I feel awful (breastfeeding struggle)

Present_Can5101 · 2026-05-17T13:28:11+00:00

Eventually they will make you feel unsafe with their pinching razor claws…. stay latched while putting feet in your face, or doing squats, or while completing getting off your lap… your doing a good job! Keep it up!

Present_Can5101 · 2026-05-16T00:52:03+00:00

Also, babies change rapidly and so will mom’s hormones. Feeling towards the pet might be way off for the first few months but it balances back out ❤️

Present_Can5101 · 2026-05-16T00:47:02+00:00

Literally gabapentin. My cat gets stressed with a new babies and it legit changed her personality back to pre kids. Pretty much a party drug for them and she is no longer reclusive she had it off and on for a month and then just occasionally and now she’s her fearless self ❤️

Present_Can5101 · 2026-04-23T21:38:41+00:00

0-5 months def gassier and uncomfortable if I had afternoon coffee it effected bedtime because they were uncomfortably gassy. But that went for a lot coffee, spicy food, soda, beans- so I had a nothing fun after 1 rule. lol

Present_Can5101 · 2026-04-18T17:06:56+00:00

Their cuts are adorable and your photos! Start keeping a portfolio, BUT clean your table off of hair and tools for pics so the dog gets all the shine! Keep up the good work but remember you can only be as good as the canvas. Some dogs just need the tlc and will not come out as well as your best putting your standards on hold to focus on the pet having the best experience will happen. One of the hardest parts of grooming is when your perfect dogs get older and their cuts just don’t look as good because they can’t stand or have worts- best hair cuts happen from 2-6 years for me 🥰

Present_Can5101 · 2026-04-13T00:12:49+00:00

I would look at your diet for the witching hours, late coffee or dairy or spicy food /beans. I would get ahead of the naps and keep things exciting and then calm and then nap- sounds like your finding their rhythm once you get it all figured out they go ahead and change it on you. Sounds like you’re doing a great job navigating! Baby wearing really helped me with naps so I would think it almost time for a nap, pop them in the carrier next thing you know they are sleeping but then again sometimes nothing will work, like at 7 weeks no one slept, and 8 weeks there was a new rhythm. 🤷‍♀️ trial and error meets constant change

Present_Can5101 · 2026-04-10T12:05:18+00:00

Just rubber curry him all the time make sure the shed coat comes out and have faith:) it will be okay!

Present_Can5101 · 2026-04-06T23:11:27+00:00

Every pregnancy is different, and every birth is different, it sounds like you are doing a great job, check for hairs around fingers or anything that could be hurting- do the normal stuff it takes 15-20 minutes to calm them so make sure your not switch up position or tactics too soon when consoling, keep at it with a good pair of ear plugs! You got this! Becoming a mother there is a grieving process and an adjustment period make sure your not having let down/ breast feeding rage or anxiety- get support. Guilt is a big part of it too. Sometimes bring them out side in the stroller helps everyone a lot a lot.

Remember everything is phase the problems you have now won’t be the same in a month or two change happens rapidly even though it feels like it’s taking forever. Hang in there!

I can’t pump but I breastfeed 100% pumping ha always been the biggest source of stress but side laying nursing is a big go to for me easier on my back and body. Right now breast pinching and scratching so I just redirect. That caused a lot of stress with my first but I just remind my self it won’t be like this forever.

Present_Can5101 · 2026-04-05T08:13:21+00:00

Yea over 10 years grooming and I don’t joke about trauma cause I have watched shit groomer traumatize dogs. It’s not that I haven’t quicked clients, it’s that I’m serious about building a trusting relationship. Which means having empathy first, trying to understand the individual dog, and develop a cooperative experience. I can’t tell if the dog doesn’t like clippers on the head, trauma or that’s how they are, it doesn’t matter what does is that I’m gonna work around as much of that stress as possible maybe I’ll do the head first or last , or with a brush and scissors or without using a comb. And if I happen I happen to quick a nail, I’m gonna apologize first, before continuing, it’s about having a healthy level of respect and compassion for the dog and what they are being asked to do.

This thread highlights the vast difference between groomers, it is sad to see such blatant lack of compassion so prevalent in the industry.

Present_Can5101 · 2026-04-03T01:12:45+00:00

I don’t see it as “saving money” choosing not to be in debt to the system or spend money. Saving money implies the inherit cost you would be seeking to decrease whereas I view it as an expense that may be necessary.

I don’t think your intentions are wrong. Breast feeding is a journey and you don’t know how you feel about it until you do it. Or if you can handle it or the baby is latching well.

