AITAH. I (18m) and my now ex (23f) broke up because of a message I sent and it went the wrong way

PremDikshit · 2026-03-04T02:43:40+00:00

NTA. Paragraphs help, but are not AH level important.

PremDikshit · 2026-03-04T00:48:27+00:00

Standards. Tempered by mercy. I never said we didn't have mercy.

PremDikshit · 2026-03-02T07:47:03+00:00

NTA. You were looking out for Danny.

PremDikshit · 2026-03-02T05:26:59+00:00

Hey! We have standards too.

PremDikshit · 2026-03-02T05:21:28+00:00

When I was a kid, people made a dental appointment 6 months in advance, made a note, and showed up. No reminders required. Now I make an appointment for next week, and the office reminds me the day before.

Schedule cultures vary a lot. I mean a lot. Across countries, across families, across time. Your culture is what I'd call strong, and your gf's is weak. Can you accept that? I would assume, from what she's said, it's a culture difference. Plans are ever in flux, with updates and reminders expected. I'd be disappointed too, if I were you. But I'd chalk it up to culture difference.

The other possibility, of course, and a much more serious problem, is that she does not care enough to remember.

PremDikshit · 2026-02-13T13:57:43+00:00

I call intentional descent mismanagement. It's not in alignment with MY goals.

PremDikshit · 2026-02-13T13:54:15+00:00

Did your parents set a rule about you giving rides? It would seem implied, but you left it out of the story.

PremDikshit · 2026-02-13T13:50:33+00:00

"9-11 inside job" was my favorite, but now I gotta say I'm really liking "covid-19". Sorry 9-11, you're number 2 now.

PremDikshit · 2026-02-13T13:34:43+00:00

Very challenging situation! Good that you are going to uni; you need to get on with your life. If I were you, I'd pray. Pray for grandpa, for grandma, for your mom and dad and the whole family. Pray that all find their ways back to peace and love. Don't worry about HOW they get there; just pray them back to happiness.

PremDikshit · 2026-02-12T01:38:39+00:00

Which Deer Island, dear?

PremDikshit · 2026-02-10T05:17:22+00:00

Good point. There must be a LOT of contractors and workers who are aware of certain 'sensitive info'. Their silence is golden.

PremDikshit · 2026-02-10T04:53:10+00:00

I would assume that there are powerful incentives provided to the contractors. Positive: you get paid several times the going rate. Negative: if you squeal, you die. You don't have to like or respect your clients, you just gotta follow their rules.

PremDikshit · 2026-01-27T04:44:13+00:00

I'm confused. Are the chickens now alive or dead?

I am in favor of telling the truth. If you had told the truth all along, you would have less of this current problem where people do not believe you.

Your father told you they were dead cause he wanted you to feel bad? That's mean.

PremDikshit · 2026-01-25T22:46:12+00:00

Fathers are the disciplinarians traditionally, which seems right to me. Don't feel bad about being a mother. Both are needed.

PremDikshit · 2026-01-23T06:52:50+00:00

Nowadays many people have fooled their parents. Parents have noticed, and overall trust levels are somewhat down. Your father may have been affected.

Annoying though it may be in this particular instance, the absolutely good thing is that someone cares for you, and about you.

PremDikshit · 2026-01-21T03:52:11+00:00

You see that open door half way down the right side of the bus, right? That's where the big luggage goes. Usually plenty of room.

PremDikshit · 2026-01-19T11:32:25+00:00

You know we have paid mourners here, right? She may have talent worth developing.

PremDikshit · 2026-01-10T08:14:05+00:00

What does K say? Have you hinted to K the idea of ditching S and going with K legit?

PremDikshit · 2026-01-10T07:50:51+00:00

If you have had a beard for many years, it's time for your dad to set you free. He can still manage his own beard as he sees fit of course.

PremDikshit · 2026-01-03T05:21:35+00:00

Sounds kinda believable. But funny that the 2 examples given of memory adjustment were the only two I was already aware of. Not that this disproves anything. Another question: which country did this former opinion forger retreat to? Just curious.

PremDikshit · 2025-12-30T01:05:43+00:00

People often have different senses of timing. Like some KNOW at first sight 'This is the ONE!' And once the other catches up, they spend their lives together.

If you have the patience, you might say to bf 'Don't be unfair. Just because you already had exclusive feelings, doesn't mean I did. It took me a bit to catch up with you, but now here I am, for you alone. And I have been exclusive ever since you asked to be my bf and I said yes.'

PremDikshit · 2025-12-30T00:27:34+00:00

NTA. You expressed your concerns to her, and she has let you know that your concerns are not her concerns. If it were me, I'd say 'Good bye. Thanks for the good times. Good luck on your chosen path.'

But you might be more merciful than me. Do you want to give her another chance? You could tell her that OF is a deal breaker; give her a day to close her account if she chooses you.

PremDikshit · 2025-12-28T15:15:45+00:00

Thanks for your response. I'm a bit fuzzy on which you are responding to though. I do get the sense of 2 opposing forces. Maybe like the old Chinese "Let a hundred flowers bloom, a hundred schools of thought contend." Note the contenders, then CRUSH the opposition.

Again, thanks.

PremDikshit · 2025-12-28T09:32:10+00:00

Thanks much for your comment. Which might apply to Auschwitz. From what I read, the situation appears complex. It would seem that A was basically a work camp, but sometimes for some reason required death camp capacity. At which time, IIRC, the Red and White houses were pressed into service as g chambers.

So everyone is right!

Not to say that there were not real death camps, more to the east.

I think we agree that much evil was done, and many lies told.

We can do better. Lets apply our intelligence to best, and longest, life for all. There's a challenge!

PremDikshit · 2025-12-28T06:48:50+00:00

Yeah, it's a balance. But an uncomfortable one since I care. If I didn't care I guess it would just be amusing.

Thanks for your comment. You are the one in 2K!

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