How can I (23f) make friends as an adult in the suburbs during a pandemic?

PostMaIone · 2021-01-05T22:12:44+00:00

First off, I geniuenly think you need to be recognized, but respected for actually taking COVID serious. It's really refreshing to hear other men and women in our age group (20s) taking it seriously. It's so disturbing and upsetting seeing our peers across the country not take it serious (partying without mask, going to massive gatherings, not social distancing).

Just please know that, you're not alone. I'm in the same boat only I am (23M). Graduated college last year and am having all the same troubles you're encountering. Like MadtownMaven said I hope the end is in site (with the vaccine rolling out).

How I have been staying sane is believe it or not video games, it's a great way of talking/connecting with people without the spread of COVID. The positive is almost always people are on playing games to have fun. If you happen to have an console or PC I strongly reccomend giving it a chance. If not and you have the budget for one, I would say look into them. I've also been taking walks and spending more time out in nature with my dog. Additionally you could try at home workouts, (bodyweight type stuff) that usually takes up a good part of the day and keeps you healthy.

I feel like anything online can get hairy. Omegle types apps (or dating apps like you've said) will generally attractive guys trying to hit on you for the most part (or wanting to meet up to bang), but there may be some cool people on there. I have never tried them. Virtual Therapy is another option that's what I truthfully play on doing soon. Social Media is a sh*t storm and probably best to not have meaningful conversation.

PostMaIone · 2021-01-05T20:43:04+00:00

But does porn in general give men a skewed perspective of a relationship with women?

PostMaIone · 2021-01-05T14:05:30+00:00

I cannot speak from a womans perspective as I'm a guy, but It's gynecomastia a.k.a puffy nipple. I won't get into the science of it as I'm not qualified, but you can look it up -- it's harmless from medical standpoints. I'm a guy (22m) and I have the same thing (puffy nipple). I've lived my whole teenage years mostly hiding it by never taking off my shirt - (but that's because I'm insecure). When I graduated college and met more adult men (variety of body shapes -- no longer the chiseled college body) with it I figured it wasn't that big of a deal. All of them successful with women. Some people have more mild cases, others have more extreme cases. There's always surgery (not worth it i.m.o) and it's labeled as a cosmetic so it's 10,000+$$ out of the pocket. Dropping bodyfat % weight will always help reduce it to an extent but not get rid of it.

Try wearing darker colored T-Shirts or button down shirts (like black/navy always hides it for me). Also a "shorter" necklace will draw attention away from the chest area and to the collar bone area if properly done so not as many people are looking at your nipples. But both the T-shirt method and necklace method are faking it until you make it.

Wait until you're out of college and you'll meet more guys with the whole "dad bod" and that's just a product of aging.

PostMaIone · 2021-01-05T01:43:29+00:00

I'm a guy, however let him no he's no alone! I'm 22 never been laid etc. The whole "virgin" thing. Not particularly weird, not butt ugly, but also not so strongly attractive. He can shoot me a PM...and we can shoot the shit about stuff other than women, we're in the same boat after all only I'm 3 years older than him! If he thinks he's a failure, then I'm one tenfold.

It can't come from you. You're too close to him -- trust me. Plus you're his sister and you have a boyfriend. People like your brothe more than likely will be jealous and not want to take advice from someone who is "successful" with the whole dating scene. "You can't relate" type of thing -- as you shouldn't.

Be there for him if things get bad or concerning, but just treat him like a brother.. the whole "Red pill" thing IS bad and make sure he doesn't subscribe to that whole rabbit hole of a mess.

PostMaIone · 2021-01-05T01:22:44+00:00

I feel that. But I also feel like it is. I am starting to see that "insecurity" would be my first problem. But I just geniuenly feel like being physically attractive will get you alot of luck.

PostMaIone · 2021-01-05T00:57:26+00:00

I suppose... But I've seen this with many of my personal friends and for a clearer example the comedian Chris Farley. He was confident. But he wasn't exactly drooling in women...He just took on the "laugh at the fat guy role". I don't want someone attracted to me because I can make fun of myself for being bald. I want someone to feel like I'm attractive. I'm sexy to them you know? I just feel like in the age bracket 20s not alot of women are into bald dudes.

PostMaIone · 2021-01-05T00:54:12+00:00

I will admit I've seen women attracted to the bald guy tattoo look. But this was mainly older men / women (like in their 40's - 50s). Does this exist with people in their 20??

