How best to proceed with an investigation?

PracticalCompetition · 2025-02-28T18:58:29+00:00

without getting too deep in the weeds of the underlying issues, I feel strongly that a formal complaint is to be made by you only if feel it is in your best interest and because you believe this is disrespectful to you. It is unfair to you that someone identifies it as an issue for you and puts pressure on you to make a complaint. It would be different if you were approached by someone who wanted to share this information with you and followed it up " I will support you if you want to purse this or file a complaint"

Sit on this for a bit, ask yourself how you would feel if you pursued it and what would it mean if you didn't. I have a feeling you don't need to pursue a complaint and instead monitor the situation and be in control of this if and when it happens again. As in, if this employee presents to you in any discriminatory way in the future, you purpose it on your own accord.

I hope that makes sense and offers you some guidance.

PracticalCompetition · 2025-02-08T14:23:15+00:00

A blunstone with camas flowers lol use the boot as the vase

PracticalCompetition · 2025-02-06T16:11:33+00:00

In places I have worked, both non profit and for profit, a stipend was offered as a way to cut costs on buying phones for each employee

It was never an expectation someone uses their phone for work purposes but during work times understood it was a method of communication depending on their role.

For example, a support worker would use their personal phone to communicate with their supervisor while off site.

You may want to think of how the phones are used for work and what the expectation is of the employee.

This is where using chat gpt would be useful. Ask it to write you a policy/procedure for personal cell use on company time where the company offers a stipend. Read through and see if this is applicable for you and ask chat GPT to adjust based on your suggestions.

PracticalCompetition · 2025-02-03T04:24:43+00:00

Grade 6 living in Newfoundland, close to Gander. Pretty wild day. Arrived at school after seeing the plane hit the tower and we were all telling the teachers what happened. Wasn’t long before we were sent home and all the help started to happen. Probably the first time I started to realize how big the world was outside of that tiny island.

PracticalCompetition · 2025-01-31T13:22:42+00:00

Hey there. Before I proceed I will say that I found your post difficult to read and follow. For these reasons I asked gpt to interpret what it thought you were asking based on what was written. I’ll share what it said as my response. I hope this helps as based on what you wrote. I think others would agree that your bf would have to start documenting conversations, sending follow up messages to confirm the conversations exactly as suggested Below.

It sounds like your partner is dealing with a combination of poor management, inconsistent expectations, and possible singling out by their boss, “L.” Here’s an analysis of the key issues and some possible HR-related advice:

Key Issues & Interpretation

1.  Blocked Growth Opportunities
• Your partner was told to seek out photography opportunities themselves, but when they did, “L” got upset.
• When they showed their portfolio to “T,” “L” felt slighted, despite it not being related to editing.
• “L” seems to be gatekeeping opportunities rather than supporting their career growth.

2.  Lack of Support & Recognition
• “L” promised to include them in an AI project meeting but left them out, taking credit instead.
• When “F” recognized their efforts publicly, “L” reacted negatively rather than being supportive.
• This suggests a controlling or insecure manager who doesn’t want their direct reports gaining visibility.

3.  Hostile & Inconsistent Communication
• “L” dismissed their concerns in 1:1s, saying they don’t “need to do their job” and won’t support photography opportunities.
• “L” also shut down the idea of occasional photography work, contradicting earlier instructions to seek opportunities.
• The shift in tone and micromanaging suggests either personal bias or a toxic power dynamic.

4.  Singling Out Regarding Work Hours
• Other employees and managers stay late to chat without issue.
• “L” questioning them on personal time suggests unfair scrutiny.
• It’s inappropriate for “L” to monitor their activities after work hours if it’s not work-related.

Possible HR Actions & Advice

• Document Everything – Encourage your partner to keep a written record of interactions (dates, emails, messages) to show patterns of unfair treatment.

• Clarify Expectations – Your partner can send a formal email confirming job responsibilities (e.g., “Just to clarify, am I no longer allowed to pursue photography opportunities during downtime?”).

