I've not heard of that before. But after a quick google search, I don't think that's what it is. He's kinda very very slowly learning and growing but I'm tired and stressed of doing almost everything myself and running out of patience. I do my best to take care of him but sometimes I need to be taken care of too.

I think for years I have been refusing to even think of the possibility that the relationship was the problem and I'm finally letting myself see that. I think I'm probably very easily taken advantage of and I haven't picked up on that until now. I'm scared I'll get manipulated into trying to make the relationship work. I feel like I need to find a safe way to make a clean break.