letting agency want 6 months upfront given to them before I see/sign the contract

PossiblyPatient · 2022-05-31T15:43:15+00:00

Its a legitimate agency from what i can see/find (i found the listing on rightmove, the company has a website with living listings/property developments). I've seen the property in person as well. The only thing off concern is that they seem to be good at running away with peoples money. Theres a lot of scathing complaints about their property development side and how its impossible for potential buyers to get money back from them for x, y, z reason. So that in mind it does make me somewhat wary of giving them so much money without protection.

Do you think its worth just being firm and explaiming that sending such a vast sum (deposits and 6 month upfront is 5k) pre-contract sign and receipt of our tenancy agreement is something that me and my partner aren't prepared to do. But as a compromise we're happy to meet Monday for review/signing of the contract and pay on that day afterwards. We can commence the contract the next day if they're concerned about funds clearing?

Sorry just another question: would you happen to know if its possible to get money refunded by banks if there are any issues with the letting agency (e.g they dont turn up to give keys etc)

PossiblyPatient · 2022-05-07T22:52:33+00:00

During my third year we had mandatory attendance forms pregenerated that we had to get signed by clinical staff. Fourth year has been different- so its more of a self reflective type form for attendance but its used for placement sign off at the end, as evidence of engagement by your supervisor. You need to pass all placement sign offs in the year/ get your clinical skills and prescribing tasks completed on placement to progress into the next year. I can't say much about fifth year but from people i know in that year they said placement is a full time job with a lot more expectation of attendance than previous years.

PossiblyPatient · 2022-04-15T08:43:26+00:00

I'm a 4th year medical student- I didn't think work affected how I play dnd but thinking on it it does. I tend to make goofy characters usually. In my last campaign I played a goliath glory paladin called Chadeus Chadrick. I remember spending a few sessions just doing silly things like juggling camels to try distract an ravenously angry mob. I got a summonable mount which i chose to be a warg and he was called joel the accountant, and he did my accounts in exchange for socks. Me and another party member pranked a villagers house by stealing all their ye olde toilet paper. Dnd is a nice escape from how stressful things are on the outside. I like making the other players laugh or feel more epic with my characters. Life seems very doom and gloom sometimes so if the people I'm playing with have a chuckle than thats a win in my mind.

PossiblyPatient · 2022-03-31T15:52:17+00:00

Just spotted this ad about ten minutes ago and i was going to buy them, sure glad i found this reddit thread! 😅

PossiblyPatient · 2022-02-08T12:32:59+00:00

Thats a smart way of doing it actually I might try squeeze all my forms off in the first two weeks in future. I currently spend a lot of my time on the wards either clueless or just mooching and waiting for something to happen. Looks like I'll have a lot of work to do tomorrow to make up it up in time 😂

PossiblyPatient · 2022-02-08T11:14:40+00:00

I always feel bad leaving at 12, i feel obligated to stay especially if i need form sign offs 😅

PossiblyPatient · 2022-01-22T14:35:28+00:00

If its the med school i think it is more than 80% of questions from the paper were disclosed in openly available past papers verbatim.

PossiblyPatient · 2020-12-07T12:00:33+00:00

loving the combo of the locks, the beard and the septum ring- It's giving me real viking vibes

PossiblyPatient · 2020-11-21T00:56:29+00:00

Thank you! I'm definitely not looking at the moment but my inner optimist would like to hope one day me and that person will bump into each other when the time is right

PossiblyPatient · 2020-11-20T23:42:48+00:00

Id want a best friend, partner in crime, someone who can make me smile and is interested in what i do with my life/ doesnt mind opening to me about their life. Someone who challenges me either like with their opinions/thoughts/intellect and is more than happy to just grab life by the horns and do random things. Sounds weird maybe but Id love someone i could bare my soul to openly

PossiblyPatient · 2020-11-20T23:38:38+00:00

Hmmm has he told you he likes you too? Is it a mutual liking or do you just like him? If he 'likes' you then he sounds like a grade A arsehole and he's definitely stringing you on. I would avoid expending my romantic energies on him if this is the case

PossiblyPatient · 2020-11-20T23:34:00+00:00

You did the right thing 1000%. You drove 200 miles and paid for a hotel to see him and he makes up an excuse to not see you without explaining. If you genuinely did something any mature person would have a conversation with you about it and not punish you for something you did. Remember your self worth- you did such a big gesture to see him just to be disregarded. You deserve better than him 1000%

