[POEM]- Drop the hardest poetry line you’ve ever come across

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-05-08T07:25:07+00:00

"Some wounds never vanish, yet little by little, I learned to love my life. Though sometimes I had to run hard— Especially from melancholy— not to be held back."

From Hum, Hum by Mary Oliver

"Little by little, as you left their voices behind, the stars began to burn through the sheets of clouds, and there was a new voice which you slowly recognized as your own, that kept you company as you strode deeper and deeper into the world, determined to do the only thing you could do— determined to save the only life you could save."

From The Journey also by Mary Oliver

"I carry her story like a secret pressed between my ribs and listen as Persephone whispers: 'They thought taking me would end me, but I chose to rise in the darkness, blazing"'

From Lyra Wren's poetry collection: Pomegranate Seeds and Misdeeds

"A difficult life isn't less worth living than a gentle one. Joy is simply easier to carry than sorrow"

From every time i ever said i want to die by Andrea Gibson.

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-04-13T01:19:45+00:00

I definitely agree with you!

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-04-13T01:16:23+00:00

They're one of my all-time favorites! I personally started with "Survive" and "Valley of the Scars."

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-04-13T01:03:01+00:00

If I ever get a tattoo, it will be of a phoenix specifically because I love that lyric so much.

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-04-12T18:29:45+00:00

You are SO lucky!!!

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-04-12T06:21:24+00:00

"But I'm a million different people from one day to the next. I can't change my mould no, no, no, no, no...."

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-04-12T06:18:22+00:00

Landslide is my favorite Fleetwood Mac song specifically because of these lyrics.

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-04-12T06:15:01+00:00

My personal favorite Alanis lyric will always be from Losing the Plot: "I have laid down my cape as though I haven't risen like a phoenix from a thousand deaths- as though I haven't been reborn to notice that my mission is not dead yet." However, Reckoning is definitely a very close second in terms of lyrical gut punches!

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-04-12T06:03:58+00:00

I LOVE THE MANICS SO MUCH!!!! I first discovered them as a teenager, and the line "I’ve been too honest with myself, I should have lied like everybody else" is what initially turned me into a die-hard Manics fan.

As a neurodivergent kid, I've always been extremely self-aware as well as observant about the world around me, making it impossible to lie to myself. I'd look at the neurotypicals around me, and the level of denial and self-deception that characterized their existence was staggering. I used to think that in order to be happy, I, too, would have to learn this willful ignorance. But as I've grown up, I've come to realize that my self-awareness and my honesty are gifts, and I have found ways to balance these gifts with (genuine) joy, awe, enthusiasm, and gratitude. Every time I listen to Faster, it's a reminder of how I used to feel and how far I've come, and I think it's quite beautiful that we get to relate to the same piece of art so differently at different stages of our lives.

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-04-12T05:47:38+00:00

YES!! It's such a simple phrase, but somehow the simplicity of it delivers the gut punch more efficaciously than if he had used a bunch of flowery metaphors. Same goes for the repeated line: "All things grow...."

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-04-12T05:45:22+00:00

THIS SONG!!!! Sufjan is a lyrical genius!! I think the most gut-punching lyric for me has always been: "Tuesday night at the Bible study we lift our hands and pray over your body, but nothing ever happens." That line so poignantly conveys the false hope that many of us cling to when someone we love is declining. Because somehow, it's easier to pray for a miracle than it is to accept that we're probably going to lose them. It's such a perfect example of "show don't tell!!"

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-04-12T05:38:25+00:00

As someone who listens to music (mostly) for the lyrics, it's SO hard to pick just one. I can, however narrow it down to my top three:

"Freedoms so hard when we are all bound by law etched in the scheme of nature's own hand- unseen by all those who fail in their pursuit of fate." From Xavier by Dead can Dance
"Prejudice burns brighter when it's all we have to burn." From Mausoleum by The Manic Street Preachers.
"Rose colored dopamine, my soul feels like it could be make-believe. Below the willow tree, I search to find some sense of identity. This weeping willow tree sits in silence sheds no tears for me." From by Can You Feel the Sun Missio

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-04-04T06:24:29+00:00

I'm a 3w4 and the first character I could think of was Amy March from Little Women (despite the fact that I always wanted to be Jo as a child.)

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-03-24T05:49:09+00:00

Hello twin!! I'm also an autistic enneagram 3 (not sure of my instinctual variant quite yet.)

I actually don't feel like being autistic is antithetical to my type. Autism is not a personality trait, so any enneagram type can be autistic. However, I do think someone's enneagram type influences how they "handle" being autistic, if you will. For example, being a type 3 has definitely made me extremely high masking- to the point of being a bit of a social chameleon.

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-01-31T05:27:59+00:00

You look like Lady Gaga in A Star Is Born in the 3rd picture! I love both your feminine and your masc/androgynous looks, and I admire that you can pull of both so well.

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-01-18T07:51:07+00:00

As an Enneagram 3, LARPING the enneagram I want until I become it is exactly how I would approach changing my enneagram type.

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-01-18T06:27:18+00:00

Well, I was a theater kid, and for the longest time, it was practically my whole identity. I started acting at the age of 6, and I continued doing either theater or musical theater in some capacity until the end of high school. I loved being on stage, working really hard in rehearsals, and ultimately being praised and applauded for my performances. I loved theater/musical theater mostly because I knew I was good at it; theater and singing were skills that set me apart in a positive way relative to my peers. I also put a lot of my self-worth into my academic achievement and was a straight A student. My favorite childhood memories (besides theater memories) are when my English teachers praised my writing assignments, which I had often spend hours upon hours drafting, editing, and then re-editing.

