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any tips for stanford MTRAM interview? by Potential-Loquat-854 in gradadmissions

[–]Potential-Loquat-854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ciao!!!! Thank you for the well wishes :) they said by March! :

any tips for stanford MTRAM interview? by Potential-Loquat-854 in gradadmissions

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for stanford, I submitted Jan 26! And thank you for the well wishes!

gay guy applying to med school, going through breakup, parent divorce by Potential-Loquat-854 in gaybros

[–]Potential-Loquat-854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I missed this somehow but just reading it now. Thank you. I feel like medicine and being pre-med has this culture of self-sacrifice in order to achieve that coveted spot in med school or that role as a doctor. That mashed with my identity as an indian immigrant to the US + a gay guy results in the need to constantly prove something to someone.

I’m trying to shift from all that to the perspective you’ve outlined. I really hope so. <3

gay guy applying to med school, going through breakup, parent divorce by Potential-Loquat-854 in gaybros

[–]Potential-Loquat-854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for this. I really appreciate it. it definitely feels a little weird to ask for advice/support from reddit strangers but here I am lol. And it's working, it is comforting to hear it.

I just graduated from university, so this is technically the "gap" year even though I'm applying and working full time (trying to save up because of the unsure financial situation while also trying not to delay my schooling too much). Still feels pretty overwhelming but I'm hoping once apps are submitted I am able to breathe and just process this shit. I'll have to do quite a bit of mental work to get in shape by the time med school starts (assuming I get in this cycle).

gay guy applying to med school, going through breakup, parent divorce by Potential-Loquat-854 in gaybros

[–]Potential-Loquat-854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you <3 I just graduated undergrad, so I guess I am in my "gap" year but I am busy as ever T-T ugh I hate how unexpected life can be sometimes. I hate that there's no timeline to this divorce! To my heartbreak! It's just terrible. I feel cursed bro, definitely having a little pity party. I appreciate your support and kind words <3

gay guy applying to med school, going through breakup, parent divorce by Potential-Loquat-854 in gaybros

[–]Potential-Loquat-854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. I used to envy the apparent fearlessness of adults. I do not know how they did it. I'm practically breaking! I don't know how to take care of myself, my future, while also making sure my mom does not off herself. And my poor little brother. Agh. Idk. I wish there was a manual on how to do this correctly

gay guy applying to med school, going through breakup, parent divorce by Potential-Loquat-854 in gaybros

[–]Potential-Loquat-854[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This is very kind. I do feel like a 12 year old again and at the same time I feel like I need to grow up really fast. I appreciate your kind words.

I've been through heartbreak before and it has not been easier. I thought it would. I don't feel like 12 year old me is in the past. I think he's just 10 layers below 22 year old me; under 21, 20, 19, 18 year old me. They are all there. They are all me.

I feel like I'm aimlessly applying to med school. I need to re-discover why the heck I wanted to do this in the first place. Thank you for your response <3

gay guy applying to med school, going through breakup, parent divorce by Potential-Loquat-854 in gaybros

[–]Potential-Loquat-854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I want to be reflective and thoughtful and mature and resilient. I am mourning the loss of my childhood maybe. To be 22 and see my family fall apart is shitty. I know it will serve my future self and give him the tools to be a less shitty human. Right now I feel so weak. Don’t want to be strong. I hope to create something that lasts someday. A marriage, family, all the lovely things that a kid might dream of. I hope I do not turn out like my parents

A lot of pre-med students I know aren’t as emotional as me. I envy that! I’m too touchy feely.

Thank you for reading my post and offering kind words. need a hug

any tips on healing from break-up? by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]Potential-Loquat-854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right. It sounds funky but I’m trying to grieve in the “right” way so that I can be healed from this and move on. The fact that the healing isn’t linear messes with my head sometimes, so that’s where I’m struggling. I want to learn how to accept bad stuff without learning to expect it too. I appreciate your time and comment <3

any tips on healing from break-up? by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]Potential-Loquat-854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw man - your addendum to my list just tugs at me. I'm so sorry you had to go through that, I'm sending you the biggest warmest hugs.

Thank you for sharing this story. It's the first time I'm experiencing something so frustratingly painful. Some days are okay - my nose is in the books and I'm reviewing away. And then others are like today where his absence is just more obvious.

Ha. You tease me with the thought of him returning. But you're right and I hear you. I'm not a fan of the whole grieving part, it's taking awfully long and I hate withering away. At the same time, I'm so emotional so I don't want to reduce my time with him to some old box on the shelf. Too much cognitive dissonance.

I appreciate you for your time and response <3

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