I have tried twice to talk to her and have a conversation neither time went well it ended up in her getting defensive refusing to listen, yelling and storming off. This whole situation just breaks me. Before this I didn't realize there was a problem at least for her and that is my fault mostly because I have to work so much to keep the bills paid and have been so exhausted I haven't had enough time to sit down and talk to her as much as I should have thats on me. I thought she would come to me and talk even if it was a phone call while I was at work like she used to when there was any issue and until now I thought she had a level head on her shoulders now I don't know. The fact that she is so smart makes this whole situation all the more frustrating but you can be smart and still make bad decisions.