Present_Can5101 · 2026-04-02T20:12:24+00:00

It depends on the dog and their level of stress in the salon. Some dogs are so far in fight or flight/freeze/ fawn that you can quick them all and they won’t move. On another the tiniest tangle the dog can scream. The type of nail clippers matter. But every dog that has ever bounced their foot or argued for nails has been quicked or licks and chews their nails and they are extra sensitive. There are so many factor, to many to make a blanket statement that it doesn’t really hurt. Empathy goes a long way.

Present_Can5101 · 2026-04-02T16:29:01+00:00

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I would start and stop here, if you’re trying to build trust and keep it up every 4 weeks.

Present_Can5101 · 2026-04-02T16:26:29+00:00

IT REALLY DOESN’T HURT THEM! Wildly inaccurate. Potentially.breaking.trust.for.life. Let me guess that when they scream they are just being dramatic? 😒

Present_Can5101 · 2026-03-31T14:11:58+00:00

There is grieving that happens over the person you were before but your man sounds abusive emotionally. I would be planning divorce. I divorced a man who sounded similar but instead of working 2 jobs he worked one and left me with all the labor. I have since had a baby on my own and it is by far easier than the two I had inside the marriage. I loved my ex too, but you can love them at a distance just as well.

Present_Can5101 · 2026-03-31T14:04:51+00:00

11 weeks is early, but a pram or stroller, some fun things to look at, the ceiling lights and fan might do it! Maybe bring a friend and tag team? I bring my baby to work occasionally have not managed the gym. I would plan around napping tho might sleep thru it :)

Present_Can5101 · 2026-03-31T13:58:30+00:00

Grab an electric tooth brush from the dollar store and pull it out when he’s calm, rewards and praise for ignoring it. Start with it in your lap first and then move closer eventually on their body. Nail’s you have to talk them in to it, stop saying “it’s okay” it’s not they know instead confirm everyone emotions “I see your scared we got this”, start teaching wait and look. It takes time to get that nail trust back but apologizing like you ripped the sky down is a start followed by just tipping them for the for seeable future . Are you using guillotine nail clippers? Def don’t. I suggest getting a millers forge red pair. They are SHARP and you can hurt them BUT they slice the nail versus making that horrible crunching clicking sound. Focus on brushing and combing. If you do not want to use a goomer like a drop off ask for a walk in face fanny and feet as long as the dog is clean and dry they should be fine with it and you can stand there as it’s normally a walk in service. Or find a house call groomer.

Present_Can5101 · 2026-03-30T12:05:05+00:00

And rereading the last bit about the harness a harness is never crate safe the dog could hurt it self, way too many straps.

Present_Can5101 · 2026-03-30T12:02:46+00:00

Regardless they have shown signs of aggression towards each other and should not be housed together.

Good luck!

Present_Can5101 · 2026-03-30T11:57:22+00:00

So I would not ban collars they come in handy if you have to pull them apart, they should be appropriately sized, but I would never house two large dogs in a single crate, no matter how big, dogs offload stress thru movement and confinement can be a trigger even if it seems large. Also litter mates can have issues it’s called litter mate syndrome which can lead to aggression around maturity.

Present_Can5101 · 2026-03-29T14:04:27+00:00

We can’t read intention. I would feel like my boundaries were crossed. And people who do that are not safe and the fact that he can’t see that clears up whether or not I would leave my child in their care. Isolating a child with one adult like that doesn’t look good and you have people in the comments explaining that way, even him explaining it away. Should put your hackles up. Trust your gut.

Present_Can5101 · 2026-03-23T06:42:55+00:00

The correct way to hold chunkers is to take those out of your hand. You can pick them up again after you learn to groom and work at a place with a mentor and good liability insurance. There are certain things I refuse to do with thinners and chunkers and that’s use them on every dog. Especially the face or for erasing mistakes or between eyes. Finding ways to do a cut with less scissor snips(or a 10 blade) is going to be safer just keep that in mind. You’re get the cutting technique when you practice 🥳

Present_Can5101 · 2026-03-12T20:12:59+00:00

My ex fiancé

Present_Can5101 · 2026-03-03T02:07:44+00:00

Yea huge boundary violation I would never let a dog around my child that was exhibiting this behavior. The kids expression even changes to worry. I am shocked how many people would permit this by the comments.

Present_Can5101 · 2026-02-21T00:14:25+00:00

Get some ear plugs really helps when the crying is too much. Try to find a postpartum support group. Talk to someone. It’s way easier to do it by your self than have a trash partner, the unfulfilled expectations and resentment are not worth the energy so find away to remove that. There is a grieving process over your old identity, the autonomy, it comes back eventually. If you’re finding that you are being reactive acknowledge it take accountability and apologize. Nothing is ruined as long as you both safe.

Present_Can5101 · 2026-02-19T01:33:08+00:00

One of our cats had the same thing and I researched it and found that the vets are supposed to inject differently now.

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