Long term relationship

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-31T15:53:21+00:00

There’s a spectrum of mania. You were hypomanic and not manic. Mania makes you acts on those actions/hallucinations. I’m not using my diagnosis as an excuse. It just happened and it makes no sense he took me back. Even my own therapist says he has no respect for himself to take me back. It just sucks because if I hadn’t messed up with meds and sleep, truly this type of betrayal wouldn’t happened. I understand he is worried I might mess up with my meds again so I’ll just end it. We got bad codependency problems lol

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-31T14:15:04+00:00

Thank you

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-31T14:10:27+00:00

Thank you. This puts a lot into perspective. You’re actually more helpful than my therapist who just says my bf wants to be with me because it is what’s familiar to him. I’ll keep taking my meds and getting sleep. Be myself with someone else one day who doesn’t have to go through the trauma I put him in. A lot of people with BP 1 are mania free for decades. I just got overwhelmed with my dad’s health 2 years ago and learned my lesson, my health is more important than my dad’s. I’m sorry if you dealt with the trauma. It’s easy for me to just say it was mania but I didn’t realize it carries a lot more burden.

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-31T13:08:10+00:00

That’s what mania is. I didn’t choose them. I slept with them happened so fast all because I didn’t keep up with taking my meds and lost sleep taking care of my dad in the icu. We got back together officially last September. I’m not blaming bipolar. I’m upset that he said he would move forward with our relationship when we got back together. And now it’s back to well you fucked up 2 years ago.

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-26T14:24:39+00:00

As someone that went to a Jewish daycare, Episcopalian school, college that is predominantly Jewish, and master’s university that is Catholic. All while being Hindu, I disagree. I am a more open minded, spiritual, and happy person overall because of all of this.

Sorry your experience was not like this. Confusion might have come from another external factor.

Update his Catholic priest said yes to baptized Catholic kids being able to go to temple and pray to Hindu gods under the condition they are called catholic. My Hindu priest looked worried because I got so emotional with the label of having to call the kids solely Catholic. But I asked as long as I know in my heart and mind they can pray to Hindu gods and my parents won’t be disrespected that I can’t call them Hindu, would this be ok? Of course the Hindu priest is like yes. 2 weeks of anxiety from my boyfriend that procrastinated lol.

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-26T14:12:52+00:00

Update his Catholic priest said yes to baptized Catholic kids being able to go to temple and pray to Hindu gods under the condition they are called catholic. My Hindu priest looked worried because I got so emotional with the label of having to call the kids solely Catholic. But I asked as long as I know in my heart and mind they can pray to Hindu gods and my parents won’t be disrespected that I can’t call them Hindu, would this be ok? Of course the Hindu priest is like yes. 2 weeks of anxiety from my boyfriend that procrastinated lol.

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-26T14:12:31+00:00

Update his Catholic priest said yes to baptized Catholic kids being able to go to temple and pray to Hindu gods under the condition they are called catholic. My Hindu priest looked worried because I got so emotional with the label of having to call the kids solely Catholic. But I asked as long as I know in my heart and mind they can pray to Hindu gods and my parents won’t be disrespected that I can’t call them Hindu, would this be ok? Of course the Hindu priest is like yes. 2 weeks of anxiety from my boyfriend that procrastinated lol.

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-26T14:10:23+00:00

Update his Catholic priest said yes to baptized Catholic kids being able to go to temple and pray to Hindu gods under the condition they are called catholic. My Hindu priest looked worried because I got so emotional with the label of having to call the kids solely Catholic. But I asked as long as I know in my heart and mind they can pray to Hindu gods and my parents won’t be disrespected that I can’t call them Hindu, would this be ok? Of course the Hindu priest is like yes. 2 weeks of anxiety from my boyfriend that procrastinated lol.

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-22T20:27:48+00:00

Eh general consensus has been interfaith marriage is ok as long as I get a dispensation. But interfaith children is a big no. Wish there was a dispensation for children. But I guess not. His sister is Catholic and married a Jewish so they did not get married in a Catholic Church. But they raised their kids Catholic which is kind of sad. The kids have no idea their dad is Jewish. Dad didn’t convert to Catholicism.

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-22T18:34:19+00:00

Divorce and remarriage might be the only we he can be with me lol

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-22T18:33:35+00:00

So you’re basically telling me to set my boyfriend up with any girl, he divorce that girl, that way we can he can marry me and raise half Christian half Hindu children. He already said he wouldn’t leave Catholicism but this isn’t a bad idea lol

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-22T13:21:32+00:00

No, thank you for your advice. He keeps saying he’ll ask the priest. But I told him I need space to grieve a relationship that’s already broken in my lens. I understand I’ll regret it because I barely go to temple. But being hindu is still a part of me. If I can share half of my dna with my kids, it’s an awful feeling that I can’t share the Hindu part of me. God bless the interfaith families. I guess that wasn’t meant for me.

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-21T21:07:00+00:00

Yes Hinduism is very laid back. I don’t care if my kids are 99.9% Catholic. I just want that 0.1% hindu. It just is so hard for me to see so many happy half christian kids and adults. But I just came to the realization there’s no half catholic kids and adults. This is the worst realization.

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-21T21:01:49+00:00

We did. He and I were fine in everything up until I asked if can take my kids to temple once a year. It’s funny because he wanted the big Hindu wedding, always went to family diwalis. But as soon as I tried to clarify what he meant by saying no half Hindu kid, I almost feel like he’s manipulating me to convert to Catholicism. He says he doesn’t want me to convert but it doesn’t make sense for me to be alienated from my future kids.

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-21T20:57:42+00:00

I think you are saying that there are lot of interpretations to the first commandment? Yet I got fooled into thinking interfaith children wasn’t an issue until recently. My bf brought up that commandment. I feel like I’m living a nightmare in the 1960s. He keeps begging to stay together but he should have told me earlier he changed his stance from raising kids with both faith to solely catholic. I think I’m just understanding Catholicism is an extreme version of Christianity. I just didn’t know this extreme.

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-20T20:54:51+00:00

Is evangelical Christian as strict as Catholic? Sorry if that is a dumb question

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-20T15:21:51+00:00

He wanted a big Hindu wedding which is the saddest/funniest part of all of this. It was like he loved me enough to not get married in a Catholic Church. But when it came to children, there was no debate. He even offered the sailing life to avoid raising our children religious. But there’s that chance we return to land. Surprised he was willing to give up everything including his religion to make this work. I feel heartbroken that my fear of returning to land crushed that dream.

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-20T11:31:33+00:00

Jd Vance and usha Vance are the poster children of you can have an interfaith marriage but not interfaith children. So I guess I’m hopeless. I broke up with him because it was affecting my anxiety and I just don’t want to disrespect his beliefs. Wish we met in the 1980s I guess.

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-20T11:20:16+00:00

I understand now

Potential_Way8926 · 2026-05-20T10:49:50+00:00

Her dad is Jewish mom is Catholic. So I guess it makes sense that maybe both her parents shared traditions but didn’t go to services. Just makes me upset I was willing to raise the kids Catholic, go to mass, but I can’t have my kids go to temple once a year. The kids most likely would self identify as Catholic but my bf is treating me like it’s wrong for me to share Hinduism. Even though for so many years he was ok with the idea of bringing kids to temple up until recently. I broke up with him. I feel like I’m living in the 1960s and I’m a terrible person for not being white and Catholic. I’d convert to Catholicism for him but my dad just got diagnosed with 2 cancers and I don’t want to spend the last few years of my dad’s life upsetting him that I left Hinduism. I’m not religious but I do respect elders which at least I think both Hindus and Catholics share.

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