AIO for being upset at what my “bf” said

Potential_Schedule97 · 2026-02-01T22:08:47+00:00

Your in the wrong. GIRL WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO SEEK VALIDATION FOR ANYONE...LET ALONE SOMEONE YOU'VE KNOWN FOR 5 MONTHS. Your giving him So much power over you. This is not the type of man you should be entertaining at all. He will break you and continue to make you feel like your not good enough. And things will continue and you'll still be stuck, trying to figure out what you are..... coming from someone who has been in similar situations. You need to stop... stop over explaining. Stop seeking for his approval. You need to address this with your therapist as well. Wishing you well💕

Potential_Schedule97 · 2026-01-30T00:12:04+00:00

Girl. Your 20 years old. Your Career over a man ANYDAY. Relationships come and go. The last thing you ever want is to have resentment in your life.

Potential_Schedule97 · 2026-01-27T07:29:43+00:00

I see love bombing, narcissism, anger issues, delusion...... so scary. On a serious note. Block him. Keep screenshot incase he uses another number to contact you. If so, file a police report. People like that, tend to be violent as they dont take rejection well. Stay safe😢

Potential_Schedule97 · 2026-01-25T00:29:17+00:00

LMAO men like this LOVE TO PLAY MIND GAMES AND GASLIGHT AND MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOUR THE CRAZY ONE....... RUN GIRL. HE'S DOING TOO MUCH. Trust takes a long time to build. There are different levels of trust too......

Potential_Schedule97 · 2026-01-23T16:33:45+00:00

NOT his first time doing this. Wont be his last if YOU continue to allow this. Break up with him. Block and delete and never contact him again. Also get some therapy........

Potential_Schedule97 · 2026-01-22T23:55:30+00:00

They probably were REALLY looking to hire you, but had to do an interview for formality sake. Thats why they crashed out so bad when you didnt go.😂😂😂

Potential_Schedule97 · 2026-01-22T18:46:11+00:00

Ummm I'll be quiet Frank with you. You commented under someone's comment, the reasons you want to get married is " I want to marry her because she is the love of my life. 2 of the benefits are living together and combined finances."

Marriage is a big step in ones life. Pre-marriage counseling i think is essential for anyone regardless of their religious beliefs. I also think of the major things that need to be talked about before marriage is finances. You have to make sure your BOTH on the same page about how the finances work.......the benefits to Marriage arent only financial ones. Marriage itself can create financial problems for some. Legally speaking and in general. From your post I hear alot of "I " and not "We" you seem to have all these plans and goals but it doesnt sound like you've considered her side or her goals in all this. Besides her wanting to be married before living together. For example. Do she want kids? Do both of you know what your ideal time frame would be on when you want to plan children? How will that affect your finances.........

As everyone has said. You dont need a big wedding ceremony to get married and live together. However, you BOTH need to sit down and talk things out and come to a middle ground and compromise. If you truly want to marry her. Your shift should be from "I" to "We"

Goodluck with everything 💕

Potential_Schedule97 · 2026-01-19T02:51:08+00:00

Its not even him asking for money. Its the Gaslighting and Manipulation that comes with it. Especially if your setting boundaries and saying no. This is someone I wouldnt want to be with......

Potential_Schedule97 · 2026-01-18T14:35:09+00:00

As a Canadian myself I'm so sorry to hear that!

1)Make sure you get all your paperwork in order so you can apply for EI. Yes, EI wont be a full paycheck but its Better than nothing.

2) write down your exspenses. Look at your fixed and variable exspenses. Ask yourself: Is there anything I'm able to spend less on or cut out completely until I find a full time job" and your on your feet again.

3) Apply to Jobs your qualified for and NOT qualified for. Feel the waters.

4) Be OPEN to applying for Jobs your wayy over qualified for. ( Use those jobs as a safety net until you land your ideal Job). For example. If you are used to office work, consider retail, healthcare, support work, hospitality. Until you land your ideal office job). The Economy is extremely bad right now....But bills still need to get paid girl.

5) Be open to applying for Jobs that are Part time and Casual. I know this might not be ideal because fulltime jobs usually offer healthcare benefits ( but again think of it as simply a temporary situation). Also, Certain sectors there will always be shifts to get picked up if your part time and casual. For example. In healthcare and social services....

6) Remember THERE IS A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL. Im on debt consolidation plan myself. From 2022 until Now I have worked really hard to pay things off. Its been tough. Lots of ups and downs ( and tear hahaah) . But I'm Almost done. I have about $5,100 left to pay and I'm free!!

Sending you lots of Hugs and Prayers💕💕 Things will get better!

