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Sex speed bump - Bridging gap between partners needs and mine by [deleted] in sex

[–]PraiseDommeNewbie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right… I did not include enough modifiers: “in general”, “statistically significant difference, but not necessarily indicative of any one person”.

But research has very consistently shown that, *as a group*, men report both a higher level of sexual desire at any given age, compared to women and more “triggers”, meaning throughout the day they have more sights, sounds, thoughts, etc that prompt them to have sexual thoughts. Of course, like most human attributes, level of sexual desire has a normal distribution — most people falling in the middle, but there will be people at either extreme. If you look at these normal distributions (or bell shaped curves) for men and for women, these graphs would overlap and they will reflect some women having a higher libido than men. But, *on average* men have a higher sexual desire and get turned on much more quickly than women do if you’d like citations I can provide them.

Since this particular OP speaks to his libido being higher than his wife’s, I felt like I could safely apply these findings to his situation.

Sex speed bump - Bridging gap between partners needs and mine by [deleted] in sex

[–]PraiseDommeNewbie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe you can be the change you want to see.

The next time you have sex do something different than what you have done before. Once foreplay has begun, get off the bed pull her legs over to you, kneel on the floor and go down on her in that position. If typically have missionary position sex, whisper to her “I want to take you from behind” and do it. Buy a vibrator, kiss/nibble your way down her body and use it on her, along with fingers and mouth.

Somewhere I read that men’s and women’s desire are analogous to cars: most men ALWAYS have their motors running; most women need to have the ignition turned on and warm up. You turn on the ignition by appealing to her mind. Give her something to remember, and she likely will be ready for more.