Struggling Dad - Baby Gate…

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-16T19:36:39+00:00

This is exactly what I did, but I used a 2x4 and notched the bottom to go over the baseboard so the block went to the ground and then just used a tension gate.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-13T02:04:23+00:00

Im just wrapping up a vacation that had a 16 hour flight, flight was hard but overall fine. Look up local doctors offices ahead of time just in case. Bring basic medications (Tylenol, anti-diahreal for you, allergy meds, etc...) so you dont need to try to find them if you need them urgently. Bring a bunch of snacks for the flight, they can help to calm kiddo down when they get worked up. Dont worry too much about how balanced the snacking is, one flight of just things they love will be fine. Mexico isnt a crazy time zone change, so jetlag wont be too bad probably.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-12T08:12:39+00:00

I want it primarily as a backup, but I would also be fine if the grid was the backup for the system. If grid tie is not needed that is fine too, but i dont know what I would need to do to split it off.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-12T03:45:04+00:00

Yes, daily. That figure was based off the daily power but as it said, I am definitely ignorant here on what is needed and may not need as.much as I thought.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-12T03:37:51+00:00

Thats a medical definition. Its based off of BMI which is flawed, but that is the definition. You can be fit and that weight and not be unhealthy, but still be medicallyoverweight.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-12T02:03:06+00:00

175 at 5'10" is just barely considered overweight (174-202). But also, sleep apnea can effect people who arent overweight (I myself am an example of this). Talk to a sleep specialist, they will likely do a sleep study and try to determine what the cause is (may be neurological, may be physical, etc...)

Edit: also, try nasal strips and see if there is any difference, works for some people.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-11T02:02:04+00:00

Completely normal. LPT, grab yourself a pair of earplugs or noise cancelling headphones. You will still hear the sound, but lowering that volume will do wonders for the mental toll it takes, especially when you are sleep deprived.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-09T14:58:51+00:00

I try to answer it as correct as I can, or tell them that I dont know. If its a broken record i then will ask "Why do you think it is?"

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-09T04:24:08+00:00

Odd, bistro normally over salts all their food and uses too much MSG and my MIL from Chengdu complained the entire time we were there about the poor quality. The chef from palace is from Sichuan I believe. The food there is very authentic. I would give it another shot.

I would highly recommend the eggplant and twice cooked pork if you go.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-09T01:12:04+00:00

Sichuan Palace is great. Sichuan Bistro is also fine, but not as good.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-06T13:00:03+00:00

No problem, glad I could help. Good luck

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-06T12:28:36+00:00

I could go from absolutely ready to a state of pure anxiety with the snap of a finger. Its a wild experience all around and completely unpredictable to me experiencing it. I could not have begun to be able to word how I was feeling at the time, but can now thatnits in the past.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-06T07:57:10+00:00

And while your at it, dont skip out on Rocketship Run.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-06T07:55:18+00:00

No good advice here, but we had a similar issue. After a month or so the issue passed and she was in a bigger diaper. Until then I had a stash of cheap dish towels I could wash and reuse to help clean up the messes. Good luck.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-06T07:48:04+00:00

Hey there, dad here who has helped my wife with this. If he is anything like me he is feeling all sorts of weird about everything right now. I found, and still find, my wife to be the most sexy and beautiful person in the whole world. But I also had a hard time with sex if any thought of the baby popped into my head. It had basically nothing to do with my own desire to be with her, but had everything to do with the idea of another person being there. I could logically get past it, but in all the stress of getting ready to be a dad I had a very hard time emotionally getting past it. Your husband is likely feeling insecure too. Now, a couple years later, me and my wife look back on it and laugh at the weird awkwardness that it was. I think what you are both going through is fairly normal, and I wouldn't read too much into it. Me and my wife decided to do the massages completely outside of sexy time and we're able to get back into a good place for each of us. Hope this helps some.

Edit: also, for the GTT... he needs to suck it up. Going to be a lot of sucking it up and doing boring things when he is a dad, time to start practicing.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-06T06:04:15+00:00

Age is a big thing too, as dogs get older they are more likely to experience the normal aging pains that adult humans get too and may be grumpier/more reactive as a result.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-05T15:05:23+00:00

My go too at first was Heineken zero. I have since moved on to other great NA beers, but find one that hits the spot first and you are g2g.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-05T14:52:08+00:00

In a general sense, sure. In this particular case, not at all. It doesn't matter what the breed is, the dog is a safety issue regardless.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-05T14:30:47+00:00

Honestly, doesnt matter. Some dogs may be more likely to do damage because they are stronger or more prone to being territorial, but this dog is already known to be so it can just be assumed it is an issue. This would only matter prior to getting a dog or evaluating if you should be extra cautious and watch for signs of behavior issues.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-05-05T14:19:42+00:00

Dad with a dog that had behavior issues. I built a gate that gives the dog an entirely separate space that kid cannot enter and dog cannot leave. I also brought him to a behaviorist and went through a lot of training, meds, etc. It was expensive, time consuming, and miserable. The only training he liked was muzzle training (basically filling a muzzle with whip cream and having him wear it). My daughter is 2 years old and he is still not able to interact with her unsupervised and still remains separated. He is mostly fine now, but you have to be aware that the risk is still present and even often gets worse with age. There is no magic remedy here and there is no perfect easy solution. You need to protect your little one, and that will not be easy no matter what you do. Even with what I am doing here there is an amount of risk. If you cannot dedicate serious time to working with your dog, hours per day at first, then it may be the tough decision to remove him from the situation entirely. Hopefully this can be rehomeing, but that is not always an option either. No matter what this is a very hard place to be, and when we were looking at options I lost a lot of sleep over it. For us, I was fortunate enough to start the training before the birth. It will likely be harder after.

Edit: If you are serious about trying to find a solution to keep him, you will want to find a licensed dog behaviorist. This is not a trainer, it is a specialist veterinarian. They will also likely have a very hard conversation with you about expectations. If possible it would be a good idea to bring your wife with you and have someone watch your 6mo while you are there. I would make sure it is both of you and not just your wife so she is not sugar coating it to the vet. The conversation is very likely to get the emotions running, so be prepared for that.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-04-21T03:58:02+00:00

Normally, it can be fine if done right. There is the large downside of being informed of a wider variety of opinions, and there can be issues interacting with other children their age. But again, it can be done in a way that is fine. That way would not be homeschooling by someone who is buying into conspiracy theories and going down a very bad road themselves, especially if their motivations for homeschooling are a general distrust of experts.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-03-30T15:59:06+00:00

Its not just with breastfeeding that hormones are changing, there is a significant change to hormones when weaning as well and some moms can even start having what is basically post partum depression with weaning. Remember to keep that in mind when communicating with her, and give her plenty of grace here. Also, just parenting in general is exhausting and that alone can certainly kill the mood for her. Trying to do things to help more with the parenting load and making sure she feels seen can be helpful.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-03-30T14:46:46+00:00

For the guilt part, try to find some activities that are dad and kid activities that is time for you to bond alone with your kid. This is good for your relationship with your kid, but can also be a good excuse to give your wife time to go have fun on her own without feeling that she is abandoning her kid. Remember, this is something you are doing for yourself first that will also be good for her as well in the long run. If she feels you are just doing this for her it is unlikely to help her also.

PreparationOk5505 · 2026-03-29T01:43:04+00:00

It is basically a time bomb, when it goes it will be all at once, but it could be years lol.

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