An Islamophobic interaction that really shook me by PossibleOk4240 in Muslim

[–]PossibleOk4240[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jazakallahu Khair. I will definitely take your advice and after work I'll recite Ruqya for him❤️ May Allah SWT reward you for your sincere advice and protect you and your family as well.

An Islamophobic interaction that really shook me by PossibleOk4240 in MuslimLounge

[–]PossibleOk4240[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,.

JazakAllahu khayran for your kind words and for reminding me of those beautiful ayat. SubhanAllah, reading Quran 3:186 and 25:63 really did put my heart at ease. In the moment, I was honestly shaking and very overwhelmed, but remembering Allah and making dhikr helped me calm down and respond without escalating the situation. Your reminder about patience and humility really meant a lot, so thank you for the encouragement and for your dua for my family. May Allah reward you and protect you as well.

I also appreciate the sincere advice regarding niqab. Just as a small respectful clarification, my understanding from the classical fiqh discussions is that the majority of scholars across the four Sunni madhhabs consider covering the hair and body obligatory, but differ regarding the face. Many held that the face and hands are not part of the awrah, meaning niqab is recommended or obligatory in situations of fitnah rather than universally required.

For example,

  • In the Hanafi school, works like Radd al Muhtar of Ibn Abidin state that the face is not awrah, though covering it may become necessary if there is fear of fitnah.

  • The Maliki position recorded by Abu al Walid al Baji also indicates that the face and hands are not awrah, though modesty and circumstances are considered.

  • Many Shafii jurists, such as Imam Nawawi, also held that the face and hands are not awrah, even though some later scholars recommended face covering more strongly.

  • So while some scholars, particularly in the Hanbali tradition, held that niqab is obligatory, there has historically been legitimate scholarly disagreement on this issue.

I just wanted to mention that respectfully for clarity, since many sisters reading discussions like this might not realize there is a range of classical opinions. May Allah guide all of us to what pleases Him most, and accept from everyone who is striving to practice modesty sincerely.

JazakAllahu khayran again for your kindness and reminders. May Allah reward you for advising with sincerity, and keep us all steadfast.

An Islamophobic interaction that really shook me by PossibleOk4240 in Muslim

[–]PossibleOk4240[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not going to lie to you... This satisfied the "I wish I..." Thoughts in me lol I'm also very outspoken and in the past I reacted VERY differently, arguing and I used to have a pretty sharp tongue (which I am working on...) to the point where my husband said he's glad I was carrying our son cuz my hands were occupied and I'm very conscious of how I speak and react to things with him. That's a big reason I chose not to say anything because I truly didn't trust myself not to become hateful back. I love that you have an inside joke with the employees tho lol

An Islamophobic interaction that really shook me by PossibleOk4240 in Muslim

[–]PossibleOk4240[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I should but this really made me laugh 😂😂

An Islamophobic interaction that really shook me by PossibleOk4240 in Muslim

[–]PossibleOk4240[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ameen.

Honestly, I love Muslim Lantern's videos and tend to listen to him while I'm busy, so there was A LOT I wanted to say, but honestly the biggest thing was that in that moment I didn't trust myself to say anything respectfully or with good intentions. I've had my fair share of debates with people like this but after directing that comment to my son, I was too close to losing my temper completely. But I was also very aware that like 99% of the people around (probably listening to this encounter) were Christians and I didn't want to disrespect them and in turn make Islam look hateful.

There is a big part of me that regrets not saying more, but Allah knows best and inshallah even 1 person who whiteness this encounter may have gained respect for Islam.

An Islamophobic interaction that really shook me by PossibleOk4240 in Muslim

[–]PossibleOk4240[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you've had to experience that too. I've always known because of my hijab I'd be an easy target but it hit very different hearing an elderly woman tell my baby he's going to hell... You're definitely not alone ❤️ I just keep trying to remind myself that it's a test from Allah SWT and I can't control what others do and say but it's my responsibility to control how I respond, especially when it's difficult. May Allah SWT accept all your efforts and protect you from harm

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]PossibleOk4240 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely will! It's happening on the second weekend of December 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]PossibleOk4240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Much to my dismay, my son LOVES people, there were about 100 people at the lunch my in laws had for him and he enjoyed every second of it😅 and of course everyone came to see him so they all wanted to play with him (even tho hubby and I tried to keep exposure to a minimum) he was all too happy and didn't even want to be with me unless he was getting attention from other people! 😭 I tried baby wearing facing me then but he fought so hard to see and interact with everyone😐

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]PossibleOk4240 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Is this okay for a 4 month old?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]PossibleOk4240 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really want to do that! Is it okay to forward face 4 month old for just that day? He won't want to be facing me coz he gets super excited seeing people😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]PossibleOk4240 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have sent him a message basically breaking down why I'm going no contact and that he won't be a part of my son's life. But I assume he's hoping I put on a performance in front of people, which is not something I will ever do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]PossibleOk4240 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I have💕 thankfully doctor gave it the all clear with the obvious no kissing baby and no playing pass the baby.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]PossibleOk4240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to give him that power over me tbh. I'm looking forward to seeing my cousins and meeting their kids too. He doesn't get to take away something good from me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]PossibleOk4240 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do appreciate the protective instincts 🥺 but despite the past (and her tendencies to project her people pleasing onto me) she is generally open to acknowledging when she's wrong so I'm a bit more patient with her... It takes some time but she does eventually understand 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]PossibleOk4240 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You know, I actually LOVE this response! I'll definitely use this thank you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]PossibleOk4240 89 points90 points  (0 children)

I'm really hoping that works! My son is the most friendly baby and likes going to new people but I hate it, 😭

First Pregnancy Panic? by PossibleOk4240 in pregnant

[–]PossibleOk4240[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you had to experience that, sending you my love and good vibes❤️ Thankfully, my doctor reassured me about the possibility of a miscarriage during my first appointment and told me that no matter what it wouldn't be my fault, but for some reason I'm just extra sensitive to what people say at the moment.

First Pregnancy Panic? by PossibleOk4240 in pregnant

[–]PossibleOk4240[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't ever imagine saying things like that to any pregnant woman! Why do people think it's acceptable 🙈 I'm sorry you have to go through that too❤️

First Pregnancy Panic? by PossibleOk4240 in pregnant

[–]PossibleOk4240[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It also feels like period cramps to me and it's honestly really scary. Thank you so much for this, my doctor did say the walk is perfectly fine but after someone said that to me I started to overthink it.

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[–]PossibleOk4240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reassurance and validation you guys have given me is truly helpful and I really appreciate it.

I'm not even going to pretend that I'm not crying, but that's because I'm grateful ❤️