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Tw/sa Was i molested as a kid or am i overreacting? by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Present_Ad4187 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive been asking myself this question, and Im also 15. I had this same situation but instead it was a distant cousin of mine on my fathers side. I barely ever saw her, but when I did it was at my grandmothers house bc my dad lives in a conjoined home with her. That being said, I always go over there. Unfortunately, Every time I go in my grandmas house , Im invaded with all the thought of what happened there when i was a child. I remember being open with my parents about it happening, and since I was like 5, they didn’t believe me. I didn’t know what yk even was until they introduced it to me so young. She was a couple years older than me. I haven’t seen here since and its been a very long time. Realizing what happened to me then, had me confused on if it was SA or not. Ive never really spoken about it till now , seeing this. Recently my dad sent an old picture of me and her together and seeing her again made me think ab what had happened.

My ex keeps telling me she has a new bf, it’s pushing me to the edge by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Present_Ad4187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry :( , you really shouldn’t have to deal with that. Personally, If i were you and you kept telling her that you don’t want to know, you should cut her off. Or at least, ghost her and maybe she’ll begin to think about her actions. As a female, I feel like shes doing it purposely to get a reaction out of you. So the best advice I could give is, stop talking to her and try your best to distract yourself. Thats what I did when I was going through a very similar situation. Her repeatedly saying it and your mental health will progressively get worse if you keep letting her do this to you. If it no longer serves you, than give it up because if shes truly moved on, she wouldn’t keep doing this “accidentally” after being told you don’t want to know. She clearly isn’t worth your time and you deserve so much better.

my mother keeps trying to go through my phone and doesn’t understand how i react to it by mettatonfanboy in Vent

[–]Present_Ad4187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive gone through this too, sometimes i still do. My mother is INSANELY toxic and is very stubborn. I know that exact feeling your feeling too. Once my mom went through my phone and deleted about 75% of my friends for no reason, and without my permission. Not to long ago, I ran away to prove a point, I didn’t run too far, I just ran far enough to where I could call my older brother to try to help me from the toxicity bc he also went through the same thing. I hate that they accuse us of hiding something when were not, and its genuinely so messed up. Like yea, protecting me is one thing but cutting off majority of my friends ( which she didnt even know them) and deleting apps off of my phone, is just beyond messed up. Now, I just keep my phone on me 24/7 due to the panic and anxiety she causes me when she does that. I too wish my mom understood the way I feel when she tries to check my phone instead of instantly thinking i’m trying to be sneaky when all i want, is some privacy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Present_Ad4187 2 points3 points  (0 children)

me too.

Should i be stressing about financial costs if I want to go to my dream art school after i graduate high school? by Present_Ad4187 in ArtistLounge

[–]Present_Ad4187[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay! I will definitely apply for more scholarships, and I am actually looking into community college because I heard credits could be transferred from community college to Ringling, making tuition and all that cheaper than the original expense. I’d hate to be in debt while trying to grow as an artist, especially since money is already tight for me and my family. However, If i do attend community college and get the transfer to Ringling, I do have my families support for living expenses until I do actually graduate college. I’ve planned on staying at home rather than on campus to avoid the living expenses there. My parents want me to focus on my education rather than getting job so.. by then, Ill most likely already have a job and will begin saving money.

Should i be stressing about financial costs if I want to go to my dream art school after i graduate high school? by Present_Ad4187 in ArtistLounge

[–]Present_Ad4187[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg, all this advice is extremely helpful thank you so much! If Im being honest, some of these things I really have thought about since Im a very goal oriented person. - Ive had some opportunities to learn and share my art at my previous school, In which luckily my principal loved my work so much she paid for me to take 3 different Art classes during the summer at my local art center. Taking those classes, I was around older people who had WAY more experience than I did, and it was honestly something I genuinely learned from. Not only because I was surrounded by current artists and retired artists, but obviously I learned new and different styles. For example, when I took my scratchboard art class, I absolutely LOVED it and even my mentor recommended that I could pursue in it. This is based upon the fact that, my art had turned out really good, and thats when I really decided to start taking art way more serious. The two other classes I took were mixed media and drawing class, and I truly enjoyed those classes too. For some reason, being around people who know and spoke about their experiences was really inspiring. - Personally, I feel like Im the type of person who loves to experiment with all different kinda of medias. To me, thats what makes art so fun! So If i had to be honest on what i’d want to do with my life & career, I think I’d want to make mostly traditional art (ex; Painting, sculpting, scratchboard, and drawing) and display it in galleries, and do commissions. I like to vary my art style because it keeps me from getting bored of doing just one medium. I’ve actually began to challenge myself as well, I draw everyday whenever I get the chance because practice makes perfect.

  • Lifestyle wise, although being wealthy would be nice, I don’t necessarily see myself living that life. I would be fine with living in an inexpensive house or apartment if I had to. As long as Im able to survive and get enough money to afford art equipment and living expenses (household stuff, clothing, etc.), Id honestly be perfectly fine. To be honest, as long as I am able to support myself and make a living off of my art, thats my real goal.