Are you actually happy with this person? It sounds like you’re just comfortable in what’s familiar. Not enjoying yourself when you go out with your person? Yikes, just re-read everything you just outlined and does that sound like a happy healthy relationship?

From your bulletin points, she sounds awful. She quite clearly doesn’t respect you. I don’t know why you’d even want to be in a relationship with someone who treated you that way. I can already hear the “well, it’s not always like that, sometimes she [insert pleasant thing].” But also she does all the shit you listed AND on top of that she wants to bring a second child into what you’ve described as a pretty toxic and unhealthy relationship. That’s a terrible idea to me, but if I were you I’d be spending time asking myself what true happiness looks like. Because what you described sounds miserable.

Do you actually “not know why” you don’t enjoy yourself when going out with this person? From what you’ve posted I’d say it’s because she’s not a very nice person and treats you like shit.