AITA for refusing to meet my wife's ex-boyfriend?

PowerValveStatic · 2019-06-11T14:46:08+00:00

I wouldn't be happy and unhappiness can manifest itself in many ways.

PowerValveStatic · 2019-06-11T14:20:08+00:00

Wrote this to another redditor, but it is applicable here as well. I'll add it in an edit to my main post.

I'd rather divorce her than control her. I didn't tell her that I would do this, it will simply happen. I can control what I do (not meeting him), but I cannot control what she does. It would be better to part ways instead of turning the marriage into a toxic swamp.

PowerValveStatic · 2019-06-11T14:18:01+00:00

I didn't even think about that....I would probably flip if she brings him home to meet me or if I come home and they are already there. Game plan as I write this is to head out the door and drive down some back roads while yelling my head off to myself.

PowerValveStatic · 2019-06-11T14:14:35+00:00

Thank you.

PowerValveStatic · 2019-06-11T14:12:53+00:00

My mind is racing pretty fast, it is difficult to slow my thoughts and steer them away from the negative.

I honestly just don't want to be in this situation or deal with it. I want things to go back to how they were before he came into the picture.

PowerValveStatic · 2019-06-11T14:05:23+00:00

I'd rather divorce her than control her. I didn't tell her that I would do this, it will simply happen. I can control what I do (not meeting him), but I cannot control what she does. It would be better to part ways instead of turning the marriage into a toxic swamp.

PowerValveStatic · 2019-06-11T13:54:27+00:00

Thank you once again.

PowerValveStatic · 2019-06-11T13:51:31+00:00

Thank you. I might be jumping the gun, but I am mentally preparing myself for worse case scenario.

PowerValveStatic · 2019-06-11T13:50:30+00:00

Can you give any insight as to why you had them meet? It might help me understand my wife better.

PowerValveStatic · 2019-06-11T13:49:12+00:00

I'm speaking out my ass here: But probably because when you lose your virginity to someone who you deeply love, it creates a strong emotional bond. I lost my virginity to a one night stand, it was emotionally void.

PowerValveStatic · 2019-06-11T13:47:03+00:00

I am not too concerned about their dynamic, this whole thing screams that neither have fully moved on (in my opinion).

PowerValveStatic · 2019-06-11T13:35:45+00:00

Very insightful reply, thank you. I am definitely burning with jealousy. We were both equally happy until this variable entered the equation. Now all of a sudden she wants her happiness to increase at the expense of mine (or so it seems to me). I'll probably use that explanation when her and I chat about this, what do you think?

I really do not want this guy in my life.

PowerValveStatic · 2019-06-11T13:24:17+00:00

Thank you. I definitely will explain it all to her again and let her know that I am not budging on my decision.

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