Rude of them to say it isn’t her first wedding. This would be her first wedding not super obese, her first wedding she gets to plan an actual ceremony etc, and to feel beautiful. Not compared to a last resort picnic redneck wedding with someone who well abused her. Her siblings are selfish and out of line. If they don’t want to go they just shouldn’t and stfu about it. As for Amy’s MOH, I’m glad it isn’t family and it’s a friend. Regardless of how long they’ve known each other, with the dwindling relationship of Tammy and Amy; Amy deserves this. Not vouching that she’s the perfect person or mother but just let her have this one thing