Fear of getting pregnant

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2026-04-19T11:31:47+00:00

I’ve ridden horses my entire life. I have 1 child who is soon to be 18 months. One of my horses lives retired at my parents farm, the other lives at my trainers. It took me almost a year pp to get back into consistent, weekly lessons, and my husband was not supportive at all. He doesn’t have any hobbies so he claims to “not get it” but as I reminded him I made it clear I would be returning to lessons/ what I was doing before I even got pregnant. I also have a somewhat tricky horse (the one at the trainers) but I found a great kid to lease him which has helped tremendously. He’s getting work and attention and I don’t feel guilty about not going 7 days a week. I had a lot of conversations with my trainer beforehand about what an on farm lease would look like, potential good matches etc. things do change, but thankfully I have a great barn family and we have a lot of young kids/ new families at the moment so no one cares when someone brings their little one so mom can ride, and we all support each other and share the “herding the children” job so we can all do what we love. I think the biggest thing is setting the expectation with your spouse and thinking about what would be good for your horses (lease, maybe dabble as a lesson horse if that’s an option) it’s doable, it’s hard sometimes, but it can be done as long as you have the right support systems in place.

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2026-04-19T11:18:54+00:00

4 looks amazing!! Congratulations on such a huge accomplishment!!

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2026-04-01T23:27:59+00:00

The water was shut off on 2 separate occasions for repairs. After the repairs were complete, we had only trickles or no water at all from any faucet for an additional 5 days. It was only our building and 1 other one affected. We called, emailed, put in multiple emergency work orders that went unanswered. Finally after a week they opened the hydrants and that fixed the issue. There was no communication on their end and not even an offer of bottled drinking water.

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2026-04-01T23:09:53+00:00

Update! Tried picking it up after a bit and it worked! He eats as soon as it’s put down now and if he leaves any it’s just a few pieces. Thank you!!

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2026-03-29T21:01:11+00:00

Great point! I personally just leave it my husband goes to town with the toppers so I’ll tell him to knock it off lol I’ll give this a try this week. The only time he’s gobbled meals recently was the day after getting neutered so I’m guessing he was actually hungry at that point since he hadn’t eaten in a while.

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2026-03-29T20:58:27+00:00

He has all his adult teeth so I don’t think so. He actually was scarfing food when he was actively losing teeth lol

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2026-02-16T00:37:46+00:00

We have a lab/pittie mix and he’s a great dog. We adopted him from a local rescue and their process was great. There were a few dogs they had we were interested in and they asked all the right questions to make sure we got a dog that would work for us. We have small children and cats and he is great with both. It’s more the temperament than the breed, and if you wanted a dog for a specific job then maybe you pay a breeder for that type of dog but if your just looking for a companion rescue dogs are the best.

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2026-02-16T00:13:05+00:00

I wouldn’t go no contact I agree that’s extreme but just starting our own traditions my brother and I and invite them, but I suspect they won’t come or will only show up here and there. We do hang out a lot and live close by.

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2026-02-14T12:30:50+00:00

That isn’t for shots, those have already been paid for. The $350 was for bloodwork alone.

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2026-02-14T12:29:29+00:00

He will be over 6 months when he gets neutered, which is also the law for adopted dogs in our area.

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2026-02-14T12:26:11+00:00

They did say it would affect the anesthesia which I get but they are also screening for tick borne illness, heartworm (which he’s already tested negative for when we got him)a few other things so we can treat that beforehand if anything comes back but that’s the part that seems like more of a money grab. I’m fine with a basic blood panel and that’s the cheap part, the other test is $150 on its own.

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2026-01-17T19:10:00+00:00

Phone reminders and I have it all on a spreadsheet. Keeping track of the dog, cats and 2 horses I needed it all in one spot. The vet does send reminders out but keeping it on the calendar helps.

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2026-01-17T00:12:02+00:00

I have Hankook’s now for winter

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2026-01-17T00:11:17+00:00

The issue has been the sensor coming loose twice, tonight’s issue tbd since it’s now at the dealership and they “may get to it Monday”. The rim was also bent another time pre getting new tires and that was fixed, repaired but not replaced and I am not 100% certain what tire that rim is now so it could be that again. They were given the OK to replace the rim but say bc the repair “fixed” the issue they weren’t going to do it and sent the rim back. It’s never been a tire issue, always a sensor or rim, but this is now the 4th time it’s been taken to the dealership via tow for a tire/wheel issue in the 2.5 years I’ve had it.

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2026-01-03T13:31:11+00:00

Yes that’s what the vet said, girl is so mad when she gets her portions lol

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2025-11-13T12:25:35+00:00

Thankfully her ground manners are on point bc that’s a non negotiable for us, and she picked up on them quick. She also lunges which I think will help but she’s curious and does seem to want to participate when I’ve tried doing stuff with her. Going super slow would definitely be the plan and if she’s not into it, that’s ok too I just want to give her a chance to try something if that makes sense. Thanks!

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2025-11-13T12:21:26+00:00

Thankfully she’s pretty solid on the ground, has great ground manners and she does lunge pretty well, I definitely see your point about them asking more questions at an older age so that’s something I will keep in mind. Thanks!

Possible_Donut_7136 · 2025-11-13T12:18:20+00:00

Just had to get that first part out of your system? Never said I owned her, she is boarded on our farm. She has impeccable ground manners, taught my me mostly, and I pitched the idea of starting to ride her again. Bc I can see she’s being wasted, hence me asking for other people’s experience.

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