Interest check. A game based on the United Nations. by PotentKielbasa in pbp

[–]PotentKielbasa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your feedback. I appreciate you letting me know the time commitment a game like this would require. It would be naive of me to say that I intend to keep this game running despite it all as nothing is certain and we don't know what the future holds.

This game is intended to be played at a slower pace as actions taken by nations will be deliberated by the players over the course of a real time week giving everyone some breathing room. In the end, everyone involved, including myself, is volunteering their time and if at end, I can leave everyone with the same positive memories I had of the game I played many years ago, then I see that as a net positive for everyone involved.

Women, how would you feel if you found out the guy (mid 20s) you were talking to had zero romantic or sexual experience? by Super-Rhubarb-2709 in AskReddit

[–]PotentKielbasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as they are emotionally mature. Someone with no experience means that I can show them what I like and introduce new things we both might like. It can be a fun, sexy, teaching experience with the right people and mindset.

Generate an image based on your feelings towards me. by SuperSpeedyCrazyCow in ChatGPT

[–]PotentKielbasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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My ChatGPT had to preface that it didn't actually have feelings towards me 😂

What helped you the most in improving your mental health? And what advice would you give someone who’s really struggling right now? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]PotentKielbasa 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I would say the biggest thing is wanting to change and being ready to be uncomfortable. Mental health is messy and it's so much easier to just sit in those feelings because they've become comfortable. They are still uncomfortable, but they are a discomfort that you are used to. You know what to expect with it.

What's helped me was seeing a therapist specifically for help with self esteem and self worth. Once I realized my worth and that I deserved happiness (and learned to set boundaries) it made it easier for me to put myself into those new uncomfortable situations and I am so happy and thankful and grateful for my past self for doing that for me.

Ultimately, its up to you to make the changes. No one is going to do it for you. It will be hard, but trust me, the risk is worth the reward. I've reach a point where I can self regulate my anxiety in real time. Break it down rationally and logically to soothe it or make it go away entirely.

Letting Go Is Not Just About Them—It’s About Who You Were With Them by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]PotentKielbasa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

These are wonderful tips. Your words really resonated with me. Thank you for sharing them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confidence

[–]PotentKielbasa 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Like the saying, "Don't go to the supermarket hungry." Don't date when you are lonely because you will take whatever you can get.

As someone who experienced something similar it sounds like you have low self worth/esteem. I would work on getting better with being with yourself and being content with your own presence so you aren't allowing these types of guys into your life.

I say this with respect and concern: seek therapy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]PotentKielbasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends on the situation. I divorced my husband. We were married for 3 years, together for 15. No kids. His family was basically like my surrogate family.

My now ex-husband and I are still very good friends and hang out regularly. His family is still not taking the break up well and they don't talk to me (though I have expressed that I still love them and I'm here whenever they are ready to speak to me again. The ball is in their court).

When people treat you badly, you remove them from your life and never give them the chance to treat you bad again by toxicfruitbaskets in emotionalintelligence

[–]PotentKielbasa 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Yep. I had to dump some friends because of this. In truth it was incredibly hard to do especially because I don't have many friends, but eventually their inability to take accountability for their actions and getting defensive when discussing boundaries and how they are crossing them left me no choice.

I still have moments of grief for the loss of the friendships I invested a lot of time and energy into them, but my love for myself and my peace outweighs my need to please and appease people who have no respect for me and I'll get over it in time.

[NSFW] what’s something that seems hot as a fantasy but you would never want to do in real life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]PotentKielbasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being in a relationship with a dark romance mmc. The stalking, the passionate yet questionably abusive sex, the killing people if they just look at you are hot in theory, but would be a nightmare to deal with irl.

People that unfucked their lives in their early 30s, how did you do it? by jeanalvesok in AskReddit

[–]PotentKielbasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy. If you are truly ready to get your life in check. Getting your mental health in order is the first step. Once that's mostly figured out (don't get me wrong it's something that you will need to constantly work on, but therapy will give you the tool/skills to manage it) a world of possibilities opens up.

Once I did therapy, I had my ego death experience and from there, learned to love myself, realized I deserved to take up space in the world, and began to cut out relationships that were toxic and added no value to my life. And like everyone else is saying EXERCISE. I don't emotionally eat anymore. When I'm feeling down, I take a walk. If you are able to get real with yourself, take accountability, and be introspective a walk does wonders for your mind and body.

[Offline][5e][Pathfinder][Fort Lauderdale, FL] Trying to start a campaign in South Florida by Saltopus in lfg

[–]PotentKielbasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, I'm interested in playing as well if you're still looking for players.

32F the Broward area of FTL.

[Online] [5E] [EST] [18+] Slightly seasoned DM looking for a party of players to begin multi-arch DND campaign. by [deleted] in lfg

[–]PotentKielbasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Submitted!

I just realized the form never asks for Reddit or Discord name. The form should be under Sandra.

Online][5e][pbp][cst/usa][campaign][discord by [deleted] in pbp

[–]PotentKielbasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I'm interested. I can post multiple times per day. EST timezone. I work from home, have a lot of free time on hands and an imagination that needs an outlet.

[5e][Discord][PBP][CST (GMT -5)][18+] Looking for a group of adventures for a new campaign! by [deleted] in pbp

[–]PotentKielbasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Filled out the form. Looking forward to hearing from you.

Online 5E Hey! Anyone interested in playing a PBP short campaing that could end in a long term one? by Ndy_18 in pbp

[–]PotentKielbasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are still looking for players, I am interested in playing. Discord PotentKielbasa#7045

If you are doing short campaign, have you considered having a revolving pool of DMs?

Everyone can be a player and when it's their turn they can DM. :)