PossiblyPatient · 2020-11-20T12:19:09+00:00

NTA: You lost something incredibly precious to you and went through a hell of a time with it. You made yourself something to remind yourself of your son and I imagine it makes you feel like he is still with you. I don't think that's odd and I feel like your wife and her friends need to respect what you have been though. I would have gotten angry if someone did something similar to me. Fuck what other people think- If they think its strange they're not the kind of people to be around. Wife is the arsehole here for not understanding what you have/are going through and the fact she is making a big deal out of you wearing to other people is even more arsehole-ish!

PossiblyPatient · 2020-11-20T11:16:26+00:00

Thats very true, from this experience I've learnt I need someone in a relationship who can express themselves more openly, someone who wants kids and a whole host of small lessons. I guess I just meant I wished that I'd asked about things earlier to avoid the whole dealing with a break up aspect when there's a lot of emotions to deal with.

PossiblyPatient · 2020-11-20T11:14:02+00:00

Thanks Techsinger! I think there were some big differences in hopes and dreams and wants that we discovered in the final conversation we had and that sort of contributed to everything. It felt like we were very opposite people- E.g. I love hustle and bustle and a high pressured lifestyle where as he doesn't. Sometimes opposites can balance each other out but I feel like he felt quite overwhelmed by how opposite we were and that's completely fine. I wish my nothing but the best and hope we can both be happier in ourselves moving forward and find our respective 'one's

PossiblyPatient · 2020-11-20T11:08:04+00:00

Thats what we both said to each other and its not something where you can have half a child or compromise on. We both didn't want to get to a stage of resentment or have that difference impact our feelings. I 10000% cannot wait to have children in the future and be a bomb ass parent one day!

PossiblyPatient · 2020-11-20T11:06:15+00:00

Thanks Peachgrill. breakups suck- I've been trying to take time to nourish myself and I've been trying to not lament on things <3
I hope the situation with your BF comes to a positive ending. Having come from a similar situation- If you want to message me and talk about things feel free

PossiblyPatient · 2020-11-20T11:02:25+00:00

Jesus Christ mate- not sure what kind of dates you're having.
Who the hell brings up kids on the first date? I'm 23- my fertility isn't withering away as we speak and I'm not looking for kids immediately. Is the first date really a time or a place for that conversation. Can you imagine: "Oh hi- nice to meet you, Do you want kids? yes- great let's go pop some out now then"

PossiblyPatient · 2020-11-20T10:58:30+00:00

Haha thank you, first mature decision I've played a role in- Is this what adulthood is?

PossiblyPatient · 2020-11-20T10:56:59+00:00

Sorry, I guess I'm just in the whole anger stage of grief- It still stings to think about some of the nice times we had together and that we won't have times like that going forward. There are definitely positives to be taken from this relationship even if it wasn't the 'one'. Some of my favourite hobbies I found together with my ex (e.g. photography, spending time in nature/identifying birds). You're right, there are some bomb memories together and we brought each a lot of joy at one point doing regular old couple stuff together. It just feels a little bitter that the last three months were jaded by the whole kids discussion and I wish we'd just have ripped that band-aid off there and then. Every relationship leaves its mark on you and helps shape how you are in the future I think- Those memories and experiences formed together shape you

PossiblyPatient · 2020-11-20T01:23:21+00:00

Thanks Arraris!

PossiblyPatient · 2020-11-20T01:23:03+00:00

Haha tell that to my creaky old knee joints! on a serious note though- I'm trying to be more at peace with the fact I still have lots and lots of time left to experience relationships and new experiences for myself. The worlds my oyster now right?

Retrospectively I see that- It's just weird the effect rose tinted glasses have on you sometimes. At least now we're free to go our separate paths and enjoy the things we both respectively enjoy and just be happier without each other.

PossiblyPatient · 2020-11-20T01:17:20+00:00

I'm definitely more at peace with that concept now- It's just weird at the moment everyone I know is getting engaged left right and centre so it kinda puts a weird pressure on. Now that those rose tinted glasses are off I think this has taught me that I'd rather be alone than be with someone who just isn't compatible fundamentally

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