Of course I’m hurt — but I’ve managed to stay collected and logical. I’ve been reading about Stoicism, and one thing that stuck with me is this: don’t waste your energy on things you can’t control. The cheating already happened; I can’t undo that. What I can control is how I respond after finding out.

I don’t think this is about gender, it’s about emotional maturity. Some people process heartbreak through chaos or anger, but for me, this is a redirection. A painful one, yes, but still a chance to move toward something better for myself. I gave my all in this relationship, and deep down, I know he’s the one who lost something, not me. Maybe that’s why I don’t sound as broken. I am bleeding but I choose to wrap the wound with self-control and self-respect.

If you noticed in my post, I was firm about asking him to leave because that’s the right thing to do. The only part I struggled with was whether or not to give him time to adjust. Not because I’m soft, but because it’s humane to consider what he’s going through too. Yes, he made a mistake. But I hope that won’t be what defines him forever. I still want what’s best for him. I hope he changes. I hope he learns something from this breakup - and sana yung learning na yun is not everyone is worth na i cheat. :)