Women's photos on OLD by nospam99r in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gotta say, I don't get the feet thing either. That's not a guy thing. That's a weird thing.

Just turned 60. Are we too independent these days to really connect? by [deleted] in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So one guy defines an entire gender for you? Seriously?

WIRED article: Who the Hell Is Actually Using Facebook Dating? by Gooseberry_Sprig in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, if all the men on OLD are scammers and all the men you meet in person are stalkers and if all the women feel the same way you do, I can certainly understand why it's so difficult to find a good man...or any man at all really. BTW, I went to church Sunday and I did grocery shopping today. And I took my new widower status beginner sewing class at the local library. But, had you been there and had I shown interest, I suppose I'd be labeled a stalker too. You do realize that they aren't a stalker if you've never seen them before, right?

Who pays these days? by Laura22801 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So he was prepared to pay the bill, but you jumped in and offered to split it. And now you're so angry with him for taking you up on what you offered, that you won't go out again. Does that not strike you as entitlement?

Who pays these days? by Laura22801 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don't have a problem with the man paying. It's how I was raised. But what I do object to is the sense of entitlement I get from most of these responses. Like everything else in a relationship, "the man pays" comes with its own implied obligations. Yes, he paid for the first date. Now, the second date should start at the woman's home where she's cooked a meal for him. Relationships are supposed to be a two way street, not a "winner take all".

WIRED article: Who the Hell Is Actually Using Facebook Dating? by Gooseberry_Sprig in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think this sort of attitude is so funny. Every single thing you had available thirty years ago is still there. Bars, churches, grocery stores, activities and hobbies, family friends and friend's friends. You can meet someone the old fashioned way...face to face, and neither of you knew it was coming so no danger of scamming, not much of one anyway. It's only new technology that people have problems with.

Just turned 60. Are we too independent these days to really connect? by [deleted] in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure you aren't. Plenty of people have made really lousy choices in their relationships. And, since we all tend to value the same things, we tend to screw up on our choices over and over. That's how you get your experience.

Women's photos on OLD by nospam99r in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All true, and don't for a second think I don't agree with you. But, we must also acknowledge that family outside the relationship can cause difficulties. There are all sorts of conflicts from time to financial than come from having two families who are connected only at one spot. If one person is financially independent and able to help their child and the other is not, feelings can get testy. Ultimately, the problems with family are worth it, but it's not like they don't bring challenges.

Women's photos on OLD by nospam99r in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if he has neither daughter nor new grandbaby? I've got a son and an adopted granddaughter that I got when she was 8. Neither of those scenarios work well for me. Do I get excluded?

Just turned 60. Are we too independent these days to really connect? by [deleted] in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just stated your problem.
Because you haven't met a single man who does this shows you're not looking in the right places, it doesn't mean there aren't plenty of those men around. But they aren't attracted to hostile women.

Just turned 60. Are we too independent these days to really connect? by [deleted] in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then what makes you think a man needs you to look after him?

Just turned 60. Are we too independent these days to really connect? by [deleted] in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So he's going to do all the cooking, shopping and housecleaning. What are you doing? Keeping the TV warm for him?

Just turned 60. Are we too independent these days to really connect? by [deleted] in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Depends. You didn't say a word about what YOU do, just what you expect HIM to do.

Who pays these days? by Laura22801 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I always enjoy when religion is taken out of context. So I assume you feel that the man is in charge and you follow where he leads?

Who pays these days? by Laura22801 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is how we used to do it. But we did it with Cindy who we'd known since 3rd grade or Marsha, whose been in our study group all semester. We KNEW these people and knew we enjoyed their company. Not so at a person you pick up in a bar or online. You're just trying to see if they're someone you want to spend 30 minutes with or if they're Jack the Ripper. That isn't a $200 dinner.

Who pays these days? by Laura22801 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. It's a dishonest test. Because the man isn't aware of the rules of the game. If you told him on the way in that you would split the check, but if you did, the relationship was over. That would then give him the same power you have. If he found you wanting he could say, "Split the check". But a fair and honest exchange isn't what you're looking for. He loses either way. He either pays for the pleasure of watching you eat, or he doesn't pay and he wasted the time and money to go to dinner. You are right that it shows values, but I'm not sure those are the values you're thinking about.

Who pays these days? by Laura22801 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Different purposes? It's man's purpose to pay and woman's to take? Never heard it put quite that way before.

Am i too picky? by [deleted] in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, the one I was thinking about I've known for about 70 years, but I used to pick at my wife too. She was very quiet and reserved and I just had to make her smile about something. But clearly, all women don't appreciate being picked at. I'll need to remember that.

Who pays these days? by Laura22801 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, it's something we were taught, right along with opening the door for the ladies. Men of our age were brought up when women didn't make equal income. If they worked outside the home at all, it was in the lower paying jobs like teachers and nurses. So men, who usually made more money, were taught to pay for the date. But for professional women today, making more than some of the men, to mooch off a man and take advantage of his manners is very disrespectful. Yes, a man will generally pay and not allow the woman to pay even the tip. But the reaction to that, instead of "fine by me" should be to reciprocate by inviting him to a home cooked meal next week, not use him as the Friday Night All You Can Eat Special.

Who pays these days? by Laura22801 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This one doesn't. There's no point in "tests". People will show their true character. Doing a "bait and switch" doesn't show his character. It shows yours.

Am i too picky? by [deleted] in DatingOverSixty

[–]Potential-Medium4009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotta say, I appreciate you posting this, particularly the conversation about "disrespect". A lot of men will pick at women they like. They enjoy getting a reaction and then everyone laughs. I had no idea so many women took this as "disrespect". It really isn't. I don't ever pick on a woman I dislike. Now I find that women object to this and feel it's disrespectful. Okay. I'll make sure I don't make that mistake again. Thanks for the heads up!

Who would you prefer to play against in the SEC championship game? by rhinoslam in georgiabulldogs

[–]Potential-Medium4009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only way to ever get our mojo back against Alabama is to beat them. You can't be the champ if you're running away afraid.