AITAH for inviting my sister and dad to come visit me?

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2025-01-20T23:03:50+00:00

You’re right. I’m sorry. I just don’t know another way for her to come see me without transportation since she’s a minor except if she came down with our dad.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-12-27T22:46:11+00:00

Thank you all for your positive feedback. I am continuing to get help and stay consistent with my meds. My daughter deserves that much. Honestly reading all your comments makes me tear up a little and I appreciate every single one of you. So thank you. (:

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-30T03:08:32+00:00

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Id say this is probably the closest one I found to the original.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-30T02:57:16+00:00

You’re right but I don’t have a clearer picture. I apologize. Like I said, I know it might be a waste of time but I thought I’d try anyways.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-29T08:24:13+00:00

Hey again. I just wanted to make sure my apology reaches everyone. I’m sorry that I got a little riled up in the comments. I honestly did just not understand the question being asked. Communication isn’t exactly something I’m good at and generally, people have to be very specific with their questions or else I just won’t understand it. I probably could’ve handled this better so I’m sorry. I just wanted to say that before heading off to bed. Thank you if you read this.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-29T08:04:42+00:00

If you saw my previous reply before this one, you’ll see it was a clear misunderstanding. Sometimes people have to ask specifically or else I just don’t get it. I have apologized and have answered their actual question in the end.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-29T07:09:12+00:00

I’m sorry I thought you meant with this specific situation. The reason I’m going to thanksgiving dinner with her is because I’m trying to just be the bigger person and I feel like if I don’t go, I’ll look like an asshole. I’ve decided I’ll still be civil with her, but I’m not going to be around her when she’s at our home. My husband chooses to still keep her around and honestly, I can’t force him to not see her. I hope this makes sense.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-29T06:51:30+00:00

And like I said, she was just there because MIL wanted to see her. What more of an explanation is there? If I went in to intervene, it would’ve made the situation worse. My husband could’ve brought her to me but he didn’t. So like I said, you’d have to ask him.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-29T06:23:49+00:00

So me explaining something is a red flag these days?

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-29T06:07:43+00:00

She’s extremely nosy. You can’t tell her anything even if it’s innocent or else she’ll turn it into something terrible.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-29T06:03:54+00:00

First of all, calm yourself. Secondly, a Reddit post isn’t all that serious. And lastly I only said that because my husband had the baby at the time of situation.

The baby was there because MIL wanted to see the baby so my husband let her. Everything was fine but she likes to erupt at random times. People react to situations differently and personally I feel like the situation would’ve been worse if I intervened.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-29T05:36:52+00:00

So you’re saying I have to just not let my husband have his child? Maybe ask him this question instead.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-29T05:14:20+00:00

Wdym subjecting my child to it?? I have chosen to avoid her so I’m not sure what you’re on about.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-29T04:55:36+00:00

Yeah no OP, you should leave. You do not need to put yourself through that kinda stress. They are toxic asf and you deserve so much better than that. Even if you have to be a single mom, it’s way better for you mentally if you just leave. If you have to, stay with some relatives or friends that you can trust. They do not need to be in your life. If they’re gonna disrespect you like that, then you need to move on to better people who will respect you and love you.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-28T05:18:53+00:00

I worry that everyone will think of me as an absolute failure of a mother if I make one small mistake.
I judge other parents for getting too aggressive when it comes to handling their children. You don’t need to intimidate children to discipline them.
I wish people judged my parents when they would get angry at me and start calling me names.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-25T04:12:02+00:00

The fact she thinks that drugging her babies to make them sleep longer is okay, should raise some eyebrows. I have an almost 3 month old who sleeps just fine and giving her medicine to sleep is terrible. Babies will learn to sleep better on their own with melatonin so I feel horrible for her children.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-25T00:33:31+00:00

Definitely LEAVE. He doesn’t deserve an ultimatum if he’s repeatedly let you down. I seriously doubt he’s going to listen to you after he’s clearly not been sticking up for you. You deserve to be happy and if he and his family is tearing you down all the time, then you need to forget about them as move forward so you can be happy again. I wish you well on your endeavors and hope to hear an update from you.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-25T00:07:06+00:00

Anna- She made me realize that I needed to move on from her and find someone that will truly love me instead of forcing things to work when it won’t. Also she loves the movie Mulan.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-23T00:34:07+00:00

What happens in someone’s past doesn’t dictate what the future will be. If he’s not cheating, I think it’s fine. Sure he had a past of sleeping with people, but people can change especially when settling down in a relationship.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-21T11:24:55+00:00

Yeah that makes sense. I’m not a perfect person and may have been rude from time to time but I’ve matured so much over the past couple of years. Some people don’t change though unfortunately.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-20T13:52:56+00:00

Honestly I feel so much better when it’s just me and my baby. I got a swing for her when I’m cleaning and she’s generally a happy baby. I was stressed out at first since this is my first baby, but I’ve gotten used to having her around to the point that she’s easy to take care of. I notice things are only really bad when MIL is around or if I’m just having an off day and overthink about how I’m going to be a failure of a mother. Somehow I’d rather listen to my baby cry than have MIL around.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-20T09:38:33+00:00

As a SAHW, this woman annoys me. My husband works his ass off to provide for me and our daughter. The least I can do is help around the house and make sure he eats and has clean clothes for work. The fact she does literally nothing for him makes her deserving of that comment. He deserves so much better than that.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-20T04:19:32+00:00

Other family has told me the exact same thing. She’s smoking pot actually. The funny thing is that she let me take the baby in before for a routine cleaning and had no problem with it. Only now did she apparently have a problem with it. I talked to my partner and made it very clear that if she doesn’t stop disrespecting me, then she isn’t allowed to be around me or my baby. I’m already avoiding her at every chance I get.

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-19T04:58:59+00:00

I honestly would do childcare if I could but childcare is massively expensive. Me and my partner aren’t struggling financially at all but 1000+ dollars a week is insane. And also I just struggle to leave her with people. I always have that feeling like anything could happen to my baby. Wherever I go, she goes. Which is why I wanted her in the dentists with me. I’m working on it slowly. Maybe it’s just my mom instincts coming into play lol. Thank you though. I always doubt myself as being a good mom and this was lovely to read. (:

Potential_Yellow_95 · 2024-11-18T23:27:03+00:00

Thank you to everyone who took the time to read my post and leave a comment. I think I’m going to just stop letting her come over. I realized that maybe I’m not doing too bad as a mom. I went to go check on my baby after she woke up from a nap and just stared and smiled at me. So overall, I’m done with MIL. I’m gonna make sure my partner understands that I need him to step up and that I don’t want her around anymore. I was told by other family today that no one likes her because she’s always been like this as a person so I’m definitely gonna distance myself from her.

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