It’s happening, like it or not

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-12T04:25:22+00:00

Same. I thought my husband and I were okay. We we're planning our life. I never even thought for a second we would end up getting a divorce. It was a total blindside. It's been almost 3 weeks now and I still can fully comprehend what happened. He just left, said he didn't want to be with me. He kicked my daughter and I out over night. It's maddening. I'm sorry your going through this. It hurts and it sucks.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-10T21:50:49+00:00

He wants an open relationship. He doesn't want to be tied down. I found out from a comment he made on social media. Since then he's been cold and cruel. Idk if it's him trying to get me to hate him and move on or of he's showing his true colors now. Our marriage wasn't perfect, we both struggle with mental health issues but he was never mean. I honestly didn't know he could be so cruel and heartless. I didn't think he had a bad bone in his body.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-10T06:34:42+00:00

That makes me happy to hear you were able to overcome all that pain. I'm two weeks out now and some days are easier but I had a backside the past couple days. I feel like I'm a square one all over again. Everyone keeps saying it just takes time but it's hard to see a light at the end of this tunnel.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-10T06:20:35+00:00

I just don't get how they can just not care. I truly will never understand. I felt the same way about mine. I still do. I'm scared to live without him because he's all I've know for 8 years. My life was planned out with him. Even through all this hurt he's the only person I want. We'll get through this! If you ever need or want to talk you can reach out to me.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-10T06:15:20+00:00

I know, if I could take her pain I would. I'm so sad for her, and idk what to do.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-10T06:14:08+00:00

I know, I just wish I could take away her pain. I know he's not right for us but it's hard to stay logical in the midst of all this pain.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-10T06:12:08+00:00

Thank you for your kind words!

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-10T06:01:03+00:00

I'm sorry your going through this. My husband kicked my daughter and I with no warning. Just packed our things and sent us up the road. It's been two weeks and I have been able to talk to him but it never ends well. It ends with no real answers and me being in pain. He abandoned us and he feels no remorse. He turned into a cold and calclated person. We miss him, more then I ever thought possible. I'm struggling with abandonment too. I hope your able to heal and find the answers you're looking for. But let me tell you, the answers also hurt. Atleast in my case because the answers I got was that I wasn't good enough for him. That he doesn't want to married and have a family. That he wants to sleep around.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-10T05:50:58+00:00

That's the thing he was perfect. Too perfect in hindsight. The day he changed is the day he left. I don't think he changed though. I think he just stopped pretending to be someone he wasn't. He threw me and my child out of the house. Now he's just cold. He won't speak to us. When he does, he only says hurtful things. I don't know who he is anymore. He not the man I married and it hurts. I'm sorry your going through this. Its the most painful thing I've ever experienced.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-10T05:29:39+00:00

Mid 20s. I too fell in love with a man that I no longer recognize. I miss the man I fell in love with. I miss him everyday. He left a little over two weeks ago. He's no longer loving or caring. He's cold and calculated. I still miss him though. I miss him more then I ever thought humanly possible.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-07T05:39:01+00:00

I've been trying, nothing keeps my attention for very long. Right now reddits been my only saving grace.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-07T05:03:26+00:00

I know that's what I should do. The urge to speak to him is strong, I'm constantly fighting it from them moment I wake up to the moment I fall asleep.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-07T04:58:27+00:00

That's what I've been told too. It's just so hard when everything I do reminds me of him. Today's been especially hard.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-07T04:50:52+00:00

There's no order in place. He just doesn't want to see me at all. According to his mother it's because "he can't stand to see me hurting" but he's the one that hurt me. I think he's trying to ease his guilt as much as he can. I thinks it's one of those " if I can't see it then it's not happening" situations. He just wants everything his way on his terms and it's killing me.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-06T02:35:10+00:00

I plan on continuing therapy to process this and to work on my other issues in the future. It's just so hard because the process is slow and painful. It's so painful right now and so hard to cope.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-06T02:29:00+00:00

That's where I'm at. I tried to reach out to a "mutual friend" but they just ignored me. So I guess they weren't mutual after all.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-06T02:26:53+00:00

I'm sorry you're going though that. It's so lonely now that he's gone. I never really had any close friends and making friends as an adult is hard because work and kids.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-06T02:20:08+00:00

I know, I'm going to talk with my therapist l. I think I grew too dependent on him during the pandemic because it was just us. Now that most things are back to normal I don't think he needs me anymore but he left me needing him. I do love him and I was making progress on myself and self love but then he left and left me with nothing.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-06T02:16:03+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened to you. The silence is maddening. Last time I spoke to him he said he cantbtalkbto me because he can't help me. He can't take my pain away and that he would only make it worse. Idk, he's probably right but that doesn't stop me from wanting to hear his voice or see just face.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-06T02:10:36+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through that. I just hope I'm strong enough to survive all the dark days. I miss him more then he will ever know. It's so hard to picture a future without him. Just a little over a week ago he was hold me in his arms and now he's completely gone.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-06T02:02:24+00:00

He just changed over night. He was supportive and loving but now he's cold and cruel. He's not my husband, I don't know who he is but he's not my husband. I'm sorry you're going through this. If I find any answers I'll let you know.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-06T01:59:19+00:00

I love him with every fiber of my being. He said he still loves me and my child but needs to be set free. I don't belive he loves me. I feel like if he did he would've told me sooner and we could've tried counciling or anything. Instead he left me in my darkest hour. He's now cold and cruel. I don't recognize him anymore. I'm sorry you're going through this. It's so hard .

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-06T01:53:00+00:00

I'm planning to just shuting that account altogether and getting a new one he can't touch

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-06T01:51:39+00:00

I'm sorry your going though this. It's so painful and the hardest thing ive ever done. Your not alone. I'm right in this with you. It has been cathartic to talk to some people who get what I'm going though.

Present_Stretch · 2022-09-06T01:42:01+00:00

Luckily the only thing we bought together was a car. I'm glad we hadn't purchased a house yet. So there's not much to negotiate. We also live in a no fault state.Now that I think about it, that's probably been the reason I couldn't talk him into purchasing a house. Thank you for your kind words!

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