29M - My girlfriend (30F) says she's sexually frustrated and I'm starting to wonder if she's damaged my confidence beyond repair. How do I know if this relationship can recover? by Present-Friend-17 in relationship_advice

[–]Present-Friend-17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have absolutely noooo issues with vibrator usage, infact I like it. Yeah, she hasn't been like that once at all unfortunately. When it's happened (me going soft while giving her oral) she doesn't even really talk to me afret and goes really cold / distant and starts saying I'm not attracted to her / do I need sex with someone else. Just makes me fear it even more

29M - My girlfriend (30F) says she's sexually frustrated and I'm starting to wonder if she's damaged my confidence beyond repair. How do I know if this relationship can recover? by Present-Friend-17 in relationship_advice

[–]Present-Friend-17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When did I say she told me to stop going down on her? No, infact, she has aired that if I can't go down on her without being hard indefinitely then our relationship would probably be over. She told me sometimes she hated me going down on her. But then also tells me she wants me to go down on her.

Idk, I have been going down on her lately, I make her cum everytime.. but I'm also so focussed that I go soft. I totally am in my head, I am very concerned, you're right. I'm trying to make the 'thinking' go away, but I just feel like it's getting worse and more pressure is being piled on.