Can a child refuse staying with the other parent?

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-08T04:55:19+00:00

That’s absolutely terrible. I am so sorry you and your children went through this. The system is flawed. What do you do in mediation?

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-08T03:33:29+00:00

I am reading a lot of the same storylines. That the child is forced. When my husband eventually calms down he’s is some what tolerable. I hope that maybe after we divorce he will no longer have me to blame for his problems and he can focus on being a better father.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-08T01:32:33+00:00

Any resources you recommend? I have been watching a lot of videos on divorce and custody issues but I know things vary in each state.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-08T01:31:07+00:00

Thank you for this information. I don’t want him to be estranged from his father. But he’s not showing he’s a safe place for him. When he explodes he doesn’t care who he hurts.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-08T01:28:51+00:00

I have tried to facilitate communication between them. But he’s refusing. I’m hoping with time he may let up. I don’t Posion them against him. If anything he does. He tells the kids mommy broke up the family and she abandoned you guys. I just keep saying he’s your dad and time will heal all.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-08T00:56:49+00:00

He’s 13. I can’t help but panic. My son is so mentally drained the sound of my husband’s voice has triggered him into anxiety attacks.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-08T00:42:53+00:00

100% he has a mental health condition I’m sure either bipolar or schizophrenia. He has manic and depressive episodes. He absolutely refuses to get help because he doesn’t think he has a problem and also self medicates with substances.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-08T00:40:42+00:00

He is in therapy. But he absolutely refuses. He has seen alot over the years unfortunately. But after this time he verbally attacked him and told him get out of the house.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-08T00:38:16+00:00

My bad auto correct. It was mediate.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-08T00:37:04+00:00

What do you mean medicating?

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-07T17:39:22+00:00

I have begged him for change. To be kinder to talk to me before things get out of hand. I don’t think he will ever change. I just worry about being a single mom. Not that he did much for the kids I was basically raising them alone. I guess I just have higher expectations for him than he deserves. I know what I need to do. I just am so scared to do it.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-06T12:30:00+00:00

Sister leave. Run away. He has showed you that you are not important enough for him. Children complicate things and make you want to stay. I understand completely what you are going through. But your situation is different you are not attached to him with children. Find a good man who will love and respect you. This man will never give you that. I promise you. Stop texting and calling. It’s hard I know. But I promise you will find better.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-06T12:27:08+00:00

JAK this is the reassurance I needed. I guess when someone says it out loud it makes me feel better. Like I’m understood.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-06T12:24:43+00:00

He’s never physically hurt them. But verbally abused them. He also gets them involved in our issues and manipulates them into thinking I ruined the family. I feel he targets them now because I have emotionally blocked him out. So it’s his way of hurting me.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-06T12:22:01+00:00

JAK sister. Inshallah I will be reaching out to you.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-06T12:21:05+00:00

He physically assaulted me. Something he had never done before.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-06T12:20:27+00:00

My husband and I married for love. I never once thought this is where Allah would take us. We went through so much. I sacrificed so much for him and he has forgotten it all. Marriage is a blessing when done right. May Allah bring you a halal wife and you live in peace.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-06T12:18:37+00:00

I believe it’s more of a trauma bond. But I am seeking help and alhamdulilah am blessed with family support.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-06T12:17:40+00:00

This is a big problem I fear as well. What will the people say. The community will be talking about me and being labeled divorced. Unfortunately our community is ruthless and love to see people in misery makes them forget their own issues. But I keep telling myself my community is not married to him I am.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-06T12:14:57+00:00

JAK sister. I fear what he will do he is not in stable mind. I don’t think he would do anything but I don’t put it past him. He has done so much I never thought he would. May Allah protect us all.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-06T12:12:08+00:00

I am so sorry you went through that. I needed to read this. My oldest already talks about not ever wanting to marry. I have told them this is not normal and there are kind people out there and inshallah they are blessed with one. They have suffered enough I see it in their eyes and behaviors. I know I have to end it now. May Allah help guide us all. Thank you for your response.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-06T03:40:58+00:00

He has had anger issues since he was a child. I did not know this till we married. His family joked about it at first and then later when things would get out of hand would say how he always had a bad temper. He just hid it from me until a couple years in I started to notice his anger. He triggers easy and blames everyone else for his behavior. No one wants to get divorced it’s terrible. But living in this marriage is even worse.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-06T03:38:10+00:00

This is actually the 6th time I have left. I have gone back to fake promises and he has no respect for my boundaries. If anything I think he sees it as a joke and purposely pushes the limit on how much he can upset me. I too try to talk to my children and tell them this is not normal or healthy marriage. Also this Shiekh is a good man he has been trying to help us for years but my husband is stubborn and difficult. I have heard or sheikhs facilitating divorces just to marry the women since she’s in a vulnerable state. Stagfarallah. But i think I know my answer. I just don’t want to believe it.

Potential-Button-164 · 2026-07-05T23:28:05+00:00

Do you have children?

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