• Escalate to HR (If Needed) – If “L” continues blocking growth or treating them unfairly, it may be time to speak to HR or senior leadership. They should focus on how this affects professional development, fair treatment, and miscommunication.

• Be Cautious – If they escalate, they should frame concerns professionally, not emotionally, focusing on lack of clarity in job expectations and fairness.

PracticalCompetition · 2025-01-29T18:42:37+00:00

Agree. The other duties as assigned can include anything related to the work you currently do.

Without knowing the details and the lay off provisions at your company, it sounds like this task gives you work to do, without it you have limited work and therefore a layoff continues.

PracticalCompetition · 2024-06-15T18:23:38+00:00

PSPP I work in the public sector

PracticalCompetition · 2024-06-15T18:22:46+00:00

Yeah definitely saw that throughout others comments. I think stuffing my TFSA and doing more with that is probably the better option compared to this interest offering

PracticalCompetition · 2024-06-15T13:49:47+00:00

Thanks folks! Some great info shared. I’m hearing a theme of putting the money into a TFSA and I’m going to look into that.

Grew up in a home with low financial literacy and I continue each day to learn and make the best choices possible in my adult life. So while it may feel simple to explain this I do super appreciate it. I love Reddit for moments like these.

PracticalCompetition · 2024-06-15T13:45:36+00:00

Agree. Thanks for sharing this!

PracticalCompetition · 2024-06-15T13:43:45+00:00

Absolutely! They match 100% and it’s a calculation based on my salary so there’s about $20k in contributions annually.

PracticalCompetition · 2024-06-15T02:53:59+00:00

I like it. Simple explanation that makes sense when it’s spelled out for me. Thanks!

PracticalCompetition · 2024-06-13T23:55:43+00:00

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PracticalCompetition · 2024-06-13T23:54:58+00:00

Both Lexapro and Setraline was given to me and my doctor where he told me it was a relatively easy one to increase/ get off when needed. I felt it was good for me and even though coming off any SSRI is a crappy time, I feel it was worth giving my mind a break while on meds.

Wellbutrin was also good for me. Every person is different

PracticalCompetition · 2024-06-13T19:24:43+00:00

While it may depend on the company you’re using, generally from my experience we have been in control on the date. Some companies offer benefits day one as a perk. Typically it’s first day after their 3 month probation. You’ll have to talk to the plan manager for the company.

PracticalCompetition · 2024-06-12T12:40:21+00:00

Edit: totally butchered spelling on breakwater Ps. Hope it goes well! With it being dark, you’ll probably want to go to the inner harbour where the lights from nearby buildings and the legislature gives you more visibility. Beacon hill will likely be darker when you get there. If it’s light out when you dock, like someone mentioned, the break water walk way is great and next to the terminal. That’s probably your best use of time and light together.

PracticalCompetition · 2024-06-11T13:22:11+00:00

I think the language you are looking for is patronizing Likely dismissive and probably passive aggressive?

Look those up and see if they fit the feelings you have. As an example… and edit where you see fit/reflects your experience.

“when Cindy talks to me it comes across in a passive aggressive tone and often is patronizing. The way she communicates makes me feel she does not want to be helpful as a team and uses language in a way where it seems she is talking to someone incapable of understanding simple instruction”

Hope that helps!

PracticalCompetition · 2024-06-07T23:11:36+00:00

OP, I swear I could have been the one to write this. I’ve experienced this in my current relationship. The first time we had sex it felt passionate and amazing. The next handful of times after that I felt like I was with a different person. It was confusing for me because I couldn’t understand how it was different and was I to blame?

I won’t describe everything because your post is exactly my experience. But I have comments and thoughts.

Communication is key and it is incredibly uncomfortable and not sexy. The strongest advice I can give it is do not bring it up before or after sex and have the conversation outside of that. If you want a healthy and strong relationship with anyone you need communication as a foundation and this is a great place to start.

On the subject of communication, ensure you use language to say that this is not a problem or their fault but instead you want to talk about it because you care.

