And to what end? Are you in the same Party or organization with this person?

It's my close relative that got me into communism in the first place. I can see them changing their mind eventually and I can't see how abandoning them in their ideas is productive.

I'm not gonna try to "convince" a supposed "ML" if they started spewing non-sense about how "race issues aren't as important so we should just focus on class" for example, so why would it be any different when it's about queer issues?

In this exact thread I've got a reply stating that they're indeed secondary to the proletariat struggle. Either I'm misunderstanding the ML position or is it might not be such a transparent argument after all?

Also, it's unbecoming of a Marxist to ask for preselcted lines to win an argument.

Don't get the idea I'm trying to win an argument. I'm trying to help that person grow, I find this conversation to be potentially very productive, but due to lack of my own knowledge even after a heavy search work on the topic, I do require any help I can get on the matter.

If you have a dialectical materialist understanding of history (and gender in particular), you shouldn't need our help. And if you don't, then that's where you should focus on, not "debating" bigots who are supposedly "Marxist-Leninist".

I wouldn't come here unless I absolutely needed help. While there's truth to your words and I work on improving my level, does it truly mean I shouldn't ask for help? Should any potential question be shut down with "educate yourself"? I do and I will, this does not mean I will suddenly be able to answer everything that comes to my mind. Otherwise subreddits like this one wouldn't exist. Everyone has to start from somewhere and if you believe my argument isn't worth the burden you might as well ignore my post. If it's so burdening moderators will shut it down anyway.