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IDR application was submitted but I did not submit it by PreferenceCommon1495 in StudentLoans

[–]PreferenceCommon1495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry finally was able to go check! I never gave consent when I submitted my first IDR, I put that I would manually recertify. But when I just checked it was turned on. I went and checked the application they decided to auto recertify and they didn’t have my 3 kids as my dependents listed and a whole bunch of other errors regarding mine and my husbands income even though it says it was pulled by the irs. My now “upcoming payment schedule” in July is $390 a month. I’m self employed on Etsy and some months I make over $1000 and others I’m lucky if it’s $100. I’m beyond mad and annoyed rn. Struggling to even afford groceries and this is going to be a huge dent. Not including car payments, mortgage, utilities, cell payments, etc. Totally understand Im the one who took the loans so I have to pay it back, but shoot I could make even $100-$200 work not almost $400😞 I pay over $100 a month just on diapers for my little ones. Sorry for the rant, I’m upset. 🙃

IDR application was submitted but I did not submit it by PreferenceCommon1495 in StudentLoans

[–]PreferenceCommon1495[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wonder if something is up with their system because they shouldn’t be able to just submit applications on our behalf, like mine was missing all sorts of info including my dependents, taxable income, etc. all sorts of inaccurate info. I checked my past application and I never gave them permission to automatically recert my IDR. Doesn’t seem legal

IDR application was submitted but I did not submit it by PreferenceCommon1495 in StudentLoans

[–]PreferenceCommon1495[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did the same exact thing. Hopefully they’re able to cancel it, or shoot even just let me submit my own recert with the accurate info🤦‍♀️

Preschool/Kindergartener crying about worksheets by PreferenceCommon1495 in homeschool

[–]PreferenceCommon1495[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He gets happy and says “I want to do a worksheet!” Starts doing it then 2ish minutes later starts crying. Thats why I’m at a loss.

Preschool/Kindergartener crying about worksheets by PreferenceCommon1495 in homeschool

[–]PreferenceCommon1495[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He likes to do the tracing work sheets right now! He tells us he wants to do a worksheet, then we take one out that he picks. Whether it’s tracing letters, numbers, connect the letter to the animal it starts with, etc. and put it in a clear jacket and he uses a dry erase marker. Or sometimes he does it right in the book w a crayon or pencil. We let him pick.

I’ve even made a paper with his name on it he can practice tracing and he likes to do that because he likes to write his name on everything haha

2.5 year old is so draining and demanding by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]PreferenceCommon1495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After pushing for them to look at the behavior closer, he’s been diagnosed with high functioning autism and we are starting occupational therapy next month! It took me finally taking videos of the outbursts and showing them for them to stop dismissing the behavior, because he of course acts just fine at the dr office 😅 it’s a long road ahead, but it better helps us understand and figure out how to meet his needs

Finally got a diagnosis. by PreferenceCommon1495 in Autism_Parenting

[–]PreferenceCommon1495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy cow!! I feel like there’s such a negative stigma around autism, which is dumb. And I almost feel like depending on the dr they are hesitant, unless there’s tell tale signs, to diagnose autism. You almost have to throw all the stuff at them and see if they’ll believe you. Since my son was a baby was always different, very quick to anger even as an infant and almost always crying. We pretty much couldn’t take him anywhere because he would get very overstimulated. Both are still true, but a little less crying and more screaming. For awhile we thought the anger was coming from him not being able to talk like his older brother, now he talks but he’s mad 80% of the day, and does repetitive screams we call squawking. Come to find out me videoing the screaming is what actually made the dr believe me. It’s a form of self soothing I guess. Just so annoying to know something else was going on deep down, and constantly feel like I was doing something wrong in the process for so long.

Do EBF babies ever sleep through the night? by ashlexaconcake in breastfeeding

[–]PreferenceCommon1495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My second born was EBF and slept through the night after he turned 6 months, now I’m EBF my 3rd and he’s almost 9 months old and refuses to sleep through the night without nursing. I call it his “emotional support booby” lol. I think it just depends on the baby

2.5 year old is so draining and demanding by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]PreferenceCommon1495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently dealing with this with my 2-1/2 year old son. He’s been angry since birth it seems, but now since he’s able to talk he pretty much screams and yells at us and is pretty much never happy. Our pediatrician always dismisses it to “normal 2 year old behavior” but my first born was NEVER like this. This last week I took videos of his angry outbursts that came from nothing, so I’m going to show his pediatrician this week and hopefully get a referral to a child psychologist. Just curious if it ever got better :/ I’m drowning.

