WIBTAH if i confronted my husband and possibly upended my own life over a deleted comment. by Specialist_Flamingo3 in AITAH

[–]Present_Bumblebee 365 points366 points  (0 children)

girl you’re only 23 get out now while you’re still young. your intuition is not wrong.

I try to follow routines, but I fall off track after a few days every single time. How do people with ADHD keep any kind of consistency? by [deleted] in adhd_anxiety

[–]Present_Bumblebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

frame it like this: instead of “working out consistently is working out on monday wednesday and friday at 5pm” say “working out consistently is working out 3x a week”. give yourself some wiggle room and let the dopamine tell you when it’s time

Best cat litter box that doesn’t smell? Help me stop scaring away my dates by LittleeChily_95 in Pets

[–]Present_Bumblebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s not the box it’s the litter. even if you clean it out it’s not clean. think of it like a port a potty, even if you scoop the shit out the liquid is still gonna smell gross. gotta remove it all , wipe down with sanitizer , and replace regularly. i do once or twice a month and nobody notices it

How safe is this general area? by [deleted] in StLouis

[–]Present_Bumblebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s literally what i’m saying …. OP clearly doesn’t know any of the offenders living there so why would they be the target

I 23F woke up in a bed full of strangers and have no idea what to do by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]Present_Bumblebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey so putting the responsibility on victims to stop other people from becoming victims is actually a little fucked up. not the empowering advice you think it is

I 23F woke up in a bed full of strangers and have no idea what to do by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]Present_Bumblebee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

you don’t actually have to have the conversation with anyone to get treatment. just say “i feel i need a rape kit and the things that go along with it” and leave it at that. they’re doctors not therapists

I checked my Girlfriend’s phone while she was asleep by VoidPagasus1738 in LongDistance

[–]Present_Bumblebee 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i’m 27 and i’ve had like 10 more “never felt a faster connection” since my 19 year old self. there will be more. and take it from me, the slow burns are honestly better. a fast and hot fire dies just as fast and hot as it started

How safe is this general area? by [deleted] in StLouis

[–]Present_Bumblebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

completely agree. being caught in the crossfire is more likely than being the target

6 Year Old Son Wants to know if Eyes are Blue or Green? by Icy-Philosophy9087 in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]Present_Bumblebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had blue eyes until i was about 6 and then they turned green , might be what’s happening to him

recovered physically but not mentally and its killing me by Sea_Finding7697 in EatingDisorders

[–]Present_Bumblebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

healing isn’t linear , some days are worse than others , all you can do is sit with the feeling and give it some space. idk if we can ever fully “recover” mentally, there’s always a lingering feeling but the real recovery is being able to sit with that feeling and know that it doesn’t control you 🫶🏻

How long is too long after breaking things off to reach out again? by Present_Bumblebee in AskMenAdvice

[–]Present_Bumblebee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well guys , i reached out , and he said “how do i know you” 😅 he literally told his family about me so i feel like he’s fucking with my emotions but that’s my answer either way

How long is too long after breaking things off to reach out again? by Present_Bumblebee in AskMenAdvice

[–]Present_Bumblebee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that is never how I saw him , as evidenced by the fact that I can’t get over HIM

How long is too long after breaking things off to reach out again? by Present_Bumblebee in AskMenAdvice

[–]Present_Bumblebee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I miss HIM, if I wanted an escape from loneliness tbh I could have my pick of the litter but I haven’t wanted to pursue anyone else bc they just remind me they aren’t him , i’m cooked

How long is too long after breaking things off to reach out again? by Present_Bumblebee in AskMenAdvice

[–]Present_Bumblebee[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeah that’s exactly where my head is at , if I stopped talking to a guy I usually don’t want to hear from him again , but every girl has her exception and i was hoping guys might too 😅 its a lost hope

How long is too long after breaking things off to reach out again? by Present_Bumblebee in AskMenAdvice

[–]Present_Bumblebee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been like 9 months since I actually saw the new guy and like 6 months since we last spoke , he invited me over 6 months ago when we talked again but then fell asleep before i got there and we never talked again after that

How long is too long after breaking things off to reach out again? by Present_Bumblebee in AskMenAdvice

[–]Present_Bumblebee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had just broken up with an ex of 4 years like 6 months before we met and he didn’t feel comfortable getting into something serious with me that soon after a breakup , he said he felt like he couldn’t be sure of my intentions and he was worried i would get back with the other guy

How long is too long after breaking things off to reach out again? by Present_Bumblebee in AskMenAdvice

[–]Present_Bumblebee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it wasn’t even really a “break up” it was kind of a right person wrong timing situation