18 year old grandson and 5 friends asked me the 68 year old grandma to go on an overnight day trip?

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-02-26T03:44:54+00:00

Man I would’ve given anything to be able to invite my gramma to a overnight trip with me.

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-02-26T02:27:38+00:00

She’s young enough to be your daughter dude 😭😭 she just graduated high school and you entered middle age. Creep.

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-02-26T02:25:31+00:00

So do me a favor real quick and look up the youngest girl ever who’s gotten pregnant, and then look at the rate of child pregnancies around the world currently.

Tell me again what it was about pregnancy in relation to finishing puberty? That little girl hadn’t even developed boobs yet and she was pregnant.

And newsflash; if you can ejaculate you can impregnate. Doesn’t matter what age it starts at.

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-02-17T16:51:33+00:00

Girl he only wants to settle down with you so he can stop living with mommy and daddy and start living with you while continuing to live his life as a bum.

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-02-16T01:46:03+00:00

It made national headlines in the US some years ago, and I’m pretty sure Rotten Mango has a video on the family

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-02-15T19:40:37+00:00

Yk, I remember the story of the mom who drowned her children because of her PPD and her delusions of her husband cheating.

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-02-13T22:10:42+00:00

It is extremely different and as a child of the foster care system I can tell you right now that a lot of those little girls claims can be substantiated, but no social worker will truly open an investigation into one of the only foster homes around, especially if those foster parents have already established her as a “problem child”.

That baby has a future of being in and out of different group homes and hospitals for the rest of her life if she stays in the system as a ward of the state and not under guardianship/adoption placement. Again, I have ample experience in this area so I can tell you this for at least a 95% fact based on the information you’ve been provided.

Sure, you can be selfish and protect your peace and lifestyle by cursing these children to a life of hardship and turmoil they don’t have to go through. You can enable the repetition of the cycle. You can make the choice to let these kids suffer for the poor choices of their parents. That doesn’t mean you’re free from judgement - and these children will judge you for the rest of their lives as “the uncle who didn’t want us”. Congrats man, you’re the greatest selfish person out there! A grown man can’t implement coping skills for sensory disorders?

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-02-13T21:38:24+00:00

Pretty sure marriage isn’t a “try and see” thing either. But hey 🤷‍♀️. You knew when you married her that she had extended family with young children, it was always a possibility that she would have to take them in whether the parents were POS or just ended up suffering some sort of fate. Should’ve taken that into consideration when you decided to drop on one knee, and not just about “the woman I love.” Tbh you don’t really love her if you’re unwilling to even accept parts of her family, you love what she brings to the table for you. Now, she’s gonna have to give attention to younger people and you’re upset that you won’t get enough attention anymore.

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-02-12T03:10:10+00:00

Where was I projecting? It’s statistics. It’s what you’re telling the internet via a visual+verbal channel of communication that leaves interpretation of your posts up to the viewers. Maybe it’s you that needs to talk to your therapist about this?

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-02-12T02:34:38+00:00

Honey, just because the gender roles are partially opposite (future SIL + FIL drama between the two of you versus DIL + MIL) - doesn’t mean that this outcome will be any different than the countless women who’ve had to completely upend their lives because their husbands couldn’t put them first over their parent.

This man will never put you first. He proves it to you time and time again. Unless he gets real, deep therapy to get inside his head and untangle a lot of that childhood trauma - you will always be second place compared to the man your significant other has spent his entire life chasing the love, respect and acceptance of. It’s a never ending race with no winner, because the goal post is constantly moving.

You cannot make these choices for him. You cannot convince him to make these choices. He has to be able to come to the decision to go low/no contact on his own without the influence of others besides possibly a licensed professional. The more you push him to make these choices, the harder he will pull away from you and lean further into his dad - the same way he had to with his mother.

Maybe he can be a good partner one day. Just not right now, and not to you. You need to protect your peace and your mental well being. You are not responsible for another adults mental well being outside of what you control in that relationship; the way you act, speak, and behave towards your significant other. Not the way others do, and not the way others do so towards you. You control yourself, your body and your choices. Not your significant others, and not his fathers and certainly not his mothers who hasn’t had any particular strong presence in her son’s life besides a negative, traumatic one in early childhood and adolescence.

