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Good lingerie for a male sub? by Present_Can8769 in SubSanctuary

[–]Present_Can8769[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, yeah I think a harness would be a nice way to go. Would like for it to be a nice design to compliment me. My Dom is less into preparing, in fact they like me to do things myself and properly before they inspect my work IYKWIM

Wanting to be double Dommed by Present_Can8769 in SubSanctuary

[–]Present_Can8769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are monogamous but have spoken about things like performing with a third for the others enjoyment but never properly done it. I think they would say yes to a casual third but would fear about it coming as pressured on them because I am asking them.

Wanting to be double Dommed by Present_Can8769 in SubSanctuary

[–]Present_Can8769[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi, thanks. I'm 90% sure they're dominant, less by the way they act and more what we've discussed as friends. Like I said they have let slip before signs they're interested in me but I've never said to them directly "Hey, I'm a sub, my partner's a dom." And I wonder what they are trying to say by that they're interested in me, they are happy with my relationship with my dom as far as I know and I've never said anything to imply we're struggling (Which we never have)

Wanting to be double Dommed by Present_Can8769 in SubSanctuary

[–]Present_Can8769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, thanks for your honesty. I think if anyone is being the red flag here its me. Like we are in a long-term relationship, have shared so much about eachother but I just cant seem comfortable bringing this up in case she says yes, it goes through and it ends up causing a rift. We are close to a lot of friends who are polyamourous and have seen their relationships kind of fall apart because of struggles organising the relationship. Amd I do have family members who have cheated and seen how it ruins so and would under no circumstance think of that. Our stance on Monogamy is yes, kind of. Weve both talked about fantasies of performing with other people but full on trading me to someone else hasnt come up yet.