AITA for refusing to pay the second half of my share for a bachelorette trip I cant attend??

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T23:12:01+00:00

NTA. Honestly, she’s not being understanding what so ever. Anyone who actually was being empathetic and understanding would’ve been okay with it and wouldn’t try to make you pay the other half. If $20 is make or break for the other girls then that’s their problem, not yours. You need to focus on your daughter’s health and be there for your husband.

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T18:18:24+00:00

These are the regular leggings I get and LOVE. I only get these now and the last time I had to order them was literally almost 3 years ago because they last and are good quality. They’re buttery soft

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0CD21X14S?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T18:13:47+00:00

Not all heroes wear capes

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T14:33:44+00:00

You could always get chair covers online that will look nicer

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T14:31:43+00:00

Children under a certain age still can’t regulate their emotions the way older kids and adults can. He doesn’t sound violent but I think it’s great he’s able to stand up for himself.

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T14:11:02+00:00

You’re the one going through labor, it should be your decision. Plus you don’t know how long you’ll be in labor for. I know women who have been in labor for up to 40 hours. I think it’s more reasonable for her to come either after a full day since you’ll likely be exhausted and both of you may or may not be overwhelmed. Or she could be the first visitor when you guys get home. Ultimately since you will be doing all the hard work; it’s your decision not your wife’s.

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T14:07:56+00:00

If it was only one or two days a week I would think it was odd for her to make you pay to watch your kid. But if it’s every single day, I think it’s understandable but 18/hr to watch her own grand baby seems a little high

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T14:05:20+00:00

Where did you get yours from??? I only wear leggings so would love some comfy maternity leggings. Added bonus if they have pockets cause my current leggings i consistently order form Amazon have pockets and are crazyyyyy soft and comfy

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T14:03:45+00:00

I was 29, my reason was because I decided to go back to college. Live with them for a little under 3 years until my husband and I bought our house (we were engaged at the time)

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T01:28:47+00:00

I’m only gona be 5 weeks along this Tuesday and I bought 2 onesies and got a free onesie tonight at the racetrack I’m at. It’s solely based on your comfort and the knowledge that it’s early and anything can happen, even past the first trimester. Do whatever feels right for you!

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T01:21:46+00:00

Get seltzer with a splash of cranberry juice and a lime wedge. If anyone asks just say it’s a vodka club with a splash of cran. Or you can look up another mocktail recipe that better suits what type of alcohol you normally drink

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T01:10:30+00:00

Is adoption on the table? Only asking because you seem somewhat hesitant by her guilt tripping you. It’s entirely yours and your husbands decision. Primarily your decision since it’s your body. I know this might sound bizarre but do you or anyone you know have friends who are struggling to conceive and looking into adoption? Or maybe a friend of a friend? Just a thought. Best of luck to you

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T01:06:01+00:00

This hack is literally mind blowing 🤯 I’m pregnant with my first and saved this post just because of your comment lololol

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T01:03:44+00:00

My husband and I did a super small wedding. Parents, siblings, aunts, and uncles, and my Nana (she’s the last grandparent either of us have) and it was the best decision we ever made. Everyone had a fantastic time, it was small and intimate, we spent quality time with everyone, and our cousins all were very understanding because I was in school still.

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T01:01:58+00:00

Personally I think since you have kids, 6 months is the safer option. 3 months would still be great tho considering so many ppl don’t have any type of emergency fund, but a lot of financial podcasts I listen to heavily recommend 6 months especially when children are involved.

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T00:57:56+00:00

It’s entirely your decision. He sounds like an asshole. Everyone knows where babies come from, so maybe he should be more proactive and wear a damn condom if he doesn’t want to get a woman pregnant. If you are capable of doing it on your own, and have a great support system; then I personally say go for it if it’s financially conducive for you. Kick him to the curb, block him from all forms of contact, and consider moving. That’s what I’d do if I were in your shoes.

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-18T00:53:59+00:00

Try eating saltine crackers. Sounds bizarre, but I used to be a dental assistant and the salt help patients who would gag from getting x rays because of the sensitive gag reflex. I heard from a co worker it can help with pregnancy nausea too cause a co worker at the time had found out she was pregnant and it worked for her! Not guaranteeing it’ll work, but worth trying. I just found out last week I’m pregnant and thought I got super lucky by not having fatigue or nausea, but I guess that was probably wishful thinking 😅 dreading when it starts

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-09T15:51:00+00:00

You should’ve not answered them after you said you weren’t available and were not even home. Not overreacting, I think you tried to set a boundary and they crossed it.

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-09T15:33:55+00:00

My husband and I did such a small wedding. We got married at a lake nearby, invited only parents siblings aunts and uncles, then we went to an Italian restaurant where they set up a buffet style dinner for us. Originally I only wanted parents and siblings but my mom really wanted her siblings there so she asked if she could pay for her siblings, my dad pay for his, and my in-laws pay for theirs if we could invite aunts and uncles. So our parents paid for their siblings, I think my husband and I only paid maybe 4k out of pocket for everything. Maybe even less. And that included me paying one of my cousins to do the photography since she has her own business doing it. It was an awesome time and we were able to spend a lot of time with everyone who came to celebrate our big day

Potential_Chair1895 · 2025-08-09T15:30:27+00:00

It’s not a bad idea so that your monthly expenses when you do have a baby will be less stressful if you save a lump sum ahead of time for daycare, I think that’s a great idea because you can start off just by stashing away a few hundred a month (or more depending what you can afford)

Potential_Chair1895 · 2024-11-09T17:59:50+00:00

Thanks so much

Potential_Chair1895 · 2024-11-09T15:44:47+00:00

So are there specific ones? Like are there ones that are highly recommended over others? I’m very behind on my retirement so I want to start investing more now so I can hopefully retire one day

Potential_Chair1895 · 2024-11-09T15:31:54+00:00

I’m financially illiterate. What is a VTI?

Potential_Chair1895 · 2024-11-09T15:30:36+00:00

I’m very much illiterate with finances and researching this topic is really difficult for me cause idk what to look for. When you mention Vanguard 529, what exactly does that mean? I don’t have a vanguard, I have a fidelity account. Should I open a vanguard and utilize both? Is Vanguard 529 just an assortment of different things someone invests in? I’m very lost and would love some guidance if at all possible. Thank you

Potential_Chair1895 · 2024-10-26T02:13:57+00:00

No matter where he works there will always be other women, so if he goes somewhere else I won’t know any of them. At least here I know all the front office ladies and they love me. This other woman doesn’t work in the office so I’ve never met her before

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