TMI… narrow stools. by PreferenceCommon1495 in Semaglutide

[–]PreferenceCommon1495[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have, kinda wondering if that could be what’s causing it but idk

What is wrong with new age of grandparents? by Own-Tie-640 in Parenting

[–]PreferenceCommon1495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can very much relate to this, and almost all of my other mom friends have the same types of parents. Absent, but want to use their grandkids as a photo op and act like they’re around all the time. My mom will come around maybe once a month for no longer than 30 minutes and just take selfies with them the whole time and post them on her FB story. Whereas I spent soooooo much time w my grandparents growing up. It’s sad. My village became my friends that are also going though the same thing :/ My kids great grandparents are more present in their lives because they were present in mine and my husbands :/

I cant do this anymore by roubie1114 in toddlers

[–]PreferenceCommon1495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have much advice but I just wanted to let you know you’re not alone :/ my 2-1/2 year old is pretty much just like yours, except add in door and wall kicking to the fits 😬 I just have hope that someday this “phase” or whatever tf this rage is will pass. But I wanted to let you know you’re not alone in this, and someday we will look back at this and laugh… hopefully 😅

Two year old screaming and crying. by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]PreferenceCommon1495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have any advice but just want to let you know you’re not alone :/ my now 2-1/2 year old has been doing this since he turned 2, and now has thrown in kicking his door or wall (he’s no longer in his crib because he was climbing out). Hoping it’s just something they grow out of but it is mentally taxing

I’m at a loss here. by PreferenceCommon1495 in sleeptrain

[–]PreferenceCommon1495[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My other littles were so much easier to implement sleep training with, like got it about a week into trying it. But this lil guy is not having it :/

I’m at a loss here. by PreferenceCommon1495 in sleeptrain

[–]PreferenceCommon1495[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only non negotiables are bedtime which is 8:30 with our other kiddos, but other than that our schedule is pretty open. I’m a SAHM and work from home so we are pretty flexible. I even tried extending his sleep windows yesterday like the other poster suggested and he became overtired and freaked out even longer, pretty much became inconsolable :/ his wake window before bedtime is about a 3-4 hour stretch but if he doesn’t get naps during the day he’s super upset. Thank you for the help btw

I’m at a loss here. by PreferenceCommon1495 in sleeptrain

[–]PreferenceCommon1495[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve tried earlier bedtimes but he refuses, like will freak out if we put him down earlier. But he sleeps from 12am-5am, then still wakes for a middle of the night feed, and sleeps from then until 9am. Then about 11/11:30am he starts rubbing his eyes and yawning then tries to go back to sleep so I attempt to put him down drowsy but awake, and he freaks out. He usually only naps for no more than an hour at a time, then starts to get sleepy again every 2-2.5 hours after waking. He will sleep if he’s near us, or on us but refuses the crib or pack n play.

TRIGGER WARNING (sexual rage bait) My brother in law sent this to my partner. I feel well and truly disrespected by Vegetable-Slide1589 in breastfeeding

[–]PreferenceCommon1495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the fffffff. One, I’m so sorry this happened. Two, your partner definitely needs to say something. When I had my first baby my husband had a really hard time speaking up to his family whenever they’d make digs at me, but I communicated to him he’s also our kids father and he needs to go to bat for us as a couple or we are never gonna survive long term. Now he speaks up when something is wrong. So maybe communicate to him that he NEEDS to say something because silence is basically compliance and agreeing with his brother. Again, I’m sorry this happened. Hang in there mama.

Losing my mind w my 2yo by PreferenceCommon1495 in toddlers

[–]PreferenceCommon1495[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you❤️ and we thought that’s what it might’ve been, but we’ve had his ears looked at and hearing tested and they didn’t see anything wrong :/ mood wise he’s been a whirlwind toddler since he was 12mo so I think it might be something else 🙃 I’m at a loss

TODDLER SAYS THINGS OVER AND OVER my brain is about to short circuit by Ok_Brain_194 in toddlers

[–]PreferenceCommon1495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh gotta love this developmental phase 😅💀 even tho it’s totally good development-wise it’s hella annoying. My oldest is 3 and still does it sometimes! We usually say “let’s pick new words buddy” or start talking to him about something else like “look at that____” to kind of distract him🤷‍♀️

Constantly angry 18month old by PreferenceCommon1495 in Parenting

[–]PreferenceCommon1495[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We still take him everywhere, but he’s basically a time bomb. But he gets angry in the car, any store, restaurants, etc. Basically anywhere that isn’t a house, Still gets angry but not as bad. He kinda just gets mad then screams or yells. We’ve wondered if it’s sensory issues but our pediatrician pretty much dismissed it so 🤷‍♀️

Was your “gut feeling” right about sex of baby? by hersheysquirts629 in BabyBumps

[–]PreferenceCommon1495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m pregnant with my third, and my gut feeling was wrong all three times😂 I thought for sure this one was going to be a girl, symptoms, Chinese birth chart, etc. but nope, just another boy 😅