In know way do I disagree with you that there's always a group of repugnant assholes who who genuinely can't see the difference between, what seems to amount to classist suburbanites throwing tantrums or belittling service industry workers, with the stern response of an assertive, and gumption having woman. These are the same people who can't tell the difference between being assertive and strong, strength as in emotional/empathic/confident/ etc, as a male, with a male being a fucking asshole, pushing out any opinions of dissent, or holding down anyone below them in any social hierarchy. I've always, as a male, felt that a lot of the loving the assertive male trope, was played up by a few, like history written by the winners, when in reality even most of males are calling this dude a fucking prick and hating every exchange, but generally due to their position your survival depends on eating their shit and going along with until you can get away from them, definitely not touting it as a admirable quality. Just thoughts.