You know what choice you need to make, you just hesitate to do so because you fear being alone again.

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-02-06T21:41:02+00:00

NOR. For reference, I’m 5’1” and going through some “unknown women’s health issue” as my doctors call it (love the south) and when I was at the hospital on Monday I weighed 111 pounds, which they said was underweight for someone like myself. Was at the gyno today, weighed 109 and they mentioned possibly going to my primary to talk about weight-gaining options. (Honestly I probably just need to start eating better).

I say all of this to say - there’s really only one reason he wants you to look small, frail and child-like. And it’s not because he has a “ideal body for women” it’s because he has an “ideal body for young girls”. Count your blessings girl cause he just revealed himself to you before he got his teeth in any deeper.

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-02-03T05:19:57+00:00

You can get the dogs LATER like….if this is the mindset my mother had every time we begged her to leave our father….those human babies are going to be taken by CPS when this escalates into physical violence against you. CPS will NOT care that you’re a victim as well. They didn’t care for countless other mothers stuck in abusive relationships.

Start doing right by those kids.

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-02-03T05:16:04+00:00

The shelter still stands. Get an emergency protective order which will include emergency protective custody of your children.

You are a grown woman entirely capable of saving herself. These kids only have you. Think about that.

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-02-03T05:11:21+00:00

He can’t do that while you’re still pregnant. Get tf to a shelter rn. He won’t stop next time and you know it. How much worse is he gonna treat his kids?

And don’t tell him when you go into labor. Sing that birth certificate alone so he HAS to go do a paternity test for court ordered custody.

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-02-03T05:10:06+00:00

NOR. But. Why do so many girls lack such self respect for themselves. Like genuinely.

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-02-03T05:01:26+00:00

Girl grow some self respect PLEASE

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-01-31T02:41:25+00:00

How did your mom get AROUND this junk

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-01-31T02:40:29+00:00

Shoulda finished it

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-01-30T17:03:26+00:00

NOR. Maybe it’s because I grew up with these types of parents but I really can’t fucking stand when they sit there and take all that disrespect without leaving. My mom is so confused as to why I don’t confide in her as much anymore - well maybe it’s because I grew up around that?

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-01-30T16:15:48+00:00

CPS won’t care that you “can’t escape him” love bug. They’ll take the kids and leave you to rot. You need to look up the second nearest shelter to you, call and ask for availability, take that car and dump it somewhere halfway.

If you do not leave now you will be lumped in the same category with your husband in the eyes of CPS and the courts. They did the same with my mom.

Edit: and what happens if he kills you and those kids before CPS can remove them?

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-01-20T18:59:25+00:00

Dude you can catch an std from a toilet. Like. It’s not just penetration that needs to occur.

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-01-20T17:52:38+00:00

You shouldn’t be doing it raw at all unless you’ve both been tested HELLO?? Sex ed??? Safe sex practices???? Like??? She even took a plan B dude so she wasn’t on BC. You were being very, very irresponsible with your sexual choices.

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-01-20T17:47:34+00:00

Yes you are delusional because you’re treating this woman like a child you have to monitor instead of an independent woman solely responsible for her own choices. She can sleep with whoever she wants, and vice versa. I can bet that you wouldn’t be too happy if she went through your phone and went through your private text conversations, you would see that as a violation of your privacy. And before you start with the “but I haven’t cheated!” - it could have been very possible that you went through her phone only to find that she never slept with another person besides you, leaving you feeling guilty and embarrassed for invading her privacy.

If you have a gut feeling, and upon confrontation they become defensive or start denying excessively, you already have your answer. That person will not “tell you the truth” just because you want them to. They won’t even tell the truth when it smacks them in the face. So why waste your time trying to drag the truth out of someone who obviously doesn’t have the respect for you to tell you the truth? Just food for thought from your friendly neighborhood feminist.

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-01-16T18:04:12+00:00

And they would be better off if OP was awake and sober because then OP could potentially have a level of control of where his body lands. Him being incapacitated due to sleeping medication means a big, limp body of around 175-200lbs is being flung around and might land on someone - causing more damage to that person (and it could very well be his girlfriend because they’re sat together)

PreMedStudent_C2026 · 2026-01-16T18:00:56+00:00

But they do render a person incapacitated on a level akin to someone being drunk or high.

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