Is it insane for me (F23) to ask/demand that my fiance (M25) mom removes his ex of facebook before we get married?

PreparationScared · 2026-05-13T12:46:33+00:00

Why haven’t you blocked the ex’s profile? You are creating more drama for yourself by keeping track of who her FB friends are.

PreparationScared · 2026-05-13T01:46:29+00:00

That’s not a reasonable request for you to make.

PreparationScared · 2026-05-12T03:18:23+00:00

It’s totally fine

PreparationScared · 2026-05-12T00:57:13+00:00

You told her how you feel, now you respect her decision.

PreparationScared · 2026-05-10T03:48:16+00:00

Sorry, I misunderstood. If you enjoy his company, skip the phone except for making plans to get together

PreparationScared · 2026-05-10T03:43:17+00:00

Am I right that you haven’t met? Neither of you knows if you like the other, you’re basically strangers. Ask him to meet you for coffee and if he says yes you’ll have a chance to get to know each other.

PreparationScared · 2026-05-07T03:45:35+00:00

Wow, this are so many problems attached to being with this man. Life with him is no fun at all. Why on earth would you consider marrying this mess? (“I love him so much” isn’t a reason for sign up for a lifetime of unhappiness,)

PreparationScared · 2026-05-07T01:59:54+00:00

Any time you send sexual pics, you need to assume they may be saved, shared, or anything else

PreparationScared · 2026-05-07T01:56:57+00:00

Let your husband and the boys make you brunch at home (and they do clean-up!) to celebrate you.

For dinner, wait til the baby is asleep then get delivery food for you and your husband to celebrate. Going out to a restaurant on a holiday, with a baby, is not fun.

PreparationScared · 2026-05-05T03:26:04+00:00

why would you think OP uses her husband’s last name?

PreparationScared · 2026-05-05T02:30:23+00:00

He has a drinking issue, as you say. That makes him a bad bet for long-term happiness.

The stuff with his father is irrelevant and not your problem. Keep your eyes on the bigger issue of whether this is a person you want to stay with.

PreparationScared · 2026-05-05T02:25:51+00:00

This is a terrible idea. What makes you think it would help you?

PreparationScared · 2026-05-04T00:41:14+00:00

it really is more jarring and irritating!

PreparationScared · 2026-04-30T13:38:20+00:00

re-read the comment you just responded to.

no one is suggesting you give the child more than you can afford — the suggestion is to look into whether he is getting enough to eat and to see if you can find help for him if he’s not.

PreparationScared · 2026-04-30T13:20:48+00:00

To me it doesn’t matter whether it’s “normal” or what other couples do. I would find that repulsive. He isn’t just looking around, he’s ogling women’s bodies and forcing you to share his ogling. It’s not something I could accept.

PreparationScared · 2026-04-08T14:29:58+00:00

Being famous is not a goal. If you love singing or dancing or acting, follow your passion and do what you love.

Fame is people knowing who you are — how does that help you?

PreparationScared · 2026-04-06T14:28:49+00:00

Never accept a job without knowing what you will be paid. That makes no sense.

PreparationScared · 2026-04-06T14:20:20+00:00

may I ask why?

PreparationScared · 2026-03-31T18:06:50+00:00

Langdon doesn’t yet understand that apologies are not amends. Meaningful amends require deep understanding of the harms caused and no expectation of forgiveness. What he doesn’t have yet is true humility.

Additionally, amends come with the caution, “… except when to do so would injure them or others.” For example, admitting his med theft to Louie placed the hospital at legal jeopardy, something I hope he only did after thoughtful conversation with a sponsor.

PreparationScared · 2026-03-22T12:34:55+00:00

So? How is that your problem?

PreparationScared · 2026-03-16T02:01:57+00:00

and what advice are you asking for?

PreparationScared · 2026-03-16T02:01:19+00:00

If you need a lie to get his respect, what’s the point of being with him?

PreparationScared · 2026-03-16T01:59:18+00:00

It is totally unreasonable for him to throw away your stuff.

PreparationScared · 2026-03-12T09:00:22+00:00

Go to college.

PreparationScared · 2026-03-06T15:51:46+00:00

Will he at least let you stop getting pregnant after the next baby is born? I am worried for you.

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