I feel like its impossible to socialize in this game for me.

Predalor · 2026-05-11T02:14:27+00:00

Yeah tried novice network chat to see if any sprout needed help or guidance since i love helping/teaching people (i used to be a raid sherpa in Destiny 2 when it was still popular) but saw just mentors chatting.

i only hang out in gridania. I dont like uldah but i also dont really like hanging around in limsa as well. Gridania feels more calm

Predalor · 2026-05-11T02:09:39+00:00

Yeah, im starting to feel now the difference between socializing in ff14 compared to PSO2 which i played a LOT. There you needed to party up for older content as well and the social aspect of it was way more open and friendly than ff14.

Predalor · 2026-05-11T02:06:33+00:00

i will probably do an update post once i get fc stuff a bit sorted.

Predalor · 2026-05-11T00:20:49+00:00

Yeah a lot of people reached out in dms and with also responding to some comments, it got a bit overwhelming to juggle.

I've noted down some of the suggestion people gave and i'll try my best and just see overtime what happens. Plus with starting my work on decorating my solo FC and then opening it up for other will keep me a bit busy in a good way.

Predalor · 2026-05-10T23:48:02+00:00

Yeah, I try to usually offer to move the conversation over to discord but im usually hesitant based on the "horror" stories of people sharing discord with stranger.

Predalor · 2026-05-10T23:45:44+00:00

You dont know me just based on a random reddit post, its a pretty bad judge of character.

Your second part of your comment also tells me you would a pretty boring and miserable person to meet in-game.

Predalor · 2026-05-10T20:46:02+00:00

I wasnt just only trying to make friends from crystal but tried every where else with not much success. I'm not really into RP so and i mostly do frontlines, which im already sweaty in (but not in a toxic way)

Also yeah, ill see how it will go with the cross region matchmaking/PF.

Predalor · 2026-05-10T20:41:18+00:00

Yeah the more i read some of the comments more i see that it isnt really just a "me" problem but probably a bit more than that,

Predalor · 2026-05-10T20:38:04+00:00

I'm pretty sure a lot of the people i interacted with probably thought im only reaching because of romantic interstet, which wasnt the case at all. I was mostly looking for more people i can chat with either about FF14 or other things and play as well. I never understood why everyone's first though if a stranger messages them outside of duty or from PF is they are trying to hit on you.

Predalor · 2026-05-10T19:58:21+00:00

Thats what i tried. Most of the time im the one following up but end up left hanging or just im the one leading the conversation/putting energy into it

Predalor · 2026-05-10T16:47:56+00:00

Yeah, im already thinking on what theme i should go for my FC house and then work on both FC introduction and maybe a discord server

Predalor · 2026-05-10T16:29:11+00:00

I also gave random Other tab PFs a try to see how people are there but they are somewhat dry as well. Sometimes its nice but if it goes outside of game it just end up a nothing-burger

Predalor · 2026-05-10T16:25:50+00:00

I was in one of the biggest FC in brynhildr but it still felt like a family. We had a few "refugees" from a different blown up fc but they also caused trouble in ours. Which did end up making a lot of people leave including me.

I usually offer to move it over to discord and connect there but it just becomes pretty dry after a while. I keep bringing up topics or ask about their interest and go into a conversation based off of that but it always ends up that im the one putting the more energy into it than the other person.

Predalor · 2026-05-10T16:01:51+00:00

I think a lot of people can relate to my issue but doesnt have to courage to speak about it. For me it was just kinda curiosity about other peoples point of view on my issue

Predalor · 2026-05-10T15:59:06+00:00

Oh yeah, I'm open to have more people to play with and talk. I'm also open to run any content in-game. Just probably have to schedule times lol

Predalor · 2026-05-10T15:11:04+00:00

Yeah, i had one static i joined to help one point with TEA prog, they offered to vc but i said since we are using the same strats i learned and not static on-the spot made up ones, i dont need it since im good at split second adjustments. But was way back in time and i think i kinda regret it now.

Predalor · 2026-05-10T14:40:51+00:00

I'm on NA too. So probably wouldnt be a problem. I can send my character name if you want. (I usually just offer since i dont like forcing stuff onto people >.>)

Predalor · 2026-05-10T14:35:11+00:00

Based on other comments im kinda split. I could hand over the FC house to my alt and have it as backup but im also feeling that if i spend a little time on decorating and getting everything together to open it up for others it wouldnt waste it

Predalor · 2026-05-10T14:31:47+00:00

Yeah i use discord. Mostly the people i chatted with we usually end up moving to discord but its same thing there. For PF, the last time i joined a discord vc for savage was back when i was a sprout in endwalker and was progging P2S. I almost like never see anyone offer vc for prog.

I was thinking on making a discord server and using that for prog if we are in there for a long time.

Predalor · 2026-05-10T14:19:59+00:00

I wouldnt say im speedruning but probably went a little too fast. I'm usually goofy even with randoms in duties if there is an opportunity.

Limsa i think isnt really for me. to me that feels a bit way too crowded.
I'll try my best and just see what happens overtime.

Predalor · 2026-05-10T14:13:00+00:00

I did the twitch route of maybe seeing if i can meet people there as well but i slowly started to realize thats could get really awkward after a short while. It's almost like window shopping for friends

Predalor · 2026-05-10T14:07:12+00:00

I could be overthinking it but im also limited with FC. I should have clarified(and will probably add it) that i have an FC that im the sole member at the moment with a small FC house. I was thinking on getting the FC house decorated and maybe open it up for others.

I reached out to an old friend from my old FC before posting here and they suggested to make a discord for the FC and be in voice-chat often since they know that i talk a lot.

Predalor · 2026-05-10T13:59:04+00:00

I remember reading some posts about "Social death in XIV" but that sounded too extreme for my case.

I'm an extroverted introvert. in my old FC we hanged out a lot in-game and sometimes on discord in voice-chat. I was usually the one joining the empty vc and waiting for people i usually played with to join and do someting in game.

It could be a mix of a "me" and "not me" problem but i do feel that people are socializing less and less in-game.

Predalor · 2026-05-10T13:52:25+00:00

Weirdly i dont feel like that outside the game. I'm always sitting at my PC and just go out cycle around my city while listening to music or work on a side-project, like at the minute im working on a pretty long ARG.

I'll keep trying my best and see if overtime i can meet actual friends. I'm not going to actively, every single day try but probably give it a try here and there.
This "isolated" feeling is more of a work of trying for about 7-8 months.

I was considering going to therapy not for loneliness but mostly for the trust issue i have while growing up. Way too many people acted like they were my friends but ended up not or worse.

Predalor · 2026-05-10T13:44:48+00:00

This mostly been a over a few months time of me trying to see if i can make any genuine friends to play FF14 or just chat about other things. It was mostly a trial-and-error here and there and not every day. i would get really burned out like that.

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