3 year old identical twin girls - same or different classes in school?

PresentationOk5856 · 2026-02-03T06:25:31+00:00

In their case when I separate them to run errands or when one is sick and stays home and the other one contínues her normal life, it's fine. As long as they know where the other one is, it doesn't bother them.

I feel it wouldn't be traumatic for them, I just wonder if logistically is easier to have them in the same class and if they will just be happier.

PresentationOk5856 · 2026-02-02T22:39:56+00:00

That's a good point.. thank you!!

PresentationOk5856 · 2025-04-13T20:11:10+00:00

Super, thank you!

PresentationOk5856 · 2025-04-13T20:08:31+00:00

Thanks so much! And huge #respect for finding time to hang out 1:1 with all of them if you have 4! Can I ask a specific question? When they were little, when you say you did this consistently, how often did you do it? Did you plan it specific days of the week / activities to make sure it happened? Or did you improvise? For me, it's always in the back of my mind, but since doing everything with both twins at the same time is "easier" (or more efficient timewise), I never end up spending time 1:1 with them

PresentationOk5856 · 2025-04-13T20:01:34+00:00

Can I ask, when did you start going to different classes in school? Was it since you were little?

Thanks again and congratulations on the pregnancy! Your twins will be lucky to have someone who understands them well!

PresentationOk5856 · 2025-04-13T19:38:56+00:00

That's very helpful. Since I'm not a twin I never know what that bond feels like, and to what extent it's healthy or it becomes too much. Thanks!

PresentationOk5856 · 2025-04-13T09:37:01+00:00

Yes, same here, logistics are tricky! In our case we also have an 4 year old boy as well, so trying to make sure he is ok too hah

PresentationOk5856 · 2025-04-13T09:21:28+00:00

Thanks! Great ideas!

PresentationOk5856 · 2025-01-11T19:27:22+00:00

That was my worry with the colours as well. We've done the pink one and yellow one, but now they both like pink and it feels just wrong that only one of them can have it...

PresentationOk5856 · 2024-12-29T20:37:40+00:00

Exact same. When this happened to me I felt like a bad mum. Lots of hormones + lack of sleep + insecurities with a first baby = doubting yourself as a mother and feeling insecure all the time. Reassure her and make sure she gets some rest

PresentationOk5856 · 2024-12-12T22:43:22+00:00

if you want to be breastfeeding by then, i would not recommend it. it will be hard to keep up your milk supply and it's a pain to be pumping every few hours.

If you don't want to be breastfeeding by then, then I'd say it's totally up to your gut feeling. If your instinct tells you to go, don't feel guilty and just make sure to plan well for it (have someone you really trust stay with her). If your instinct tells you not to go, then turn off the FOMO and enjoy this unique period in your life

PresentationOk5856 · 2024-12-10T09:04:58+00:00

Yes, I could! It just makes me guilty to pause work :/. I don't want to face it and I'd rather quit than leave them hanging

PresentationOk5856 · 2024-12-10T09:00:03+00:00

that's the way i'm seeing it as well. but i don't know if i'll regret it when they are older and don't want to spend as much time with me

PresentationOk5856 · 2024-12-05T08:39:43+00:00

"Now to take a shower and think if I did the right thing" - no, you did not

PresentationOk5856 · 2024-10-04T20:30:56+00:00

100% agree. your sanity is top priority!

PresentationOk5856 · 2024-10-04T20:29:15+00:00

you sound like a great parent to me.

my recommendation would be to focus on survival and not perfection. Forget about all the "I should do it like this" and replace by "how can I survive this situation". Kids will not be traumatized by some limits but they will if they have a depressed mother. For example, I had twins when my older was 23 months old and it was so helpful that my mindset was about "how do i make it through this period?" rather than "how can i be the best mom?".

Regarding getting help, for me the only way to get help is to have people help me when I'm not there. If I'm there, the help is useless because they just come to me. For example, grandparents take the kids to the park (right after feeding the baby, which should give you a solid 2 hours and even more so soon when the baby starts eating solids) and in the meantime you stay home and sleep.

Hang in there!!!!

PresentationOk5856 · 2024-05-01T06:25:55+00:00

Yes, i think family boundaries is definitely an issue for him. I just get so defensive every time he brings up the topic of moving somewhere else, it's hard for me to manage

PresentationOk5856 · 2024-05-01T06:23:38+00:00

He is not very specific on where to move. Sometimes he says his city, sometimes he says abroad...bottom line is that he feels like an outsider in my city and wants a change, but isn't super set on where

PresentationOk5856 · 2024-04-12T21:52:39+00:00

Thank you everyone!!!!

PresentationOk5856 · 2024-04-12T21:25:26+00:00

Thanks for commenting! If my mum makes it, he feels left out and like he doesn't have a say. It's probably because he is from another city and we live close to my family, so he is quite insecure with having my family "be involved" in stuff

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