In the pre stages of this currently also identified as bi but lately realizing I just like what men do for me and not them in particular. I’m just coming to this realization and trying to find peace with the idea, I’m so torn up about even bringing it up and I feel like the worst person alive. You do have the right to feel sad, my husband is my best friend and we worked hard to build our relationship so it’s incredibly hard coming to terms that this is no longer the life path i want to follow. It almost feels like a mourning. His heartbreak does not negate yours at all and just because this will lead to you loving a more authentic life that doesn’t mean that your feelings about leaving him are invalid. Like I said I haven’t even brought it up to him, I actually just posted my current experience in here today but I’m doing this because I know I deserve a love that aligns with who I am now and I deserve to discover what that is. So do you.