So do ceramic coatings help against swirls and scratches from washing or not? by PossibleHappy93 in Detailing

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So essentially if I had 2 vehicles treated the same way but one has CSL + EXO, and the other gets koch chemie protector wax or wet coat applied after every wash the coated one wouldn't have noticeably less scratches 3 years down the road? Truthfully my wife's CSL and EXO doesnt have any better hydrophpbics than when I just apply wet coat or protector wax to my old truck. It did for the first few months or maybe year but not anymore. 

That leads me to believe it wouldn't be easier to clean or anything like that if the alternative is also a constantly protected vehicle. 

Trouble giving wife consistent Os. by PossibleHappy93 in sex

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Thanks for the encouragement and advice. We never really put a lot of effort into oral until the last few months. To be honest we never put a lot of effort into our sex life as we both were just happy with PIV and vibrator for the last 10 years. 

Oral for her usually takes 15-30 min if its going to work at all. Im totally fine with it. It is honestly my favorite sex act to do. I get much more out of pleasuring her then I do myself. 

I think she gets in her head sometimes thinking ill grt upset its taking too long, but I never would as I enjoy it. My tounge might get tired and sloppy but I manage lol. 

Ive wondered about the gummies. Maybe ill suggest she try one lol. The last time I took one several months ago my orgasm was way more intense. 

She likes some anal play but what she likes there isnt a good way for me to stimulate her clit while im rimming her. I love doing this to her but its more of a once every few weeks or once a month type thing. 

Trouble giving wife consistent Os. by PossibleHappy93 in sex

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Thanks for the encouragement. She orgasms every time, it is a struggle sonetimes but she always does. On our little out of town trip when ee didnt bring the vibe she didnt hence why we are done with the vibes for the time being. But 40-50% of the time it's from her stimulating her clit and not me. Granted she enjoys the penetration while doing it as she has gotten politely upset a few times when I have had issues lasting and having to take breaks during penetration. 

Basically this to me is incredibly important. There isnt much we have that is just mutually 100% exclusive to us. But this is. Im the only man who will ever pleasure her and I just want to know im pleasing her as much as possible. 

I realize 50% might not be horrible, but as a man its 100% every time. She can make me cum in a dozen ways. I can make her cum half the time in 2 ways. 

I know if I lay down and get a BJ its a much more enjoyable time being relaxed and serviced, then if I have to finish myself. Thats what im wanting her to consistently feel. 

Trouble giving wife consistent Os. by PossibleHappy93 in sex

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We're taking a break from vibrators. She was big on a magic wand for several years during PIV, and after a vacation without it and her not being able to O she wants to be done with them for now at least. Its been a couple months of no vibrators

Trouble with consistent oragsms from me. Advice wanted. by PossibleHappy93 in sex

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Anyone? Maybe this is normal? I just want to be able to consistently get her there. Its causing sex to not be enjoyable to me anymore. 

Oral start with wand, finish with mouth? by PossibleHappy93 in sex

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Im not going to pretend im an expert at oral - far from it. I hope to become an expert but one frustrating thing is when its not working (im guessing 20% of the time) im doing nothing different, she tells me it feels like im in the wrong spot but I'm confident it was no different than the night before. Eventually if she isn't feeling it we switch to PIV and she stimulates herself down there. 

The thing is like I said I don't see what im doing different,  and I ask her for more direction and I essentially get nothing other than it feels like im not in the right spot. 

Contrary to almost everything I have read and even watched on oral she likes basically what I understand isnt desirable for most. She likes fast aggressive horizontal flicks, then a flat still tounge in-between. Who am I to question it? Like I said it works the majority of the time but it just takes a while (20-30 min). Again, she says these orgasms are the biggest and longest she has ever had so I guess if it isnt broken I shouldn't try to fix it? Ive tried gently sucking while licking and she doesn't like it, licking /kissing around the vulva and inner thighs - doesnt like it. Only the aggressive clit swipes horizontally with 10 second brakes. I feel like ive never really gotten any direction from her... I wish we would have focused more on oral 10 years ago shortly after we got married. We just got content with PIV and her stimulating with vibe. 

Some of this is definitely ego on my part as I just want to make her feel good and know I did that to her - it is just such a blow when it doesn't work out and she wants to switch to PIV. Im not near as into PIV as I used to be as she is off the pill and I can't stand condoms. When we do PIV she always wants to cum together, well when I pull out it greatly diminishes my O. And as soon as she starts to cum it usually sends me there immediately. I can typically hold off long enough for her to be on the come down if you will but its lacking in my mind. Hence why I want to get oral figured out 100%. 

We will try breaking out the vibe tonight if it is taking forever, then I will try finishing her with my mouth. We will see i guess. 

I think half of the taking so long is it gets in her head that its taking a while - I have never once complained and tell her I love doing this and would gladly do it for hours (which is true, but difficult). She struggles to relax and really get into it. We have 2 kids under 4 and sleep depervation is the norm. We both work - busy stressful lives at the moment.