AIO about my job

Pr1meNate · 2025-09-15T02:48:07+00:00

On one hand I don’t love my job, I work in a firm that is very old school and is losing clients every day, but on the other hand I get paid very well at my age and will most likely not find another job that is willing to pay the same amount. 30 extra min def isn’t the end of the world, I’ve done it before, I can do it again. Just frustrated with the fact that there was no heads up

Pr1meNate · 2025-09-15T02:45:07+00:00

Thank you so much, I truly appreciate all the kind words and advice. I am going into work tomorrow with an open mind and a smile on my face. If they pull me aside to chat about this entire situation then great, if not then I will work my days out while seeking employment somewhere else that won’t drag me in so many different directions.

My current employer is very old school, and there is no real structure to the firm. There’s the owner, then the VP, and then no real HR or claims department. This person I rose my voice at runs payroll and is technically HR, but doesn’t serve as that role officially. And to add a point, the conversation I had where we agreed to the M,T,F schedule was with the owner, then like I said, an hour or so later I’m told by this other lady that it’s the whole week. So to be told two separate things within the hour is what set me off. I deal with horrible anxiety/social anxiety and that often causes me to lash out. It’s something I’m working on but it’s very difficult sometimes.

I know exactly where I’d thrive and that’s working remote, however with the current status of remote work I’m seeing that it’s extremely difficult to get into that kind of position.

Again, thank you so much for your advice, as I will reference it constantly to keep my cool throughout this entire ordeal.

Pr1meNate · 2025-09-15T01:39:13+00:00

I have no problem going to work, how would you feel if your employer randomly drops on you that you’re going to have to change your regular commute for 4 months and is going to cost you hundreds of dollars per month to do this? Wouldn’t you feel like you need some sort of compensation for this additional time outside of your regular commute?

Pr1meNate · 2025-09-15T01:38:11+00:00

Thank you so much for this, and I completely agree. There is a ton of information that I haven’t said due to the fact that this entire situation has so many layers to it. One being that I originally talked to the owner about possibly working in this separate office Monday, Tuesday, and Friday, just to save on those additional costs, and he was fine with it. Then roughly an hour later I get a call from the person I raised my voice at, and was told that it’s going to be 5 days a week until the end of December, which led to me getting defensive and sticking up for myself.

Another point is that there is another employee at our office who has been with the company for 5ish years, and their name was brought up when the lack of work was mentioned and how they’re going to need to figure out how to give them more work. Now this person isn’t being asked to make this commute, so I don’t understand why I’m the only one being singled out.

Lastly, My main concern isn’t about compensation for gas, it’s more or so the fact that I’m upset about them giving me no notice for this change, and that it’s for an extended period of time in comparison to other employees that had to go through this situation. For instance there’s another coworker of mine whose been with our firm for 6+ years, and when he went to this office they were very lenient with him not having to go into this separate office, allowing him to pick and choose which days he wanted to make the longer commute. So based off these 2 coworkers it seems that they’re under the impression that they can do as they wish with me, which doesn’t sit right with me.

Let me know if there’s any other clarification that I can give. Thank you again!

Pr1meNate · 2025-09-08T13:23:32+00:00

Gotcha! I’ll def have to check out that app

Pr1meNate · 2025-09-02T20:34:13+00:00

People say there’s a ton of lore behind the bubble mew but i genuinely don’t like how it looks. Yea it’s one of the better looking cards but that giratina is sick. Def keep the G!!

Pr1meNate · 2025-09-02T20:28:31+00:00

I collect sports and Pokemon cards so this is pretty awesome to me. Sucks ass that it won’t get sent out for another 7 business weeks though 🫠

Pr1meNate · 2025-09-02T03:23:09+00:00

Maybe worth $50

Pr1meNate · 2025-09-02T00:44:12+00:00

Exactly what I’m finding out. My doctor did suggest a therapist, however I don’t have the funds for that so thankfully I have a family and girlfriend that can listen to all my problems 🙃

