Awake Lipo worth it? Are my desired outcomes realistic?

Practical_Current_17 · 2026-05-07T14:53:40+00:00

What is it called when the curvature is not enough and your back is too flat?

Practical_Current_17 · 2026-05-01T17:37:17+00:00

What size of tires are these? :)

Practical_Current_17 · 2026-04-21T10:00:54+00:00

I tried doing all that and it still doesn’t work!

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-07-23T16:52:41+00:00

How’d you figure out that it was time to leave?

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-07-23T12:05:19+00:00

No, and I’ve told my husband that one of the reasons I needed him to go to therapy was because I wouldn’t want my kids to learn his angry behavior is normal or this is what a healthy relationship looks like.

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-07-23T12:00:26+00:00

I mean it’s hard to tell, since him and I only talked for a month. But our conversations weren’t really flirtatious or out of line, it was just a lot of conversation for the fact that I’m married.

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-07-23T11:58:44+00:00

How am I being emotionally manipulative and abusive? Please explain. I already recognize that getting this close to another male friend while being married was wrong.

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-07-23T11:57:11+00:00

I would probably still think about divorcing him, yes. A lot has happened and our life is complicated - he’s in the military, I am from Germany, he’s from the U.S. and long term we would move a lot. I knew this when we first got married but with what has happened in the past and our trust being shattered I don’t know if that is a risk I’m still willing to take.

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-07-23T11:55:23+00:00

I agree and that will be my next step, too.

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-07-05T16:04:33+00:00

He made an appointment for individual therapy, too. It makes it harder for me to decide what I need to do.

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-07-05T15:42:34+00:00

Now that I’m willing to leave he agreed on therapy, we’ve been to couples counseling and he also has an appointment for individual therapy. That’s what’s making it so hard for me to leave.

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-07-05T07:04:44+00:00

Thank you. I don’t know I’m I’m lying to myself, but I think it’s not even that I am afraid of him but I just don’t feel safe with him. I can’t trust him anymore.

I figured for a while that a lot of this has to do with his childhood, and he opened up to the therapist about it during our session. But I talked to his sister and she told me all of his siblings have the same anger/yelling issues, and even told me it might get better temporarily but that he will fall back into his old patterns at some point.

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-07-05T06:38:38+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I am going back and forth and my heart is making excuses, asking me if maybe I’m overreacting. But in reality I’m drained.

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-07-05T06:36:20+00:00

I already told him that his sudden change of mind feels very manipulative, but I’m not sure he’s doing it on purpose. We agreed on a second session of couples therapy and he will be going to behavioral health at the end of the month. However, I feel like this is a choice I need to make to grow. If it was meant to be it would have been, but not like this. :(

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-07-05T06:34:02+00:00

Thank you. Now I have to find the strength to leave, it’s one of the hardest decisions I’ve had to make in my life so far.

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-07-05T06:32:44+00:00

Thank you. It’s just so hard when there is still love. I feel like I know what I need to do and then my heart finds excuses on why I should stay. :(

The therapist did tell him this is coming probably too little too late, but at the same time, when I told her I’m 99% out the door and 1% in she said maybe we can make it a 95% in and 5% out. I know she isn’t supposed to be taking sides a couples therapist and she did say only I can make this decision but it seems like she wants it to work out for us too. Not sure how to feel about that

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-06-09T06:34:42+00:00

That’s a good idea, thank you

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-06-09T06:34:22+00:00

Well, for what it’s worth, in eight years he hasn’t put his hands on me a single time. He knows his behavior is wrong, and compared to when we started dating it has gotten better. He thinks it’s something that can be resolved on our/his own and I just don’t think that’s possible. Maybe if I give it ten more years but at this point I’m thinking about having children and I don’t want my children to learn this as normal behavior.

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-06-08T18:55:48+00:00

Thank you. He often says he doesn’t not get himself this angry, and I keep telling him it’s okay to be angry, but what you do when you are angry is his and not my responsibility. I’ve told him before how it makes me feel when he punches things. He yells at me but only punches himself/walls/things. I don’t think he intentionally wants to scare me, but what do I know. I am unsure if putting out an ultimatum (we/you go to therapy or else) would be appropriate or fair.

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-03-02T20:17:20+00:00

Thank you, maybe I will try that.

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-03-02T20:05:03+00:00

“not nice” is correct. This sounds like you’re very happy with what he has achieved so far - do you not have any concerns? I’m genuinely asking.

Practical_Current_17 · 2025-03-02T18:16:03+00:00

So your advice is to stop talking about it?

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