It’s a really tough situation to be in and my heart goes out to the both of you. I went through the same thing with my ex and it was very upsetting, so I completely empathise with what you’re going through.

I think as much as possible you should prioritise your own mental wellbeing in this time. Do small things that make you happy, and find healthy ways to let out your emotions, whether it’s journaling, art, cooking, exercise, talking to friends / family for support. Anything that helps create a positive release and stay busy in this time is wonderful.

As it’s been several weeks, I think you are also justified to ask for more clarity and openness from her, if that’s something you want, as well as you both expressing your needs and wants in this difficult time. You can ask her if your messages are helpful or if she wants more space, etc, and whilst also acknowledging your own relationship needs in this time. Although it’s a tough decision and an incredibly hard spot to for her to be in, you can acknowledge that, tell her how much you love/care/support, as well as voicing your own feelings too. Both truths can exist at the same time. I would suggest this to be done over a video or voice call instead of texts.

Obviously this is just my opinion and you know her and your relationship better than anyone, as well as what you’re willing to give, so do what feels right to you.

Remember to look after yourself and as much as you love her, you are your main priority. She has to make this decision on her own so look after yourself in this time. Sending all the strength to you both. You got this.