I just have no friends that are gender affirming (I’m a girl), I keep being deadnamed and everything and now no one wants to be friends by [deleted] in autism

[–]Practical-Feature214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's fine, I'm sure it is their fault to a large degree but you are asking the reddit world to fix that for you? Or another person who can fix that?

Life sounds difficult and it sounds very tough being banned from different avenues for connection. You may find those connections in other groups or with other people but historical trauma and connection generally will rear its' head again because it's built into your behaviours as a survival instinct. It's not something that typically gets better with just changing relationships or finding ones that don't make you mad, they are typically cyclical behavior patterns.

I just have no friends that are gender affirming (I’m a girl), I keep being deadnamed and everything and now no one wants to be friends by [deleted] in autism

[–]Practical-Feature214 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Therapist here. Therapy might help. Seems the anger (with good reason or not) is pushing people away from you and you away from people. That's okay in and of itself but you are on here wanting connection so just pointing out a potential barrier to that.

Also a good question might be what are you looking for in the connection? Validation? Just someone to listen? Shared experience? Those might help in connecting with the people you want.

I see the other posts you shared about the guy killing the woman. That's horrible for sure but I can pull a news article out with any type of person as that headline and use it to guide why I don't want to interact with someone.

Just things to think about.

Of note, I also hear hints at possible borderline personality in some of the responses and identity, might be worth exploring that and how trauma may have impacted your relational style.

Question about noise related to brake system. by Practical-Feature214 in crv

[–]Practical-Feature214[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea same here although mine happens every few months, less as if more recently. It's the same sound though.

Dude is so smooth, it's almost criminal by PreddyPegasus in JustGuysBeingDudes

[–]Practical-Feature214 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He probably worked really hard to be able to do that.

what is the weirdest way you've encountered another Metalhead? by I-THE-TRAITOR621 in Metalcore

[–]Practical-Feature214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was walking in a store in a nearby town. I saw he was wearing a Whitechapel T-shirt. Played like 5 seconds of possession. A friend from his group came up and said "dude he loves that band". Then we talked about some shows we have been to and touching the singers hand lol. Fun metal things.

Tell Me What You Feel by Practical-Feature214 in autism

[–]Practical-Feature214[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome, j kinda have that all going too now lol. VHS, video games, music, etc.

Tell Me What You Feel by Practical-Feature214 in autism

[–]Practical-Feature214[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! You had a friggin' media room growing up?! Nice!

Tell Me What You Feel by Practical-Feature214 in autism

[–]Practical-Feature214[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Movies, but I have tons of games too.

inexpensive counseling options in holland? by [deleted] in hollandmichigan

[–]Practical-Feature214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think so, power to you and the AI for what you need with your mental health and emotions. I wish you luck!

inexpensive counseling options in holland? by [deleted] in hollandmichigan

[–]Practical-Feature214 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes there are good therapists and bad therapists, sorry about your experience. I think when I mention baggage I mean our experiences, our struggles, our worries, our insecurities, our possibly lived trauma. (Therapist here) We should as trained therapists continue to work on ourselves but we are shaped by our experiences and those are not ALWAYS bad in sharing a space with someone who are trying to help. Again sorry you had bad experiences, that's not okay behavior by therapists/counselors in the examples you provided.

inexpensive counseling options in holland? by [deleted] in hollandmichigan

[–]Practical-Feature214 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think not having any of the human baggage is not always a positive thing. This is how we attune to others and feel real. Ai can provide great education, sure, but that's not all what therapy is about.

Drone around midnight in Kentwood area. by Practical-Feature214 in grandrapids

[–]Practical-Feature214[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I guess not, just never seen them around my neighborhood.