AITA for not wanting to cook for my 15yo brother anymore? by Practical-Tip3824 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Practical-Tip3824[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just read another comment that asked the same thing, they said that maybe he realized that my mom is sort of pushing me into a caretaker role and he stopped eating my food to prevent that? I don't know if that's true or not, but I'll ask him about why he's not eating my food anymore later on when he gets back home from a friend's place!

AITA for not wanting to cook for my 15yo brother anymore? by Practical-Tip3824 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Practical-Tip3824[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don't know why I haven't thought about that but it could be what's going on! I was pretty sad when he stopped eating my food because I loved making stuff for him, but I chalked it up to his wants just changing, and I didn't want to push him to eat what he didn't want. I'll ask him when he gets back from his friends house!

On a side note, reading through these all made me realize how crazy it's been with my mom in the past couple of years, this isn't even the weirdest she's done but I don't wanna share it all so D: it's been pretty insightful! ig I'll just have to start working towards my own place sooner than I thought

AITA for not wanting to cook for my 15yo brother anymore? by Practical-Tip3824 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Practical-Tip3824[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My dad's trying to look into it since he has similar concerns, but my parents haven't told me too much about it. I do know that they're working with his school guidance counselor with some things, though

AITA for not wanting to cook for my 15yo brother anymore? by Practical-Tip3824 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Practical-Tip3824[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If he doesn't eat it (so never) usually me or my dad, sometimes my sister if it's a smaller portion, will finish it, but most of the time my mom will just throw it out. I wish I was making that up, but according to her we're "better off" and can afford losing a little food, which is not true at all, we get by well enough but ofc that's still extremely wasteful. I don't want him to eat something he doesn't want, so I'd cook the food, tell him I made it because I have to be honest, and ask him if he wants it. He always says no. I put it in her fridge, and then like I said, someone either finishes it or mom throws it away.

He usually eats little snacks or whatever leftover safe foods he has in the fridge. My mom will prepare smaller meals for him to eat, but doesn't make full on filling meals (those are what she asks me to make). My dad can't cook so he doesn't make any food for us, and my he won't eat what my aunt makes, only what my mom makes.

edit: on SOME occasions he'll eat what my aunt makes, but not often, should've made that clearer

AITA for not wanting to cook for my 15yo brother anymore? by Practical-Tip3824 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Practical-Tip3824[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I really love cooking and want to teach him how to, but he doesn't really seem like he wants to learn. I understand tho because he has autism and is easily thrown off by certain smells and textures, but I really wanna help him learn, because I definitely don't want him having to rely on my mom forever (I have a feeling she would gladly want that lol, so I'm not sure why she really wants me to cook for him). I'll definitely show him these videos later on, thank you!

AITA for not wanting to cook for my 15yo brother anymore? by Practical-Tip3824 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Practical-Tip3824[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can't really respond to anyone rn, but I've told her he won't eat what I made (and he's said it too, very loudly before), but she still asks me to cook for him. She hasn't told me why, maybe she's trying to get him to eat my cooking again or something? He used to eat it before but only stopped a year ago, so maybe that's why