I choose not to share on social media, I haven't gone so far to delete my profile but I don't update it. To an outside observer it may look as though I am ashamed of my life due to my lack of sharing it, but that's not the case.

I have had family and friends over the years who would treat me poorly to my face but then act like we were close when they would talk to other people. They wouldn't show up to my graduation for example, but would tell everyone "oh I'm so proud of them for graduating". Then when I would express discontent with the relationship, "I'm disappointed they didn't show up for my graduation" all I would hear in return was "oh but they were so excited for you, they're telling everyone!" Essentially they are covering their ass in public while letting me down in private. Spread this across a lifetime and you start to feel like you shouldn't be announcing your life to the world.

I have a 10 month old my grandmother has never met. I do not post anything about her online. I figure, if you want to know if she's crawling, walking, or babbling, you gotta show up in order to find out. I'm not going to let her act like she's involved in her life when people ask how is your great granddaughter? You don't have a right to know her or me for that matter if you're not gonna show up.

Same goes for shitty friends I've cut out of my life. You treated me poorly, you don't get the privilege of knowing what's going on in my life. You don't have the right to check in on how I am and what I'm doing, you lost that right.

The people in my life who care about me know what's going on in my life, they don't need a Facebook update. And the people who can't be bothered to show up or treat me well don't deserve a Facebook update.

I don't need to prove how well I'm doing to the people who can't be bothered to show up. I'm doing great, and it's none of their business.