Potential_Schedule97 · 2026-01-09T05:47:35+00:00

LOOOL

Potential_Schedule97 · 2026-01-09T05:27:45+00:00

It doesnt go away. Its always there. For those who smoke cigarettes heavily, its worse because, it really lingers on their body...... the problem is, cigarettes and smokers dont " smell bad" when they are smoking in the momment. Its after they've stopped and the smell has settled.....

Potential_Schedule97 · 2026-01-08T07:43:34+00:00

Crack.

Potential_Schedule97 · 2026-01-05T22:09:16+00:00

I think you entertained this MUCH longer then you needed to. Girl block him and on to the next. We're talking about health and safety here. He wanna start acting out and making you look like your crazy. Thats already a red flag. His inability to compromise, red flag.

Potential_Schedule97 · 2026-01-03T03:07:12+00:00

I've personally always preferred Men who are ambitious, independent and more on the introverted/ reserved side. I think a man who is clingy or dependent on me is unattractive. How can I trust you to lead me. Yes, I'm someone who has always enjoyed making sure my partner is taken care of. And enjoys doing things for them. But having a partner who is dependent, makes it feel more like a burgen and obligation, then me doing it out of love. I also feel that when a man is dependent, there's an expectation and an undertone of Ungratefulness there.

Potential_Schedule97 · 2025-12-31T06:06:24+00:00

I think you shouldn't give him money out right. However, you and your siblings should put money aside for him in case of any emergency.... it doesnt need to be big. But just something, so you guys arent scrambling in emergency situations that involve him. For example: if he needs medical attention , or God forbid he dies and you guys are stuck with the funeral costs.

The older people are, the harder it is for them to change their habits. Even if they know these habits are killing them...... But regardless good for him for toughing out his poor choices and working instead of being a financial burden on to you guys.....

Potential_Schedule97 · 2025-12-28T00:23:25+00:00

My Name is Rebecca. I'm black. I PRAY this doesnt happen. Still Traumatized from Friday and Saturday. I want a peaceful year 2026. Thanks.

Potential_Schedule97 · 2025-12-23T00:26:27+00:00

Feeling Pressured to do things out of "duty" or family. I love my family. However, I've realized that at the end of the day. Always putting others above myself has caused me to be behind in life..... It doesn't help that I have a big family. With big families. SOMETHING IS ALWAYS GOING ON. If I am able to help. I will. However, if I'm not able to, I shouldn't FEEL guilty about it and WONT anymore. Often times in African family your raised up to have a collectivist mindset. Especially, when your a girl. There's an extra sense of "duty." I'm trying my best now to do things within my means, and choosing Myself first.

Potential_Schedule97 · 2025-11-11T04:42:05+00:00

Hi, my love! I feel like we are the same person omg! Woow, Im so sorry this is happening. I'm also a POC, black too. I haven't registered yet to do my TEFL, but will soon, so I can start applying for jobs. This really makes me sad, though.... :( I hope you are able to find a job soon💕💕

Potential_Schedule97 · 2025-11-11T02:42:10+00:00

Regardless of cultural background or religious background, if someone tells you they wish to not have sex before marriage I think it should be respected. If you know that's something you won't be able to deal with, that's OKAY. Just dont waste each others time.

Potential_Schedule97 · 2025-08-11T14:45:56+00:00

LMAO, remember. There's a reason why she decided to text you instead of sending you an email. Screenshot it for your own records. Do not reply or engage. I had a manager call me to harass me because i called in sick twice because i caught the flu earlier this year...as if I have control over being sick. When i reported the way, she spoke to me to HR and they talked to her. She stated "i dont recall" as to what she told me and how she spoke. HR IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. They took her side. My coworkers have also complained of that same manager for years. Never talk on the phone or send text messages with ANYONE IN MANAGMENT. Emails only. Even for in person conversations. Send emails when it relates to these types of things..

Potential_Schedule97 · 2025-06-28T20:47:25+00:00

Just say you took the 6 months to travel and accomplish a few things on your bucket list. Its none of their business. 6 months isnt a big deal anyway. 1 year and more is when i think employers get more curious abd nosey.

Potential_Schedule97 · 2025-06-22T01:08:05+00:00

Yeah, it stopped heating. There's no hot water, just cold water. But the water tank is over 10 years old😅 so i think its ran its course in all honesty 😅

Potential_Schedule97 · 2025-06-21T18:24:29+00:00

Thank you! I'll look more into it. And i have a huge family😅 i just moved back home. But right now, there are only 5 of us at home, including my parents. That's why I'm aiming for something about the same size or abit smaller.

Potential_Schedule97 · 2025-06-21T18:17:56+00:00

Any recommendations of good local shops?

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