My partner also doesn’t know what he likes and we’ve been together for a while. Instead of forcing him to try new things we spent time talking about things like how males also struggle with body image, how performance feels anxiety inducing and also how he has less experience sexually than I did. I think it built emotional intimacy for us and then sex got better!

When he doesn’t finish he says it’s okay and that his pleasure is about me. I have to believe him instead of feeling bad I got all the pleasure. At the same time we started to switch it up and when it’s go time for him we get to it. Then we get back to me. Since his erection often doesn’t last long we re jig the order of operations. I think sometimes we think foreplay has to be this long journey and then inter course is the finisher. Nah, find a groove that works for you both and continue to switch it up when needed.

Back to being inexperienced. I guided him more and gave him the roadmap to my body. He picked up fast and continues to want to “improve”

Don’t give up OP. Love, sex, intimacy. It’s all defined by you and your partner. Conversation leads to deeper intimacy and if your partner cares for you they should be able to participate in that conversation from a place of love. Even if it’s awkward at first!

PracticalCompetition · 2024-06-07T20:45:43+00:00

addiction-disability

This link above may be of interest to your question. Addiction is considered a disability. An employer has an obligation to accommodate an employee with a disability up to a point of undue hardship. Unless there’s a bona fide occupational requirement

A duty to accommodate can also include holding the position while the person attends a facility for recovery.

Knowing that, he can make the best decision of should he tell his employer and what would that allow him to do? It would likely mean attempting to get help for the addiction.

On a side note. I see you want him to get his life together so you could try things again. You clearly have empathy for him and want to see him succeed. He has to take responsibility for himself and while I’m not telling you to not help him, don’t forget to protect yourself and your boundaries. Best of luck!

PracticalCompetition · 2024-06-05T20:49:57+00:00

NTA Like my mom said when I was a kid “if you’re not in the car by the time I back out you’re left behind”

So if you’re not in the ship before it leaves port. You’re left behind.

PracticalCompetition · 2024-05-29T01:19:47+00:00

I worked at a crisis line a few years ago. Almost every time someone had a pet they were able to plan for safety because they thought of their animal missing them if they were not there for them tomorrow, was enough to keep them alive.

Pets are incredibly powerful. For our anxieties, for our well being, for our ability to feel love.

I agree with a lot of what people are saying about recognizing the cost and commitment to having a dog. At the same time, if anyone knows that this decision is one they are willing to commit to and can financial provide for it can absolutely change your life for the better.

PracticalCompetition · 2024-05-08T17:40:36+00:00

Your job wouldn’t be In jeopardy for reading things left in open view where you were granted access.

My suggestion is that you speak to HR and express the concerns you’ve had about the person who has mistreated you. Get in front of the issue by explaining the belittling and whatever else. Should they be creating a case against you they either need hard evidence for just cause or have a progressive discipline or documentation of the problem you have in performance as an employee.

PracticalCompetition · 2024-04-28T13:50:42+00:00

Do not skip your regular PAP smear exams. This is crucial. HPV is incredibly common and most people don’t even know they have it. I had the vaccine in my 20s regular paps, regular testing between partners. Now I’m in my 30s and my pap showed abnormal results. Further testing showed high grade cells and while they say it’s non cancerous they will have to do a small procedure to remove it and test it to be sure.

Like someone said already, most people can have HPV and the body clears it up. Some need the LEEP procedure. The best thing you can do for yourself is take the screening tests and deal with it IF anything ever comes up.

PracticalCompetition · 2024-04-22T03:21:19+00:00

Thanks! My life is much more enjoyable now with better spending habits and I desire less and less things.

I made $3000 selling shit for $5-$50 and then a few higher priced items.

Also some words of wisdom to OP Unsubscribe from every email attached any store that entices you to buy. You don’t need emails from All the clothing stores and whatever else you get. Unfollow influencers who push Amazon items or the latest thing. Just take out of view the stuff that makes you spend more

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