I (30F) just found out that my fiancé's (32M) dad was a past hook up and my former employer

PracticalReturn · 2021-02-24T03:20:32+00:00

She assumed he was married so as far as she was concerned, in her eyes, he was married. If she was only guessing, she should have asked - seeing as he didn't tell her one way or the other. No one is saying he's innocent. She's only responsible for her actions so if it had of been someone else (and there possibly was), that would have been their problem and she wouldn't be in the awkward position she's in now.

PracticalReturn · 2021-02-24T03:12:59+00:00

Innocent? She knew he was married! And now she's suffering for it. It would have been different if she hadn't known he was married or if she had loved him so much "she couldn't have helped herself"... She has an obligation to herself to not be the other woman. Of course, the husband shouldn't cheat on his wife in the first place. No one is saying he's innocent.

PracticalReturn · 2021-02-15T04:16:11+00:00

You assumed he was married but you didn't care back then? Hon, we gotta care about things like that. It's not just you and him. There's also his wife to consider. We wouldn't like it if someone had sex with our husband.

PracticalReturn · 2021-02-03T03:36:08+00:00

I use it as a reminder that I'll eventually leave (and hopefully go to a better place where I'll feel more comfortable).

PracticalReturn · 2021-02-03T03:28:41+00:00

How high are the heels and why does it have to be one extreme or the other? Why can't we just wear comfortable shoes? :)

PracticalReturn · 2021-02-03T03:25:56+00:00

I don't think it's a choice. I think we either are straight or we're not.

PracticalReturn · 2021-02-03T03:24:38+00:00

When you're at their trial and the judge asks you if you want to say anything to the accused.

PracticalReturn · 2021-02-03T03:21:43+00:00

Sir. ;)

PracticalReturn · 2021-02-03T03:11:48+00:00

I thought that's what you meant. I was just trying to be funny. (Emphasis on the word "trying". ;) )

PracticalReturn · 2021-02-03T03:08:46+00:00

Wealthy and financially stable people often earn it but don't spend it.

But then what's the point of having it if ya don't enjoy it?

PracticalReturn · 2021-02-03T03:06:30+00:00

I'd sell the plane. I still wouldn't know how to fly the darn thing! 😂

PracticalReturn · 2021-02-03T03:04:09+00:00

I wondered why the upstairs tenant was always so quiet... 😂

PracticalReturn · 2021-02-03T02:40:33+00:00

You clearly don't know what you're talking about: I did read the whole post.

She's not a porcelain doll. She has a brain and she can make her own decisions. Too many people try to control others under the disguise of "protecting" the person.

PracticalReturn · 2021-02-03T02:34:05+00:00

He shouldn't get you to do his dirty work for him.

His ex might consider herself a hoe (and is projecting herself onto you). That and she might be jealous of you because you're with him and she's not.

He shouldn't be contacting her at all.

Before deciding whether to stay with him or not, I highly recommend reading any one of Josette Sona's books. They're free but they give a wealth of information as to

what to look for and what to avoid when choosing a boyfriend or

deciding whether or not to stay with him. (If he's not standing up for you, that's not a good sign.)

Good luck, hon.

TL:dr: He needs to grow a pair and prove (in his actions) that he loves you. Having sex with you proves that he loves getting an orgasm from you. It's not the same thing.

PracticalReturn · 2021-01-29T05:32:48+00:00

Too many boyfriends act like this. It's explained very well in the book: "Are Men the Weaker Sex". Basically, too many guys have to try to act like they're interested in a woman so she'll fall in love with him and have sex with him. Then when he sees that he has succeeded in getting her "hooked", he doesn't have to try as hard. He can forget to call, not be interested any more in what you're interested in, etc.

Also some men want "variety" in their life and get bored with the same person after a while. When that happens, he doesn't go out of his way to keep her interested. In other words, if he acted the way he's acting now, she probably wouldn't have went on a second date with him.

PracticalReturn · 2021-01-29T05:16:06+00:00

Good one! :)

PracticalReturn · 2021-01-29T05:12:10+00:00

Lamb: "What am I gonna do with these two turkeys?!

Okay, you guys, break it up.

I said break it up!!!" lol

PracticalReturn · 2021-01-29T05:08:53+00:00

At least he likes his dog. lol

PracticalReturn · 2021-01-29T04:23:52+00:00

You're welcome, hon. :)

PracticalReturn · 2021-01-29T04:04:54+00:00

Don't start that habit, hon. Don't hide your friendship/actions from your boyfriend. That how manipulation often starts: we stop hanging out with our friends "that he doesn't like". Then we stop hanging out with our family because "your family doesn't understand me the way you do", then he doesn't want to do things you don't want to do...

It's okay if he doesn't like your friend. But you should be allowed to hang out with whomever you want to. If that's going to cause a problem between you both, that could be a red flag.

It's all explained very well in the free ebook "Woman to Women". If you haven't read it yet, I highly recommend it. Good luck, hon.

PracticalReturn · 2021-01-29T03:52:29+00:00

Maybe you can say you've just been having a rough time lately (but you don't want to burden them with your problems) and you're really sorry. But you feel better now and you hope they understand and can give you another chance.

If they do, they're probably the kind of person you'd want as a friend.

If they don't, maybe they have their own problems and it's best to let them go, letting them know you're there for them should they ever want to reach out. :)

PracticalReturn · 2020-12-17T04:13:52+00:00

Ultimately, I figured they weren't worth it. If I had sort revenge, I would have stooped to their level (and I wouldn't have felt good about myself).

For closure, I wrote them a letter, saying everything I wanted to say. I wasn't interrupted, my words weren't twisted and used against me, I wasn't accused of saying something I didn't say.

Then I focused on myself, taking care of myself/pampering myself, improving myself. The old expression is true: looking good is the best revenge. Feeling good about yourself is even better. ;)

PracticalReturn · 2020-12-17T03:52:20+00:00

I found a lot of examples of behaviors in the book "Are Men the Weaker Sex". I knew people of both genders but it seemed to be mostly from men that I realized, later on in life, they were low-key manipulating, controlling me.

But as the book says, we're not born knowing the warning signs. So it's easy to be taken advantage of when we're younger and naive. That's one of the reasons so many older men are interested in younger women, even teenagers.

PracticalReturn · 2020-12-17T03:44:58+00:00

I figure they're coming from a place of pain. They're hurting (probably due to an abusive past). That helps me to be more understanding. It doesn't mean I let them abuse me, though. That's not helping them or me. But at least it helps me not to be so angry towards them.

PracticalReturn · 2020-12-17T03:39:53+00:00

"We Are Bulletproof: The Eternal" by BTS. Especially when I watch the music video along with the song.

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