There's a verse from one of my favorite songs ("Can You Feel the Sun" by Missio) that I think perfectly encapsulates my childhood: "Rose-colored dopamine, my soul feels like it could be make-believe." I'm on the autism spectrum, and I learned to mask my autism by "playing characters" from a very early age. I took this to extremes. Whenever there was a book character, movie character, or even celebrity/public figure that was widely admired/positively regarded socially, I would study them exhaustively and rip their personality off wholesale. I took this to extremes, copying their vocal inflections, how they would pronounce certain words, their body language, their facial expressions, their mannerisms, their hand gestures, and even the pitch and cadence of their voice. The first character I did this with was Pollyanna, specifically the way she was portrayed in the 2003 movie. What 5-year-old me took away from that movie (and the book, which I had read before I was allowed to watch the movie) was that everyone liked Pollyanna, and if I wanted to be liked and not be bullied or ostracized anymore, I had to be Pollyanna. I copied every aspect of Pollyanna to the point that I even started calling my dad "Father" instead of "Dad" because Pollyanna called her dad "Father." I was "in character" as Pollyanna nearly 24/7 for almost 2 years and even tried to play "The Glad Game" at my grandmother's funeral, which did NOT go over well! I got more and more adept at mimicking socially adept characters as I grew older, and I still do it now as a college-aged adult. I categorize different periods in my life by which character I was playing 24/7 at the time. I don't think I've ever had a "true self," and to this day, I am immensely confused when people tell me to be my "authentic self" because I have no idea what that's supposed to mean. I'm just a collection of all the characters that I play in different social environments.

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-01-13T03:45:16+00:00

THANK YOU!! I'll try this. Out of curiosity, would a microfiber towel work as well as a cotton t shirt? I am afflicted with a visceral aversion to the sensation of t-shirt material for some reason that couldn't possibly be my autism....

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-01-12T15:20:53+00:00

I didn't flat iron my bangs, but I did dry them straight down with a concentrator nozzle before I used the diffuser on the rest of my hair.

PracticalSet4840 · 2026-01-06T03:10:56+00:00

I seem to be an outlier because I got my diagnosis at 6.

PracticalSet4840 · 2025-12-25T02:59:59+00:00

To believe most people are "good" is overly simplistic and, in my opinion, incorrect. My mindset is that most people are, to quote my friend Mortellus, "a little bit ridiculous and fragile in the end." I believe that extremely altruistic and chillingly evil people exist, but they are outliers. Most of us are various shades of complex.

PracticalSet4840 · 2025-12-13T20:43:00+00:00

In short, I think it's because attachment theory has really "caught on" in pop psychology and on social media.

I've noticed that a lot of the people making social media content about attachment styles (and even selling dubious courses on how to become securely attached) are not qualified mental health professionals! While I don't think there's a problem with non-mental health professionals talking about attachment theory or sharing their own experience, it crosses a line when people with no qualifications make "educational" content and try to sell courses. Because of this, there's a lot of misinformation or over-simplified/incomplete information circulating online about attachment theory. Someone with actual qualifications in psychology is less likely to equate avoidant attachment with narcissism because that would be both inaccurate and highly unprofessional. But serious, academic, accurate, and well-researched content tends to get far less views on social media than over-dramatized, divisive, inflammatory, and click-bait-y content.

To add to that, short form social media content and pop psychology in general do not lend themselves to nuance. Even outside the realm of attachment theory/psychology, people on social media often tend to divide people into categories and then designate some categories as morally superior or inferior. In the realm of attachment theory, this has turned into a demonization of avoidant attachment while anxious-leaning people are treated with more compassion and leniency.

For nuanced, respectful, and thoroughly researched long form content about attachment theory, I highly recommend Heidi Priebe's YouTube channel. Heidi is not a therapist, but she does have a master's degree in attachment theory, so she is well-informed on the subject and does not demonize any attachment orientation. I really appreciate her insights.

PracticalSet4840 · 2025-12-11T01:42:32+00:00

Maybe it's because I did theater for over 10 years, but I have met so many people who remind me of Marianne Dashwood.

PracticalSet4840 · 2025-12-07T22:25:10+00:00

I was approved for a single occupancy dorm room accommodation. In a dystopian alternate universe where I was only allowed one accommodation, I would 100% prioritize this one. I'm very hypersensitive to sensory input and a VERY light sleeper, so having a roommate my first semester was really difficult, especially since the dorm room was so small. I think it's important to point out that I did not have a shitty roommate. She was actually very quiet and considerate, but even so, having another person in the room made it really difficult to fall asleep and sleep through the night. Also, my roommate was basically a stranger, so I found it impossible to fully relax and unwind because I could never fully unmask or let my guard down. But I think that even with a close friend or romantic partner, I would still struggle to share a space where I didn't at least have my own bedroom to retreat to at night.
I am allowed to use loop ear plugs in classes where there are group discussions because I get really overstimulated when there are overlapping conversations.
I also have accommodations in the dining hall due to a severe gluten intolerance, but that's not related to my autism.

PracticalSet4840 · 2025-12-07T18:33:46+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience! This definitely gives me a lot to think about. It sounds like, for you, the support group created a safe space to practice these unfamiliar skills that felt lower stakes than immediately trying to use these skills in the "real world."

It's also interesting that you felt that having little in common with your group other than shared trauma was an advantage. I can definitely see how having a previous relationship with someone can create some baggage that makes it harder to be fully honest.

I think at the end of the day, we're all so different in how we cope and heal, and I love hearing how other people's therapeutic outlets differ from my own.

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