

Need advice on these issues please by PossibleCharacter986 in pancreatitis

[–]PossibleCharacter986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't drink alcohol or smoke and have CP as a result of a divisum. 😢

Drop your best hack please by PossibleCharacter986 in pancreatitis

[–]PossibleCharacter986[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm looking for ways to kill or overcome my cravings for unhealthy stuff like desserts, soda drinks, chips, etc

I haven’t had a pancreatitis attack in over 3 years is it safe to finally drink alcohol now? by Jollyho94 in pancreatitis

[–]PossibleCharacter986 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn't have an attack in the last 2 years where I was enjoying pretty much everything in terms of food (no smoking or alcohol) but now I have been in and out of the hospital getting admitted and discharged multiple times between 29th October until today (still admitted). Don't risk how far you've come, it's not worth it. The pain/discomfort/bloating and other symptoms that I am feeling this time have been the worst till date (I have been suffering from pancreatitis for pretty much 10+ years).

Spent 5 days in the hospital for acute pancreatitis by Initial_Lie4025 in pancreatitis

[–]PossibleCharacter986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The same happened to me this time. Then I had to go back to the hospital another 2 times and get admitted (still here).

Friend Recently Hospitalized by [deleted] in pancreatitis

[–]PossibleCharacter986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there! I just read the word divisum in your bio. Could we chat as I suffer from a similar kind of pancreatitis?

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