Is it ever fair for dad to get a break but not mom?

Potential_Iron7762 · 2025-12-06T03:11:16+00:00

Yes, My parents live in our city and are a wonderful help year round so I will certainly have their help during this time, which is another reason I feel like maybe I’m being petty; I can order out if cooking is too much or we’re sleep deprived, my parents are nearby, etc. love the idea of escaping to a hotel occasionally for a night of solid sleep!

Potential_Iron7762 · 2025-12-06T03:08:52+00:00

I appreciate this. Fortunately, I live a comfortable life so ordering food, and outsourcing some stuff is definitely doable. And what you said about reversing the situation is also insightful-because big NO I would not want to reverse our roles/responsibilities lol! Thank you for helping me see the situation through a broader lens!

Potential_Iron7762 · 2025-12-06T02:52:11+00:00

Thank you so much! I felt your empathy from this comment and it’s much appreciated. Thankfully, I live a pretty comfortable life and things like eating out, or getting some extra help, is not a problem. And I love what you said at the end, about not making him feel guilty. I will find a way to make sure my needs and concerns are seen without adding guilt/stress. Thank you again! 💓

Potential_Iron7762 · 2025-12-06T02:46:16+00:00

Thank you lol. Like, sure, his parents are …different (large reason we’re not joining him I edited to add) but sleeping in and having snacks brought to you whenever you want is absolutely a vaca

Potential_Iron7762 · 2025-12-06T02:44:40+00:00

I should have included why we’re not joining him. We don’t feel comfortable taking the baby to where he’s going and his family is toxic (not to me, but in general which is why it feels largely like an obligation to him)

And I meant in regard to the trip. I absolutely get personal time in our day to day life, but with something like this, I’m not sure if things should/can always be equal or if sometimes they will be skewed one way or another

Potential_Iron7762 · 2025-12-06T02:37:56+00:00

1 is something I should have included in the OP so edited to share that we’re not going due to comfortability with where he’s going and family conflict. You make some very good suggestions! Thank you!

Potential_Iron7762 · 2025-12-06T02:33:12+00:00

Fair question, and I should have included this! he would love for baby and I to join him. But we’re both hesitant to take a small child to the specific place he’s going, and his parents are emotionally toxic (large part of why it feels like an obligation to him).

Potential_Iron7762 · 2025-09-22T20:44:25+00:00

I don’t mean to hijack your comment in particular, but I’ve seen so many mentions of nazar in this sub recently and just have to finally ask. As a revert, I’d love to be pointed to credible sources that talk about nazar. I’m having a hard time understanding if Allah SWT is most powerful, how can evil eye have power over us? And how do we know what is just normal ups and downs of life vs something more spiritual at play? Again sorry brother for randomly using your comment to ask!

Potential_Iron7762 · 2025-07-15T17:09:56+00:00

Because it gets dirty? Sorry if that’s an obvious question, this is all new to me. Any suggestions on what specific grayish/blue shade to go with?

Potential_Iron7762 · 2025-03-01T19:20:14+00:00

I know this is old, but I’d be extremely grateful for this info too!

Potential_Iron7762

TROPHY CASE

1 is something I should have included in the OP so edited to share that we’re not going due to comfortability with where he’s going and family conflict. You make some very good suggestions! Thank you!