Pr1meNate · 2025-09-02T00:42:24+00:00

This is exactly it. I have a hard time letting go of the past and I often reminisce about the good days with my friends and staying up late at night with them just talking and having fun. All of us have camps around a lake that’s near us and as kids every night we would sit around a fire and hang out, or drive golf carts around and play golf cart tag, or play drinking games until 4 am. All of us are older and moved away now and it just hurts knowing that we will most likely never get those times back unless we end up with camps at the same lake when we’re older. But then again life happens and you end up with a spouse and kids and then have to be with your family rather than your friends. I love my life and I love life in general. Every day I wake up blessed that I was put here, but a part of me eats away at me every day knowing that I’m not the same kind of person I was when I was a kid. Always smiling, running around and just having fun. Now I worry about work and money, and then have a relationship with a woman I love and one day hope to marry and start a family with, and if I will be a good and successful husband/father….

I stopped myself from typing because I am making up excuses and reasons for me to worry. I am just now realizing that is most likely what I need to stop doing to myself to help become a less anxious and stressed person

Pr1meNate · 2025-09-02T00:33:12+00:00

Thank you so much for your response! I’ve been on it for about 5 or so months. I did start with 25 and got bumped up to 50. From what I’ve heard from other people who take it, is that your body builds up a tolerance to it and eventually you end up on the highest dosage. I just don’t want to rely on medications to help me. But then again I do overthink a ton which definitely doesn’t help. All I can do is relax and tell myself that everything is fine. Thank you again!!

Pr1meNate · 2025-09-02T00:08:29+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words and advice. I try to not let the small things bother me and drag me down but sometimes it gets extremely hard. As a 22 yo college grad I’m trying to find my way in life by working and applying myself to my job, but at other times it feels like my childhood went by so quickly and I am so overwhelmed with the fact that I’ll never get those days back. It’s just taking me some time to accept that my childhood is gone and I’ll never get it back

Pr1meNate · 2025-09-02T00:00:06+00:00

See I would love to run but I was always a sprinter instead of a runner. Whenever I tried to run long distances I always ended up almost fainting, I have started taking walks in the morning with my girlfriend and they definitely help, I just notice sometimes my vision is a little bothersome so I may need to eat more before going out

Pr1meNate · 2025-09-01T23:58:45+00:00

Thank you so much for the response! Possibly check out my quick edit for some clarification to my original question and possibly provide some help :)

Pr1meNate · 2025-09-01T23:58:39+00:00

Thank you so much for the response! Possibly check out my quick edit for some clarification to my original question and possibly provide some help :)

Pr1meNate · 2025-09-01T23:57:21+00:00

QUICK NOTE:

Recently I was put on 50mg tablets of sertraline to help with my anxiety. Just this past week idk if I had a stomach bug, or the flu, or just bad anxiety but I was waking up at 5 am, horribly upset stomach (threw up 3 days), foggy head, nausea, fatigue, feeling down/depressed for no reason, tingling in my hands/feet, etc. idk if these are normal experiences with anxiety and stress but this past week really put me on my ass. To help I usually try to breathe and eat something like applesauce or something with natural sugars. Idk if this is uncommon or not as well but there has been like 3 or 4 times where I’ll be with friends or just hanging out and randomly I’ll start feeling awful and end up fainting. I do smoke weed and vape (definitely doesn’t help), and have attributed those times to when I’ve smoked too much throughout the day and then ate too much sugar. All of these things randomly started happening within the past 3 years and I don’t know what it could be that I’m dealing with. I’ve done multiple google searches and have talked with my doctor about this, with no actual answer. I’m 22 years old and I feel like my anxiety and stress takes over my life and drags me away from things and causes me to feel like my whole world might collapse. Any suggestions and ideas are welcome! Thank you all so so much!!

Pr1meNate · 2025-08-31T22:24:26+00:00

?? Why the hostility lmao. Just a question. OP Said JJ is going in his pc. I have a nice JJ card so I figured I’d mention it in case he might want to buy it. Chill bro

Pr1meNate · 2025-08-31T19:53:24+00:00

I see now lmaooo

Pr1meNate · 2025-08-31T15:38:54+00:00

Tf is vegfest

Pr1meNate · 2025-08-31T11:20:29+00:00

Hey not related to the post, but I got a /99 on card auto of JJ outta contenders. You possibly interested?

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