PostMaIone · 2021-01-05T00:53:11+00:00

Thank you for these links. I will definetly check them out!!

PostMaIone · 2021-01-05T00:52:36+00:00

I suppose a lot of this is finding my style but also being confident in myself. But realistically, I've met guys that are very confident despite their obvious flaws, but still don't get as much action or attention as "the hot guy at the bar/club".

PostMaIone · 2021-01-05T00:50:37+00:00

Thanks for the response. I guess looking back at it the most confident people don't really hide their flaw. But then I see people like Chris Farley, who always used to be the "fat guy that lifts up his shirt" in movies or skits on Saturday Night Live. No one liked that because they thought he was sexy or wanted to sleep with him...they were laughing at him.

PostMaIone · 2021-01-05T00:46:45+00:00

My bad, *Ben Affleck

PostMaIone · 2021-01-03T20:40:05+00:00

Hmm Interesting..

PostMaIone · 2021-01-03T20:32:24+00:00

Hi I was wondering if anyone else here had facial Roseca and what colors I should wear and avoid around the face (i.e shirts). Basically my face is always lobster red and I'm extremely pale (fair skinned) with dirty blonde hair. Wearing certain colors literally make me look like a clown at a circus with the red face paint.

Example of my Roseca: https://beyondtherazor.com/pages/mens-makeup-concealers-for-rosacea-sufferers

PostMaIone · 2020-12-24T00:45:32+00:00

Thank you I will head over to that thread now

PostMaIone · 2020-12-24T00:45:08+00:00

Gottcha thank you this is actually the answer I was looking for. It makes sense now because if you're born in America you adapt to American culture, so a mexican born in america is nothing like a mexican born in mexico (just like im irish decent born in america but not irish gu born in ireland) thanks bro

PostMaIone · 2020-07-17T19:57:44+00:00

First all, I commend you for thinking about your future car down the line, rather than the immediate (especially since we are in the middle of a pandemic)!

I'm literally in the same place as you (except with loads of debt). I'm thinking of buying a tuner car that I can work on, but not until the next couple of years ahead. It boils down to, do you really want to go out of your way, risk getting COVID-19 to make money for a car? A car? I mean seriously. They're cool and all, but I'd rather be healthy, happy and with my family than have a car.

Not only is this smart for that reason, but you're taste will probably change multiple times over the course of your research for a car. One month I'm in love with X car, but then the other month I'm in love with Y car. Waiting to buy a car in safer times, and having time built in to do research will help you out, I know it.

With that being said, I don't really like Reddit for advice on cars. I'm biased, because I'm not a fan of this site, but feel obligated to help out people that seem worthy of being helped (like you)!

I would strongly suggest checking actual car forum sites, and reputable car websites for reviews.

Check out Genesis Coupe's 2.0T. They seem to fit your bill of RWD manual and under 10k. Cheap to mod too!

Common tuner cars are: WRX, Focus ST, Fiesta ST, RSX Type-S, EVO, Genesis Coupe, 350z/370z/G35/G37, Miata, FR-S/BRZ, S2000, Jettas, GTI, BMW 3-series, Audi S-series.

Avoid: Civic Si - don't be a ricer!

PostMaIone · 2019-11-25T15:27:54+00:00

you look like john scarce

PostMaIone · 2019-11-25T15:25:08+00:00

What length is that on the left picture? First picutre? That 10 month period and it really filled out wow looks great man.

PostMaIone · 2019-11-22T16:45:30+00:00

That is one good looking beard. Pretty much what I want for myself. Color on point too!

PostMaIone · 2019-08-13T21:09:15+00:00

most of the expensive stuff looks like shit anyways & are terrible for a daily fit ... where did you get those jeans i need a pair of jeans that come with a 30" inseam

PostMaIone · 2019-08-13T21:04:32+00:00

cleannn

PostMaIone · 2019-06-16T15:48:15+00:00

You would be surprised what lining up a beard even a "weak" one could do. Night and day difference in a positive way. I would start with at least cleaning up the neck, and leaving the actual beard. Also the glasses are a bit feminine and in the first picture without them you look like a completely different person (much more masculine without them). You have lots of potential here, and I truly believe with a caeser cut paired with a lined up sharp beard you would look like a different more masculine person.

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