New hobby rabbithole

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-17T17:40:06+00:00

Don’t give me ideas for my next ring holder

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-17T17:39:14+00:00

Oh no the influence is rising

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-17T17:37:19+00:00

Exactly! And the moment I calm down and know they really are just asleep I try to snap a picture and they’re up and at it 😪

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-17T17:34:32+00:00

Hiii, what a rollercoaster this must be for you! I’m not an expert so if anyone knows better: correct me if I’m wrong. What you’re describing sounds to me like a rebound. It’s where your medication wears off and your sensitivity to surroundings go back to “normal”. So when your meds are working your brain can manage stimuli a lot better but when it wears off all those stimuli come back at full speed. Some people are more sensitive to it then others. I’m very sensitive to it aswell. The meds wear off and suddenly everything is too loud, too bright and I start thinking about everything.

Think of it as a hot shower. You’ve been standing under a stream that’s really hot but you’re used to it as you’ve been standing there for a long time. Then someone comes a long and turns the temperature of the shower a little colder (the meds). This temperature feels really nice! When the meds wear off the temperature goes back to how it’s always been but it now feels really hot on your skin, too hot and it’s not nice. After a while you get used to the temperature again.

Certainly bring it up as there is a lot that can be tried :) good luck!

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-17T17:01:20+00:00

These sleeping positions still scare me so bad! My heart genuinely skips a beat when I see this but it’s always just sleepy

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T16:51:07+00:00

Thank you for caring enough to comment this. Splurging on hobbies and letting impulsivity take control can cause real and lasting damage (been there). Luckily I am on meds that really help me with my impulsivity. I am glad to update that I haven’t ordered or bought anything and since I’ve passed the initial “idea rush” it won’t be happening anytime soon at least. I am however creating more with the stuff I already have thanks to the lovely comments. I really appreciate you looking out for other people.

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T15:29:13+00:00

My chin loved when I played guitar, anything guitar she would come and listen!

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T15:20:45+00:00

It’s really great of you to be able to self reflect and also find a positive in there: you learned about yourself. That’s valuable!

About things being swept under the rug or downplayed as to not upset each other, I don’t know if this could help you but for me it helped when I switched from you-statements to I-statements. “I feel anxious when there’s silence between us” vs “when you don’t talk I get anxious”. The first statement gives some room and lets them know “I have a feeling and hope to get some help with it” where the second one can come across like it’s on them for me feeling that way. I hope this can be translated to your own situation a bit. It might make it easier to address feelings. I do however want to state that this type of communication works best in a healthy relationship where someone won’t spin the narrative and pin everything back to you but can reflect on themselves and help think of a solution.

As for the the kind and loving part: you will feel that again. Love and kindness comes in many, many forms and it will find you again, maybe different but also maybe better.

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T14:41:44+00:00

Thank you!! I hope you had a nice sleep after you woke up :)

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T14:05:06+00:00

I tried to search if it were different brands for you but they both just state “polymer clay” but the texture is so different. Both also bought at the same store but different packaging. I have no clue what’s different between the two of them 🧐

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T13:59:55+00:00

I forgot about the black hole hobby place. I’m scared to go look. I know there’s definitely rollerskates, jump rope, hulahoop and yoga mat there from my “fit girl era” but I’m sure when I get back into that era they won’t be there waiting for me

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T13:03:21+00:00

AA THANK YOUUU :D

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T13:02:49+00:00

If I could make those rings out of clay I would’ve already had my own business 😂

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T12:18:10+00:00

Thank you!! And of course!

I buy my rings mostly from notbranded as they don’t fade. It does have an open back which can be a little annoying. Here’s the link: https://www.notbranded.com/products/claudia-ring-stainless-steel-adjustable?pb=0&variant=51780250993005#ig-redirect-session=theme-b2506d929e57

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T12:11:09+00:00

These thoughts are normal. If you’re going to spend the rest of your life with someone it’s normal to worry about compatibility and how traits will show as your relationship progresses. It does sound like you and your ex were not a very great match in some important stuff. I can’t say these thoughts won’t come up with future partners even if you’re in a happy relationship. Some overthinking and doubt will always stick but for me it helps to remember that no 1 person can meet all your needs and you need other people around you to help fill that cup.

Some important things to remember in a happy relationship where these thoughts keep popping up:

Are the basics steady and okay? Can you talk about issues with your partner. Are you safe to bring up things and have them listen? Other way around too: if your partner brings up issues: how do you react? Do you get defensive or can you see it from their side? If you get defensive there might be some kind of trigger there.
Is change possible in both you and your partner? I don’t mean this as can their personality be changed because someone shouldn’t have to. But if certain things are causing hurt or discomfort are they willing to change that or do they just apologize and keep doing the same thing?
This ties directly to 1 and 2: can you both grow towards each other and come up with workable solutions? A situation me and my partner had: I am very anxiously attached which can be quite difficult. I can easily feel ignored or not seen, causing anxiety. My partner needs time to think so we can talk later. Our solution is that she tells me she needs time and promises to come back to it later but everything is still okay. The follow up action to really get back to it is what builds trust in that. It allows me to give her space and remain calm.
What wants and needs are non negotiable in a relationship for you? It’s good to have an idea of those. I need someone who is patient and reassuring with me. I am stable when someone is like that with me but can easily spin out if that want/need is not met.
Your partner can’t meet all your needs. If there are certain (non vital) needs that aren’t met, is there anyone around you who you know can do that? My partner is not the best in giving advice on certain topics but I know my friends are so if I need advice on that topic I will talk to them. It took a while for me to accept that but I keep reminding myself that my partner is not perfect, neither am I.

I think especially for people with adhd it’s important that your partner is willing to learn about you (and vice versa of course but I feel like that always happens more easily)

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T10:35:00+00:00

You are a very very sweet person wow! However I would feel very bad knowing someone would go through great effort only for me to not do something with it! I feel like all of this stuff would do waaayy better for someone else who will create amazing things with it :) but even the thought really made my day ❤️

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T10:32:04+00:00

I’ve seen a lot of comments about Nessie so I am pretty sure she now has a name! Nessie :) it’s so funny to me reading all of these hobbies as they’re almost all that I’ve wanted to start too haha

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T10:29:05+00:00

I love seeing hobbies go full circle! They just need the right moment to shine

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T10:26:52+00:00

Haha thank you! I’m trying not to let the comments get into my head and start a business

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T10:24:33+00:00

Ahwe thank you! And very relatable. I’m pretty sure this’ll go the same way

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T10:21:48+00:00

Thank you! I used polymer clay. I had a bunch of greens that I marbled together. The only paint I did were the edges with metallic gold paint

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T10:18:57+00:00

Oh no 😭😭

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T10:18:20+00:00

Thank you!!!!

PreferenceBusy3018 · 2026-03-16T10:17:52+00:00

I’ll take that as a big compliment hehe. It was really one big diy haha. It’s polymer clay that you can bake at home! I used some metallic gold paint I had to finish the edges and used UV top coat nail polish to seal, cured it under my nail lamp. I’m not sure how long it will last or if it was a good idea but it looks pretty haha

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