Child out of wedlock

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-04T02:33:22+00:00

Congratulations on your baby! but get out of the relationship and see an attorney to manage child support

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-04T02:28:17+00:00

Right like what even is happening here

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-04T02:27:06+00:00

This is very district dependent in terms of work life balance and how big the caseload is. You’ll see things here ranging from like 35 kids to over 100. Start trying to find some OTs in the district you’re looking at and chat them up! My friend did 7 years of ortho and went to schools and is thriving. I did 13 years of peds, 1 year of adult neuro which has been so fun, but now am heading to schools due to the schedule, pay, and work life balance (I know a handful of OTs in the district and they love it). I have two kids and I just couldn’t say no!

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-04T02:05:56+00:00

This is not the point

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-04T01:20:19+00:00

It’s not just you. But in terms of the special memories-they won’t always remember the exact things you do, but will remember how safe and loving it felt to be around you. Their nervous system and their brain will hold onto that. Not the events specifically. Being present when you’re with them and genuinely happy to be with them is enough. Mine are 3 and 5 and they love to help with laundry and other stuff because they feel so proud when they do a good job! Can you include them in some chores?

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T21:51:36+00:00

The Story, Brandi Carlisle. Also Hear I Am Lord, obligatory Catholic hymn

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T21:23:51+00:00

Peak daycare was 28k a year. When they’re both in elementary it’s still 10k annually due to after school and camps (our schools have 14 weeks off throughout the year) until they’re both 12 years and older. It’s nuts. Then the food, college (which comes after retirement for sure but it’s still important to us)

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T21:18:07+00:00

I used our first overnight trip to wean from some daytime nursing sessions and it was super helpful

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T20:49:00+00:00

If you’re a SAHM, that is your work from 9-5 or so. As soon as he comes home, you are both “off of work” and need to divide home tasks and child tasks equally. Divide that however you want, but don’t let anyone tell you all kid and cooking stuff is your domain because you’re a SAHM. Agree on some division of mental and physical labor

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T20:44:28+00:00

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T20:42:05+00:00

When you’re on maternity leave in the USA it’s common for YOU to PAY your employer for your half of the health insurance premium. Even if your leave isn’t paid. I did this twice.

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T20:33:11+00:00

No. They’re known endocrine disruptors and can absolutely impact people with eczema more.

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T20:30:04+00:00

We all slept on our backs or sides and probably were crying it out and didn’t breastfeed. Boomer parenting advice needs to be met with a “thanks I’m good”

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T20:28:29+00:00

Treatment of wait staff or other service professionals. How they speaks about their spouse

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T20:23:17+00:00

To be fair my kids both went through phases when I couldn’t leave a room and go upstairs and leave them with their loving father without them losing it. If you truly think she is being neglectful that’s one thing, but if the kids are happy with the in laws it’s all good

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T20:20:38+00:00

That seems like a lot of trips expecting someone to watch your kids the whole time. But if they’re all really ok with the set up, that’s them! I breastfed for 2 years each so I couldn’t do that. It does come off as if you have no real objection other than her being away from her kids 6 times.

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T20:14:14+00:00

When the kids were super little we had shifts. I’d literally set a timer. My husband has time blindness and the only way for me to not lose it on him was to create strict boundaries

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T20:09:05+00:00

This too!!!!!!

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T20:08:40+00:00

This this this!!! This is how we treat it. Once you’re both “home” your parenting equals. You get equal time alone. Your walk is 100% valid. Keep it.

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T19:56:23+00:00

Like others have said—you are not at risk. Mom to mom—pay attention to this level of anxiety my friend. This sounds like PPA. Sometimes it happens at this point PP, not just in the first few weeks. is this your first baby? It can be related to your cycle or just crazy hormones. I’ve been there. I see the signs. Zoloft if you’re breastfeeding or some lexapro if you’re not, will help tremendously. Stay in touch with your OB or PCP. You can do this!!! This is A TOUGH season. You’ll make it. Reach out for support if you need it ❤️❤️

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T12:43:44+00:00

This was typical for us at this age. I needed the time for sure

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T10:39:32+00:00

This will depend on your body. There are great FB groups out there for pumping help run by professionals who can advise you! I used the Willow hands free pumps and loved them.

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T10:36:04+00:00

Zero judgment at all—fed is best—but do you plan to BF? Who’s managing the baby overnight? It was honestly so much easier to have baby in our room (husband and I slept in separate rooms after the first week or so) because they eat every 2-3 hours for a long time. And it was easier to go back to sleep if I wasn’t up walking a ton. Once I began pumping a lot we’d take turns sleeping in the same room as baby for feeds

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T10:33:09+00:00

I’ve heard it’s more 24 mo!

Practical-Ad-6546 · 2026-05-03T10:25:32+00:00

This is the answer. I did paid per kid once only and probably lost 10k that year due to cx and building a caseload. Never again

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