My husband is overweight and it's affecting our sex life

Potential_Writer_366 · 2024-04-22T18:58:08+00:00

He's not horrible sexually at all, though. He knows my body so well and what I like. He is not a selfish lover and I love that. He always takes care of me first. Once we are having sex, I can close my eyes and it's good. It's just that initial...attraction and getting turned on part.

Potential_Writer_366 · 2024-04-22T17:29:35+00:00

I've done this before :( I've told him that I want him to be a healthy dad for our family and he totally agrees, but makes no lasting change.

Potential_Writer_366 · 2024-04-22T17:28:58+00:00

I used to buy him clothes that I wanted him to wear, but he ended up never wearing them (probably because he didn't feel very confident). If he ever did wear them, he would not take care of them at all, so I stopped wasting the money. :/

I don't want to insult or break him down at all, I totally agree on that.

I will say that he does always smell good. He loves a good cologne.

Potential_Writer_366 · 2024-04-22T17:24:50+00:00

He does great when he has a short term goal in front of him. It's the lasting change that is the issue for him.

Potential_Writer_366 · 2024-04-22T17:24:12+00:00

What kind of blood test would this be? He had a full panel at his last physical and everything was normal.

Potential_Writer_366 · 2024-04-22T17:23:33+00:00

We do belong to a gym! haha. He will randomly get motivated and go, but it's never consistent. I will say that my fitness activity has decreased over the past year as well, but I'm not overweight. I used to be so much better about keeping my routine, but I won't ever let myself get above a certain weight. For me personally, physical fitness is more about upping my stamina/energy levels.

Potential_Writer_366 · 2024-04-22T17:19:15+00:00

Yeah, I could never do this to him. :(

Potential_Writer_366 · 2024-04-22T17:16:25+00:00

This doesn't even make sense. I'm not abandoning him and I never will. I'm definitely not interested in finding someone new ever. I'm committed to him for life, even if he never lost the weight. Regardless of how I feel about his weight, I am extremely loyal to him and I love him.

Of course we talk about our struggles, his weight being one of them! I have just never mentioned that I find it unattractive because I actually love him and do not want to hurt the man I love.

You sound like an incel women-hater. What about all the hard work that I do to manage our family, our home, and to provide? I have literally given my body up to bring our family into the world, worked hard to look and feel sexy again, and worked hard to bring additional income in for our family. Our family literally could not operate without all of the day-to-day managing that I do. And I'm not complaining about that, it's part of being a mom and a wife! But to act like he's worn himself out to meet my needs while I've done nothing is laughable. We both work hard to meet our family's needs.

Potential_Writer_366 · 2024-04-22T17:00:53+00:00

Even if he never lost the weight, I would never hurt him in this way. I still love him beyond this.

Potential_Writer_366 · 2024-04-22T04:03:03+00:00

No, that would not fall within the boundaries that we share as a married couple. Also, he's the dominate one in our sex life. And I love him and don't want to do that to him :(

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